To thing my friend may be lying

[Oliveoila]

A newish friend has just told me she is pregnant. She has a DD aged 5 and a DS aged 8.

She is in complete shock and told me she didn't want anymore children. When I asked her about birth control she said she hasnt taken ANY for the past five years. She stated she has been taking antibiotics for several weeks due to a kidney infection which I already know of. She said that this must have fixed any problems she was having???

I questioned her again saying that that if she wasn't taking any contraception it was highly likely she could end up preggers. When she mentioned her body was affected with the antibiotics I obviously thought she was on the pill. She did stutter and hesitate when I was speaking to her about this.

I'm not a suspicious person and she is a friend albeit new. When I spoke to someone else totally unrelated she said it was obvious this person was lying. What do you think?

Don't judge just support.

Adpiemum- how can you call it gossiping if people connected don't know of each others existence?

Sounds like she didnt think she could get pregnant, turns out she can, and doesn't want to go into intimate medical details surrounding the aforementioned to random new friends.

I may have misread the situation of course.

Why would she lie? How does it affect you? Why are you bothered about it?

I think you need to mind your own business to be honest.

I havent used any contraception for 13 years. I got pregnant exactly when I wanted to, twice! It obviously wouldn't be a disaster for us if we had any more children or we would take more positive action to stop it happening. Not everyone uses contraception.

Well Olive - I don't think you should turn around and say anything to her because then you would be facing the other way and that might seem awfully rude.

HTH

Spatsky- I agree with you.

Gossiping doesn't rely on them knowing each other - it's a term used to describe sharing information of a personal nature (accurate or otherwise) of a person who is not present during the discussion. How is it not gossiping?

'Lying' makes it sound as if she has a responsibility to tell you every detail of her private life. She doesn't.

For all you know, she may have been told she can't have children, or may have been having almost no sex with her DH - both things she might not want to discuss with you, which might account for her reaction and her not using contraception.

You sound very unsupportive - what is it to you how she got pregnant?

Not wishing to sound unpleasant OP but this really and truly is absolutely none of your business.

OP I definitely didn't want to conceive, but was advised by Dr. against continuing with the pill and am allergic to other kinds of contraceptive. We were very, very careful :-) but knew there was a chance that an accident could happen.

It's not unusual at all and I think you should think again about your reaction to your friend not that it was any of your business anyway really

oh you just want us to confirm that she must be lying so you can go back and bitch about her with confidence to your other friends.

and you talk to us about moral highground?

away and run on love, there's none of us was born in a bubble. you're transparent.

Aspirmum- that's your definition. I disagree, should MN not be renamed Gossip mums in that case. I would never intentionally disclose private/ personal information to others saying who I was talking about. I chat to DP all the time about situations and people but as I never name drop he has no idea who I'm discussing. I don't see this as gossip.

even

Is this another AIBU? Yes you are...no I'm not?

Unless you have a penis and intend to stick it in her, I don't see your problem?

Love the drip feeding bollocks: 'I've been hurt by lying friends before, I just need to know I can trust her'!!!

She might be lying. Or she might not. I don't think how much you can trust her as a friend depends on that.
Ie she has no obligation to be truthful to you about her contraception or sex or health situation.
And it's not anyone else's business either.
Hope that helps.

Proud scary- how very mature of u. Is it so difficult to believe my post?

YABU

It is none of your business and you are so wanting the gossip.

I don't understand why you would even start this thread. What did you think people would say?

my guess is new friend is actually the friend of another of OP's friends and OP does not welcome her appearance (much in the way jealous teens behave) on the scene so is looking for evidence to take to orignal friend to prove that new friend really doesn't belong in their social group and that they should all turn their backs on her because she is a LIAR!

Hahahahahaha at you being sarcastic about people not believing you while you are accusing your poor 'friend' of lying to you- about her own intimate business which doesn't affect you in any way. Hahahaha.

Drama Llama's gossip time!

Very disappointed in your responses. I don't post on here for a laugh. We all have different past experiences that shape the way we make and keep friends. I don't expect you all to understand this.