I could fucking kill him!

[waltermittymistletoe]

SD lives in a different country. She's 18 and wants to come visit with her new boyfriend.

DH started a new job before Christmas and as such has no holiday time to take.

SD emailed last week to say she wanted to come from Saturday to Thursday. DH would be here on the Saturday and Sunday and then in work until 7.30pm for the rest of her stay.

Not only that. I have the school run for two dc at different times. So I won't be around for parts of the day and she can't come with me as there is one spare seat and two of them.

Last week we talked about it and decided that DH would explain the situation and ask her to come from Friday to Sunday (we are paying for flights).

Lo and behold she texts today saying she's booked time off from the Saturday to Thursday because that fucking arsehole never bothered emailing her.

Wtf do I do now?! I have 3 dc under 6 and I don't know what I'm going to do with them alone all week! If it was just SD I wouldn't care. I've often had her when DH had to work.

If this were a one off, fair enough. But he never bothers to phone, text, Facebook her. It's always me. In almost 10 years I've organised all her presents even coordinating with her mum on split gifts even though her mum despises me because she thinks I've come between them!

This is down to DH's behaviour. Nothing to do with me. He's just a lazy bastard when it comes to SD!

I'm so angry. I'll have to fix this and don't know how!

what's this really about,an18yo doesnt need accompany you on school run
why are you so angry and offensive about her.she wants to see her dad,get over it
her dad clearly wants to see her.is that your actual issue?do you feel excluded

Scottishmummy all of your questions are answered in the thread, I can only assume you've just read the OP.

Seabird yes she's always been entertained as there's not really much else to do. I haven't even spoke to her bf before let alone met him! He's quite new on the scene but she's smitten!

read at speed wasn't that apparent if answered or not,wouldn't worry about 18yo
and your posts do have a histrionic quality

Perhaps the OP had as I was stressed at the time. None since though I wouldn't have said.

Perhaps you missed something while speed reading. There's a lot of posts to get through. I suppose it can easily happen :)

good if things have resolved,less hassle
running up Down stairs to finish stuff,reading mn,slurping tea
clearly i missed resolution

17 pub,two shops sounds like mansworld village

What the hell...?

The OP is worried about her SD in the sense that she doesn't want her to be hurt by the lack of interest her DH shows his own daughter and that makes her hysterical?

OP I get where you're coming from, trying to protect your SD and make sure she has a good time while she visits - I have no idea why you're getting this reaction but you sound lovely to me.

Thank you Poppy :)

To be fair it does read as rather hysterical to begin with!

poppy the post,the thread title,yes it is v histrionic
her thread she can be as out there as she wants
but it us funny and bit bulgy eyed

A bit, yes

The OP didn't give the full picture either but I really respect the fact that you're outraged on the behalf of your SD; it must be pretty crap for her to feel Dad doesn't care.

Bulgy eyed? Wtf is that?

Why not let her stay until Tuesday, and bf and sd go into town when your dh goes in the morning, then they can explore the city and meet dh for lunch, and come back with him in the evening?

Hi Pure she's going to come on Friday instead of Saturday and leave Monday.

DH is going to take Friday afternoon and Monday morning off so he can do the airport run as I won't be able to with school.