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Would you have eaten this dinner?

170 replies

SurroundedByBlue · 05/01/2013 11:08

Thursday P comes home with ingredients to cook dinner, including mince to make meatballs. He leaves it on the side in the kitchen and we forgot about it and ended up having chippy tea.

I didn't realise he hadn't put the mince in the fridge so it stayed there until the middle of the next morning when I noticed it and put it in the fridge.

5pm last night he decides to make his meatballs. Rolls them into balls and leaves them on ghe side for 4 hours whilst he went out for a drink. Cooks them about 9pm and serves them. Cutting into one it was very pink in the middle and I asked him if he thought they were cooked. He says yes, definitely cooked. Not wanting to offend him I say I prefer mine well done (as I was sure they weren't cooked properly but didn't want to labour the point) and pop them back on the griddle for a bit. He puts his back on to cook more and then reserves. I still didn't think they were cooked so pushed them around my plate and ate around them. He ate all his, and mine.

I was probably being a bit fussy but didn't want to risk it at 36 weeks pregnant.

He was up all night with diarreah and is in bed with a stomach ache today. I suggested that maybe the meatballs weren't cooked after all, or had gone off from being out off the fridge. He was unimpressed and took offended saying that I was critical and should have eaten them etc.

Led to a stupid argument about how I'm ungrateful that he'd cooked etc with me pointing out how much I actually do at home (the usual type argument people have, it will be forgotten about in no time) We are both over tired, him after being up with his stomach and me after being up alot with our young child.

But, I still don't think that the meat was ediable.

Would you have eaten them?

OP posts:
ChippingInLovesChristmasLights · 05/01/2013 20:53

Surrounded just before I started reading this thread, I'd read your post on the 'Would your DH put two kids to bed' thread and I wondered then what you were getting out of this relationship. Clearly nothing and you have seen the light!! Well done you!! :)

lovelyladuree · 05/01/2013 20:56

It was the booze that made him ill, not the meat.

JustAHolyFool · 05/01/2013 21:02

Oh sorry lovelyladuree I didn't realise you'd been round there with your diahorrea-testing stick.

YourHandInMyHand · 05/01/2013 21:06

Just read through thread - sounds like the tip of the iceberg! OP you sound very together and I agree life will probably be a lot more relaxed and positive without him around.

DeafLeopard · 05/01/2013 21:36

Well done OP, stay strong, you have a much better life ahead of you

wannabedreams · 05/01/2013 21:41

No I couldn't have eaten them yanbu and it sounds like you are well rid :D

foreverondiet · 05/01/2013 21:44

I would have thrown away if left out overnight, pregnant or not.

Or if I had cooked it boiled it like mad for ages in a bolognaise sauce as soon as I discovered it. But still wouldn't have risked that if pregnant.

CaptainVonTrapp · 05/01/2013 21:47

Wow that was quite a turn! Well done OP. He sounds like a vile, lazy, good for nothing. What does he think, you're a slave? Good Luck.

PseudoBadger · 05/01/2013 21:51

Rare mince is a hot topic right now

LynetteScavo · 05/01/2013 21:54

Love the way you've handled this, OP.

Meatball gate! Grin

Well done, and good luck. Smile

And no, I wouldn't have eaten under cooked mince, pregnant or not.

(So why do continental people eat raw mince....what's different about that?)

SurroundedByBlue · 05/01/2013 22:24

Chipping - I haven't posted about him before but I hope the other poster gets rid soon if he is anything like Mr Meatball!

I have lounged around on the sofa, been up and down to dc for the last few hours but its alot less stressful when I'm not cursing ex under my breath for not being there to help.

My phone is set to 'do not disturb' and I am off to my bed safe in the knowledge I won't wake up covered in someone else's pee. Not that he will text me as he is incredibly stubborn and will not come crawling which will work in my favour for once (plus he is totally convinced he hasn't done and has never done anything wrong) He also knows that I wouldn't have ended things lightly so will no its pointless to push the subject.

It's my 30th birthday soon, and I plan on starting the next decade of my life on a positive, not weighed down with his crap.

OP posts:
gimmecakeandcandy · 05/01/2013 23:07

Urghh rank to leave meat out twice - why didnt either of you have the sense to bin it?

JamesBexleySpeed · 05/01/2013 23:16

'covered in someone else's pee'
Wow, just wow.
Blue, well done on kicking him out. Don't let him back.

itspeanuts · 05/01/2013 23:31

Well done blue! You're still young and so much better to get out now than waste another 10 years of your life on this selfish excuse of a man.

KRITIQ · 05/01/2013 23:40

Ah, Surrounded, I had an inkling there was more to this than just a petulant partner with poor food hygiene standards. I salute you for realising you and your DCs deserve SO much more in life than to have to deal with this over-entitled, controlling tosser. Congratulations on what's a massive, massive step towards a positive future.

SquinkiesRule · 05/01/2013 23:41

Well done Blue. Also I wouldn't have eaten pink in the middle meatballs either even if the meat had been refrigerated.

ouryve · 05/01/2013 23:48

I know it's not generally done on MN, Surrounded, but can I send you a bloody great big bear hug? (Around the shoulders, of course - not like i could reach around your bump!)

Having BTDT it is amazing how such events can provide that much needed moment of clarity.

The next decade will be the best one of your life. Not only because you won't be waking up covered in adult wee. (That is even more vile than having to tiptoe through puke to use the loo before bed. Yes, I left him, too. Hence the hug.)

Loveweekends10 · 06/01/2013 02:29

No but I'm a bit funny about leaving food out and so probably would have chucked the meatballs before they even got cooked!

Catchingmockingbirds · 06/01/2013 02:37

You're pregnant. It looked dodgy so you were cautious and didn't eat it. He is being unreasonable.

Catchingmockingbirds · 06/01/2013 02:47

And now you get to starfish in the bed every night :o rather than being peed on in bed!

gimmecakeandcandy · 06/01/2013 06:49

By the way op, on a trivial note... You can reheat rice, just ensure you refrigerate it after it cools the first time you make it and them you need to reheat until it is piping hot. Obviously don't leave it days before the second eating but you can reheat rice.

Your ex sounds like a right dirty slob. Urgghhh. Well done getting rid.

TheDoctrineOfSnatch · 06/01/2013 07:33

Congrats Blue!

HenryCrun · 06/01/2013 07:36

I would have eaten this...

...if I'd drunk 2 buckets of vodka, 3 buckets of gin and 20 ales, before convincing a sworn enemy to chloroform me, tie me to a rack and forcefeed me.

You are 36 weeks pregnant and he pulls this stunt! Z- for effort.

LovesBeingAtHomeForChristmas · 06/01/2013 07:55

Wow op. well done you. I feel really proud of you. To be able to wake up and feel better for getting rid speaks volumes Grin

HenryCrun · 06/01/2013 08:46

Whoa, OP! I was so wrapped up in trying and failing to write something witty that I missed the rest of the thread.

Sounds like you're well rid of him, from your post listing the other reasons why you left. A very, very selfish bloke.

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