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to ask how often you have sex?

71 replies

alisunshine29 · 09/01/2013 12:55

Was watching This Morning where one woman was saying sex was really important in a relationship and she'd leave her partner if they weren't having sex. The other woman said sometimes her and her husband don't have sex for months but are still happy. How often do you have it? How important is it to you?

OP posts:
MrsRajeshKoothrappali · 09/01/2013 13:50

And I LOVE boggle!

Where can I order it from? Amazon??

valiumredhead · 09/01/2013 13:50

Yes, Amazon.

AmberSocks · 09/01/2013 13:53

2 or 3 times a week.occassionally we will go a couple of weeks without,but i couldnt be with someone where i knew sex was no more.

Cortana · 09/01/2013 13:54

Usually every day.

Unless AF is visiting then I am currently out of action and in massive pants, bloated and grumpy

CaptChaos · 09/01/2013 13:58

Once or twice a year. Entirely my fault, had a D&C a while back where they manipulated my uterus and obviously tore my pelvic floor muscles, and now I have almost no feeling at all.

I feel sorry for my DH, but we are affectionate in other ways and it hasn't been a major drama.

I really miss it though Sad

valiumredhead · 09/01/2013 14:03

capt have you ever had physio for it? I only ask as my physio was pretty shocked that I hadn't ever been offered physio after my c section, she was of the thinking that everyone should be offered it. Ignore me if you have explored all avenues already.

MrsCR · 09/01/2013 14:16

I love that a thread about sex has turned into a sales spike for Boggle Smile

go us!

few times a month

JoanByers · 09/01/2013 17:51

I don't think Boggle is very good sex.

valiumredhead · 09/01/2013 17:54

I bet if I tell dh there is a blow hob in it for him he'll play a couple of games of Boggle with me Wink

catgirl1976 · 09/01/2013 17:58

about 5 times a week

But agree it ebbs and flows

None whilst I was pregnant. DH "wasn't comfortable" Hmm

None for a while after giving birth to a 9lb 1 baby via forceps and an episiotomy

I was far from "comfortable" myself for a while after that Grin

soontobeburns · 09/01/2013 17:59

Me and OH dont live together so I see him about 4 nights a week
When we are together we have sex about 2 times a day and oral once a day when we are together tmi but some days I can go without others it can be up to 6 times a day.
Longest without whilst together is 2 days. We couldnt do the 2ww for the hsg so ended up using condoms opps.
On average 6 times a week.

This is us cut down as the fertility specislist said we had too much sex and this lead to lack of sperm opps.

diabolo · 09/01/2013 17:59

Known each other for 16 years, married for 12 - still manage it with great enthusiasm around 3 times a week.

HoratiaWinwood · 09/01/2013 18:01

Monthly, not weekly. Sex drive highly dependent on hormone cycle.

around 6-10 times a month. Can be zero if DH is overseas in the wrong week, and when pg and ebf I can happily go without for a year.

BertieBotts · 09/01/2013 18:04

I think looking at it in terms of frequency is kind of shallow and shortsighted. It misses the point of what sex is, for me. I think most couples' sex lives ebb and flow over time, depending on external stressors, hormonal factors, general feelings for each other and generally in life etc. Sometimes it can be every day or more and sometimes it can be a few weeks between times. As long as everyone's happy and respectful, it's fine.

fluffyraggies · 09/01/2013 18:10

4/5 times a week.

Together 7 years.

Could absolutely not cope with sex less than once a week. I'd go mad. I'd happily have sex twice a day every day.

Grin
BelaLugosisShed · 09/01/2013 18:12

I'm just wondering what the hell shaving your legs has got to do with the amount of sex you have Confused I haven't shaved my legs or armpits since around October, it hasn't removed my libido ( nor DH's) .

thebody · 09/01/2013 18:13

Doing it now.

bangersnmash · 09/01/2013 18:15

4/5 times a week currently , sometime more . We have been together 12 years .
After years of either trying to have a baby or being pregnant I'm enjoying having sex just for pleasures sake. I also came off the pill 6 months ago after it was making me depressed and I've felt so much better and libido back to normal .

Never played boggle though ( off to look on amazon)

DontstepontheMomeRaths · 09/01/2013 18:15

I'm jealous of you lot Envy

I'm pretty much single, as the chap I'm with, I rarely see, due to distance and his work.

With my ExH he rarely felt like it, so once a week if I was lucky pre children and he wouldn't come near me when pregnant and breast feeding, think I got it maybe once a month sometimes two post children not for lack of trying

In my ideal world I'd want it every other day definitely, maybe more. I'm still Envy at all you people on here having regular sex.

BertieBotts · 09/01/2013 18:27

Never shave mine either Bela. DP doesn't seem to mind!

soontobeburns · 09/01/2013 19:17

For me whilst I have it rather often see above I am not always horny. I like to feel close and make love to my DP im maybe only horny half the time. it does make a difference

whois · 09/01/2013 19:55

Totally depends. Every day, more than once a day, once a week, once every two week.

Depends on work, social lives, mood, stress etc etc

MrsMelons · 09/01/2013 20:01

Not enough at the moment, used to be a few times a day (soon stopped when I fell pregnant within 2 weeks of getting together and got awful morning/all day sickness Blush), then after DCs a few times a week.

At the moment once every few months at most, not because we don't want to or don't fancy each other but because of circumstances. DH was made redundant then within a month his mum died. He was depressed/grieving for a while and we were very intimate but just didn't have sex.

It just seems that it has been one illness or crap thing after another and just as I feel we may be getting back on track he gets the flu, then as he is almost recovered I do.

I want to do it more and I feel a bit insecure if we aren't (my daft issues I know), he would like to also but feels completely comfortable as he has no daft issues Grin

We will get back on track as everything else between us is so good but I think it will take some time as we have so much crap going on we are mega tired and stressed so it just doesn't seem to fit in!

verytellytubby · 09/01/2013 20:06

2-3 times a week.

Fakebook · 09/01/2013 20:13

None of your business.