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AIBU?

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To be a bit miffed that no one has remembered our anniversary?

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phantomhairpuller · 09/01/2013 17:33

We only got married 3 years ago! Out of 100 odd guests, only 2 have wished us happy anniversary!! None of our parents have mentioned it, nor the best man/bridesmaids.
DH thinks I'm being daft but I can't help but feel a bit miffed

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phantomhairpuller · 09/01/2013 20:15

Actually, I do remember people's anniversarys. Don't send a card mind you, unless its a big one, but usually a text or fb message. Maybe that's the problem, I'm a weirdo in the minority and expect everyone else to be like me

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Sanjifair · 09/01/2013 20:17

YABU. The first anniversary, it would be nice if people remembered. After that it would be weird to get a card, unless its from very close family!

WiseKneeHair · 09/01/2013 20:19

I'm sorry, but YABU.
Wedding anniversaries are for you and your DH, no one else.
I find it weird that I get a card from MIL, I would freak out if anyone's else sent me a card.
Do you send anniversary cards to anyone apart from your DH?

WidowWadman · 09/01/2013 20:21

My husband and I forgot our first anniversary, and only remembered when a card from his grandmother arrived. I was actually stunned that anybody would send a card.

You're weird.

ILoveSaladReallyIDo · 09/01/2013 20:24

yes you're wierd
I'd even find texts/FB messages wierd
unless I'd say, said "oh we're going to X for our anniversary" and on bumping into that person on our return they said "did you have a nice anniversary trip?" - that's okay , but people actually remembering our anniversary unpromted I'd find strange!

FredFredGeorge · 09/01/2013 20:25

My MIL sent happy anniversary wishes on our first, it was the only way that my DP noticed the day. I can't understand why anyone would care about my anniversary, or I someone elses, it's not important.

fanoftheinvisibleman · 09/01/2013 20:27

YABU.

My mum always sends us an anniversary card and if I am honest I think it is odd. I think it is for the couple to mark, not others.

acceptableinthe80s · 09/01/2013 20:30

I only send a card to my parents but they deserve it because they've been happily married for 43 years. 3 years is nothing. I know couples who have two anniversaries,the day they got married and the day they met!

Please don't put it on fb, i find the whole wishing your Dh/Dw a happy anniversary on fb a bit odd. I had a friend waxing lyrical about her amazing dh on my news feed today, really just tell your partner no need to announce it to the rest of the world and it makes me a little nauseus.

ILoveSaladReallyIDo · 09/01/2013 20:32

oh some people have more than two anniversaries
some people have 6 month anniversaries too - not quite sure how that works...

DrinkFeckArseGirls · 09/01/2013 20:39

YABU. One of my closest and oldest friends got married, erm few years ago, hmmm, sometime in June. I even flew back to my country esp. fir that. No idea now when it was and I'm not expected to.

melliebobs · 09/01/2013 20:40

As long as your dh remembered I don't think it really matters!

DrinkFeckArseGirls · 09/01/2013 20:42

Definitely a weirdo.

Iamsparklyknickers · 09/01/2013 21:35

You want a card - have a party. You'll get pressies then too

Get planning and you could start a trend for five year anniversary parties! Maybe that's why Seal and his ex renewed their vows every year

Happy anniversary

KeemaNaanAndCurryOn · 09/01/2013 21:39

No one has ever got us an anniversary card. Once the free food and wine was used up, their lives moved on.

duffybeatmetoit · 09/01/2013 21:43

Yabu - it's you and your dh's anniversary not a general cause for celebration.

WileywithSageStuffing · 09/01/2013 22:03

YABU. Give it another 10 years and you'll be grateful if your DH remembers!!!

city1984 · 09/01/2013 22:56

I do understan op to a cerain extent. My mum always sent a card but sadly passed away in 2011. In laws normally sent cards but didn't this time. Sis also upset me as she made a big drama out of us forgetting to send cards (our mum had just died) but never sends cards herself. Sorry being self indulgent. Incidently my chief bridesmaid never got in touch when my mum died do Wouldn't expect anniversary card.

thegreylady · 09/01/2013 23:40

Gosh dh and I struggle to remember our anniversary! I know dd's because she married on her birthday but not any of our other dc and I wouldn't dream of cards after the first :-) It is our silver soon and we will have a do for that-if we remember!

firesidechat · 10/01/2013 09:28

The only card I would expect to get is the one from my husband. Even my grown up children wouldn't remember this date and I don't expect them to. I'm afraid to say that your anniversary is completely irrelevant to everyone else.

YABU.

This is my very first YABU (or YANBU for that matter). Very exciting!

Trills · 10/01/2013 09:30

YABU

Your anniversary is only special to you, not to anyone else.

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