To be peeved when mil tells me I don't feed my children a 'proper' diet?

[PrettyKitty1986]

How annoyed do you get at slights on what you feed your kids? It's the one thing that really has the ability to get to me which is whyI think mil makes the comments she does.
So yesterday the kids ate:
Porridge, banana and orange juice for breakfast
Apple
Homemade pizza with salad for lunch, followed by a large piece of cake
A bowl of frozen peas( still frozen - random to some I know), some slices of Brie and an ice lolly over the afternoon
Chicken dinner with broccoli, swede, carrots and mash, followed by a yoghurt and grapes, and a glass of milk before bed.
Apparently this is not enough proper food for 2 growing boys (aged 4 and 2). Cake, pizza, ice Lollys all in one day! Not to mention feeding them 'uncooked food'
Aibu to want to tell the old goat to mind her own?

Yes. They were right, we didn't know we were born.

We got given sparkling water instead of lemonade until I was about 10 as well. God knows how they pulled that off.

She's wrong, but she has a right to have/express her opinion.

I disagree. She has a right to think whatever she likes about what the OP feeds her children but she doesn't have a right to make crass and unhelpful comments.

Porridge, banana and orange juice for breakfast, apple, home made pizza, brie, peas, tea, milk, grapes - all fab

Huge cake, lolly and yogurt (depending if it has sugar) - too many treats.

right.. so 3 portions of calcium

minimum of 5 potions of fruit and veg..

protein..

sounds ok to me...

did no-one eat peas fresh out of the pod when she was little then?

I like frozen peas..

Yeah, cailin, I would accept it. Child's grandmother, for heaven's sake, not a randomer off the street. Just because someones says something doesn't mean very much.

Frozen peas really? No judgement, I had no idea it was a thing people ate.
Do they thaw first? Otherwise aren't they unpleasant?

Glad to see lots of frozen pea eaters on the thread, my dcs love them too.

I don't eat them (I hate peas) but my dc very often used to nick them out of the bowl when I was making dinner. They eventually started asking for the frozen peas as a snack on their own. If they're asking for veg I'm not about to refuse, if they want them frozen it's up to them. If they thought it was unpleasant they wouldn't do it!

You cannot imagine how jealous I am that your DCs eat like that. I wish my DGC did (food avoidance issues).

Silly woman.

I too am so envious that she had the whole day there!!!Mil's should 'wear beige and zip their lips.'Taught to me by my very dear Mil many years ago..Saves a lot of trouble.Your children's meals were super!

Ooh, DS loves peas and sweetcorn straight from the freezer, will happily eat them as a snack. I thought it was odd that my brother's children did that, tried it out with DS, and never looked back! "Oh, isn't it funny, he likes them frozen!" I say this sometimes with a tinkly laugh, so I seem like a supermother, and not one who gives her son chicken nuggets/fish fingers/hot dogs just to stop him whining like the slummymummy I am :)

Porridge is much better than toast.. Homemade pizza rather than processed food and tinned crap... Never thought of frozen peas for a snack! But I'm with you - YANBU.

I've never tried frozen peas. But I'd rather my dcs had choses them as a snack of choice instead of the bowl of Go-Cat they regularly raided before I realised what they were up to.

Why do people think pizza is unhealthy. Apart from the cheese and perhaps tomato base, I can't think why it would be unhealthy. It's just a whole host of vegetables/meat on a bread base with some tomato sauce. incidentally we're having home made pizza for tea later. I've just made the dough and tomato puree and have all the vegetables ready to put on top. It's not fattening.

Your mil sounds weird.

I agree Fakebook, although I suppose the Chicago town type ons/dripping in oil are unhealthy. The average oven bake ones are fine. Homemade is pretty good really, especially if vegetables on the top (never the case here)

pandemoniaa my 10 month old ds has been caught in the cats bowl 5 times this week...it would seem that he likes purina complete pellets! He also likes fruit and veg too.

I would be happy if my ds asked for veg as a snack when he's older. I don't ser anything wrong with homemade anything as you know what goes into it.

Yanbu!

Loquace

I heard there is a law now in Italy that Mama In Law CANNOT enter her DILS house unless she has permission?

And can also be banned very easily with Asbos and retraining orders. Beacuse the Italian courts recognise this problem and its severity

Is this true.

La queen, that is true!We used to cook the hell out of everything...grey cabbage etc.Say' al dente' in my generation's homes and see the men freak out.Think we liked to prepare dinner from 3pm every day!.Now I relish the ready meals,from the smart supermarket and laugh in the dangerous face of salt and preservatives!!!

Pizza can be unhealthy - the main problem being that portion sizes are often too high (one quarter of a 12 inch pizza is an average adult "portion" for a main meal when looking at Guideline Daily Amounts for instance)

and the bread base usually contains salt, the tomato sauce usually contains salt and toppings of ham and cheese for instance are both usually high in... salt... home made can be just as bad for that as shop bought...

Is this true

Probably, think there was a case recently when MIL had to be forcibly removed from DIL's house after she and he DH split up. IIRC MIL wanted to stay in the house to make sure her DGC were being brought up properly. In fact...I think she just turned up and moved in one day AFTER the split. Wierdness!

Certainly "MIL" can go down on divorce petitions as the cause of the breakdown.

Here you go...whack this through google translate, this is the one I think I was remembering.

www.abruzzo24ore.tv/news/Se-coppia-separata-suocera-via-dalla-casa-della-nuora/105943.htm

heh

This bit made me laugh

" la signora Vincenza, 90 years old from Chieti totally autonomous (could take care of herself) with a rather "determined" character had to leave the house.."

Determined.

I do love a good Italian understatement.

OP, YANBU. But every generation has its own fixed idea of what constitutes a good diet. My Gran, bless her, slags off organic food, saying that in her day every was fresh from the field or garden, no chemicals, etc., and when we tell her gently that that's actually what organic is, she gets all confused. But she is nearly 100, so we now just smile and nod.

I know my MIL thinks I am some sort of anal Breathatarian control freak for not letting my Ds have cake, sweets and biscuits (me and Dh don't have sweet tooths, so they're never in the house, as opposed to us actively denying him) but she doesn't criticise the rest of his diet, thankfully (or she'd get short shrift).

Am really glad to read about all these other kids loving frozen peas. I thought my DS was a bit odd in loving them so much (He generally has slightly unusual tastes, as he prefers things like pongy cheese, garlic, tofu, raw lemon, etc., to chocolate). :)