To thing my friend may be lying

[Oliveoila]

A newish friend has just told me she is pregnant. She has a DD aged 5 and a DS aged 8.

She is in complete shock and told me she didn't want anymore children. When I asked her about birth control she said she hasnt taken ANY for the past five years. She stated she has been taking antibiotics for several weeks due to a kidney infection which I already know of. She said that this must have fixed any problems she was having???

I questioned her again saying that that if she wasn't taking any contraception it was highly likely she could end up preggers. When she mentioned her body was affected with the antibiotics I obviously thought she was on the pill. She did stutter and hesitate when I was speaking to her about this.

I'm not a suspicious person and she is a friend albeit new. When I spoke to someone else totally unrelated she said it was obvious this person was lying. What do you think?

MYOB

I think it's none of your business! Why should she have to justify herself to you?!

Why the fuck does it matter? Who are you, her GP?

I'll never understand why people feel so entitled to be indulged in the personal details of their friends and families health and choices.

Frankly, it's rude.

Why would you care if and how.. Just offer support.

Lying about what though? Lying about being pregnant? Lying about not using contraception? Lying about the antibiotics?? Why does it matter?

Please stop with the moral highground. I was just wanting others genuine opinion on the matter.

She has said to me on several occasions I SHOULD have another child as I only have the one. I am more than happy with one but I'm not going to turn around and say, it's none of your business.

Absolutely none of your business.

Well oliva you should tell her to mind her business.

She probably stuttered because she felt like she was being given the third degree or felt a bit silly and embarrassed.

I really don't get this. What's... oh the tv's on!

You asked what people thought, they've told you. Don't be so bloody rude because you don't like the answers.

If she had told you I presume in confidence why should you pass it on to somebody else? Also I don't think it is any of your business to question why ..but to support her as a friend at this time.

She is a newish friend so I want to be able to trust her. I thought she may be lying about not using contraception for 5 years even though she doesn't want another child. In my opinion if a person lies about something like this, they can lie about all sorts, so I wouldn't want to get close. That's all, I'm not being nosey just cautious.

In my defence I never gave it a second thought until another friend mentioned she was pregnant. I told the second friend this story and she laughed saying it didn't add up and friend1 was lying to me. So it got met thinking.

Oh dear!! Op, why did you post this?

You clearly enjoy a good gossip.... She's had a lucky escape!

Rosa, yes I discussed it but these 2 friends don't know each other and I didn't mention any names. It's like discussing a personal issue on MN

Maybe she thought she had a medical reason for not getting pregnant that the ab's had sorted out? Like an infection?
I don't know, just trying

Maybe she thought she had a medical reason for not getting pregnant that the ab's had sorted out? Like an infection?
I don't know, just trying

Sorry dp

I didn't use contraception for almost 4 years. I didn't get pregnant but I could have done by mistake very easily. Are you going to call me a liar now too, OP?

Ilovetiffany- genuine reason I posted because I've been naive in the past with friends and theyve lied to me about all sorts. I'm just being careful.

Dh and I weren't using contraception, apparently my ovaries were so buggered it would be a miracle if I ever got pregnant.
Our miracle twins are 8 months, these things do happen!
But I echo others, it's none of your business and you were gossiping about her to your friend. I would be less likely to trust you then her based on what you've said so far!

What exactly do you think she has lied about? And why would she lie?

I've just never come across someone who hasn't used contraception whilst definitely not wanting to fall conceive.