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AIBU?

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to ask how often you have sex?

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alisunshine29 · 09/01/2013 12:55

Was watching This Morning where one woman was saying sex was really important in a relationship and she'd leave her partner if they weren't having sex. The other woman said sometimes her and her husband don't have sex for months but are still happy. How often do you have it? How important is it to you?

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Mimstar · 09/01/2013 12:57

2-3 times a week.

We went through a phase of not doing it at all, and I was ready to leave. I couldn't be in a marriage with no sex. No way.

ibizagirl · 09/01/2013 13:01

Dd is 14 this year. I haven't had ANYTHING since she was born. Honestly. Not interested in a relationship to be honest, although i have had offers!! Sad or what?

valiumredhead · 09/01/2013 13:06

I actually think the woman in the blue dress that was saying in a marriage it ebbs and flows had a really good point - other woman just kept harping on about how the other one had written once that she would rather mop the floor than have sex atm with 5 children and a full time job.

Loved how Holly was so snotty to the woman in the black dress She's getting fiestier that one!

In answer to your OP - completely depends on what is happening in our lives at the time, we have been together 22 years and sometimes we are at it like rabbits and sometimes not as much.

As long as the intimacy is there I am not the interested in numbers tbh.

Allonsy · 09/01/2013 13:07

I watched that, 'we would rather play boggle' course you would.

10 years together there has been periods of 5 times a day, periods of nothing at all for months, every other day and every day, all depends whats happening in our lives at the time. At the moment about 1-2 a week if we are lucky, i do think though that the less you do it the less you want it and its easy to get stuck in that rut.

Doshusallie · 09/01/2013 13:08

Once a week, occasionally less if one of us is ill or something. If it gets less than that I do something about it.

Lottapianos · 09/01/2013 13:11

Once a week, sometimes twice. Quite happy with that.

everybodysang · 09/01/2013 13:14

2-3 times a week, sometime more, sometimes less.

Mind you, I do also love a good game of Boggle.

valiumredhead · 09/01/2013 13:15

What's Boggle?

DSM · 09/01/2013 13:16

Once a month, average. Can go a few months without sometimes. Sometimes we'll do it 3 times in one week. All depends.

We both work shifts, long hours and go to bed together very rarely. Normally when I get home, he is asleep and vice versa. So I wouldn't model my sex life on a couple who go to bed together every night. Chances are they have sex more. Circumstance.

We are happy, if other people prefer daily shags then bash on.

elliejjtiny · 09/01/2013 13:18

Most days, sometimes twice at weekends. Apart from my AF and post childbirth bleeding etc. I like it as it is but I wouldn't mind a bit less either. I wouldn't want a sexless marriage though.

HollyTheHedgehog · 09/01/2013 13:20

If the kids didnt get in the way twice a week. Unfortunately we have a night owl toddler who often doesnt sleep until 9-10pm by which time we're too tired.

Technoviking · 09/01/2013 13:22

Hardly ever. It is important to both of us but I'd rather have DW and no sex than sex but no DW.

DialsMavis · 09/01/2013 13:23

Usually around 3 times a week, but for the last few months about once a fortnight due to stress, work hours and exhaustion. We have a made a promise to each other to both make the effort a lot more often, we were starting to drift into a matey relationship a bit too easily. I have been and purchased sexy pants just this morning!

5hounds · 09/01/2013 13:23

3 times a month

BarredfromhavingStella · 09/01/2013 13:24

Depends how knackered I am & what's happening in our lives at the time.
It ebbs & flows-sometimes once or twice a week, sometimes every day, other times a couple of weeks pass before I think hmmm, been a while.

puds11isNAUGHTYnotNAICE · 09/01/2013 13:25

Boggle is a word game. Its ace!

I'm single at the mo, so none for me, however when in a relationship, weekly.

DitzyDonkeySillyMonkey · 09/01/2013 13:32

Sometimes everyday for a week, sometimes once a month and if I decide to give up shaving my legs for a while (which happens every so often) then maybe even two months....just depends!

YorkshireDeb · 09/01/2013 13:34

Like everyone else it varies from month to month. Since having our DS (4 months ago we've had gaps of a few weeks or been every other day. No matter how often we have sex OH moans that he doesn't get it enough - but he also turns me down sometimes when I propositon him due to "tiredness" so I figure it's his fault not mine that he doesn't get it enough. x

SirBoobAlot · 09/01/2013 13:35

Depends how much pain I'm in.

valiumredhead · 09/01/2013 13:36

I have just order Boggle!

KellyElly · 09/01/2013 13:41

About 6 moths ago.

KellyElly · 09/01/2013 13:42

months not moths (Freudian slip)

florilegia · 09/01/2013 13:42

Two years and four months between last time and the time before. DH went off the idea when I was 20 weeks pregnant, and it took him an awfully long time to come back onto it. I didn't enjoy the time in between much, as you can imagine.

MrsRajeshKoothrappali · 09/01/2013 13:49

Most days at the moment.

Goes up and down though. We were both having a rough time a few months back and we went a while without. Still snogged and cuddled, etc. We were just too tired for actual sex.

Hopefully back on track now.

nannyof3 · 09/01/2013 13:49

Once a month

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