About my newborn's name?

[MmmnoodlesoupIsDueXmasEve]

Having a hormonal morning. Finally decided on our baby's name after much deliberation yesterday and told a few friends who all said it was lovely.

My mother calls this morning and I tell her we have decided on Oliver James L.M (surname) to which she replied 'OH NO!!' Like I've told her I'm calling him Crap Bag or something this really upset me as I feel like I could never call him this now as I know she hates it.

So now DP has declared he doesn't like Oliver either and was 'going along with it for me' :( I really thought we both liked it as he has always expressed this.

Now I feel so confused, I really liked it and think it really suits him but now it's completely tainted and DP is looking up names like Ivander and Cassius . I guess I'm upset because the baby has his surname and now he's going to choose the first name when I'm the one who carried him and pushed him out and will no doubt be doing the majority of caring as I'm ebf and he's back to ft work next week,

Sorry just needed to rant, feel so upset.

[thebody]

My dd has a friend called Samsung. Honestly and seriously.

[Catchingmockingbirds]

Why don't you give DS your surname if it's what you want?

[AmberSocks]

mykids have my surname,we are married too,dh said he may change his name to mine one day if he feelslike it and they all call him Mr "insert my surname" at the school,he doesnt care,but he isnt a traditionalist,i dont see any more reason why a child should have their dads name than the mothers name,or vice versa,my name is just nicer and i didnt want to change mine to his.

Sorry to ramble on,just thought id say soyou know peopledo do it that way.

[Nanny0gg]

Crumbs, I can't believe you've only ever known one Oliver! I've known loads,and I think they've all been really good kids.

Does he 'look' like an Oliver, btw?

Your DP is coming round to it again, so grab it with both hands and tell everyone your final decision is made.

Then switch off your phone.

[BornInACrossFireHurricane]

Oliver is lovely (the couple I have known have been lovely as well!) Yes, it is popular now but there's a reason for that- it's a nice name!

My daughter is top 20- I've only known one other, now there seems to be lots of little babies with this name or there are on cbeebies birthday cards. I get a lot of lovely comments on her name, as opposed to my son's name (which isn't in the top 100)

I would also give the baby your surname, but that is me!

[Catchingmockingbirds]

I've never met an Oliver either, it's a lovely name.

[Montybojangles]

Oliver James has a lovely sound to it. Stick to what you think suits your baby and tell the rest to rack off!!

[thehappycat]

Sorry but Cassius really is pretentious! Is it after the boxer, the classical figure... I suppose it doesn't matter but it just sounds like one of those pretentious MC names. where I live there are tonnes of that kind of name. Everyone is trying to be a bit different/individual but they all have that awful UMC ring to it. It's a very personal thing but I think you can't go wrong with a lovely classic name like Oliver or James or both!

[SoftKittyWarmKitty]

Do you know what? It's your baby not your mums, switch your phone off so you don't see the texts and make an appointment to register your baby as Oliver James. As you're not married, you can go by yourself and your DP doesn't have to be there, so call him the name you both agreed on and give him your surname. On the other hand your DP can't register the baby without you there as you're not married, so don't worry about him going behind your back to do it. As someone else mentioned, you can change his surname if you marry. My DS has my surname, I'm a single parent and SO glad I gave him my surname.

Oh, and my mum wasn't keen on my name choices either, I just told her it was my baby and I'd be picking the name (exDP had fucked off before he was born). She got over it. Imagine how much you'll resent it if you give him a name your mother or sister have picked. Every time you have to say or wrote his name it'll piss you off. I mean, who the fuck do they think they are?! Tell them to have their own baby if they want to name one so much.

[SoftKittyWarmKitty]

Oh, and if you don't put your foot down over this, before you know it your mother, sister et al will be telling you how to change him, how to wind him, which nursery he should go to, what schools to apply to and will generally try to overrule all your parenting decisions. Start as you mean to go on.

[thehappycat]

if you are married you can still go alone to register actually - the difference is if you are married, he can also go alone.

[Alisvolatpropiis]

Cassius isn't pretentious is it?

Unusual is not synonymous with pretentious in my mind anyway.

[Pandemoniaa]

There's nothing wrong with Oliver or James. Both are good although you'd have to accept that Oliver will be shortened to Ollie.

I think it is just as important that the name fits the baby too. When dgd was born ds2 and ddil had three, agreed and lovely names for her. She clearly suited one of them even at only hours old!

It's not up to your mother to comment, tbh, let alone be rude about your choices. But then your dp isn't being much help either.

Personally, I think that Cassius suits a Boxer Dog more than it does a child but then your child isn't my child so if you both agree on it and your baby suits the name go for it. Otherwise consider agreeing on 3 or 4 names and putting them in a hat. But don't be persuaded to go against a name on the basis that your mother disapproves.

[5madthings]

Cassius isnt pretentious. I think its a lovely name.

Op ignore suggestions; give yourself some time and maybe even try out some other names (three if my children had a variety if names tried out on them in thd first few weeks) and go with what you are happy wuth.

Dont let the fact that your mum doesnt like a name 'taint' it for you. My parents and mil, as i said dont like the names we chose but they got used to them (they occassionally still mention it and get short thrift)

Choose a name YOU are happy with for YOUR baby. Xxx

[Alisvolatpropiis]

everlong I agree with you. Gabriel is one of those names that sounds great on a little boy and also on a grown man.

In my head they are all really cool and ride motorbikes (as adults)

[YuleBritannia]

There was that famous actor called Oliver Reed. He was well liked even if he let his life go downwards .........................

I liked his acting. Jolly good looking too.