Thursday P comes home with ingredients to cook dinner, including mince to make meatballs. He leaves it on the side in the kitchen and we forgot about it and ended up having chippy tea.
I didn't realise he hadn't put the mince in the fridge so it stayed there until the middle of the next morning when I noticed it and put it in the fridge.
5pm last night he decides to make his meatballs. Rolls them into balls and leaves them on ghe side for 4 hours whilst he went out for a drink. Cooks them about 9pm and serves them. Cutting into one it was very pink in the middle and I asked him if he thought they were cooked. He says yes, definitely cooked. Not wanting to offend him I say I prefer mine well done (as I was sure they weren't cooked properly but didn't want to labour the point) and pop them back on the griddle for a bit. He puts his back on to cook more and then reserves. I still didn't think they were cooked so pushed them around my plate and ate around them. He ate all his, and mine.
I was probably being a bit fussy but didn't want to risk it at 36 weeks pregnant.
He was up all night with diarreah and is in bed with a stomach ache today. I suggested that maybe the meatballs weren't cooked after all, or had gone off from being out off the fridge. He was unimpressed and took offended saying that I was critical and should have eaten them etc.
Led to a stupid argument about how I'm ungrateful that he'd cooked etc with me pointing out how much I actually do at home (the usual type argument people have, it will be forgotten about in no time) We are both over tired, him after being up with his stomach and me after being up alot with our young child.
But, I still don't think that the meat was ediable.
Would you have eaten them?
AIBU?
Would you have eaten this dinner?
SurroundedByBlue · 05/01/2013 11:08
It's one way to get nesting I suppose 
I'm amazed at how upbeat you are and the strength of your perspective.
I put that down to a mothers instinct. Best wishes x
I agree, his tantrum will come at some point but I am trying to head him off a little by making formal arrangements such as the CSA - he won't be able to argue with their evaluation and it takes away his control of whether I deserve the money and what I should be spending it on. Also with seeing dc, I will get something put in writing and stand by it. It's also why I wanted his stuff out as soon as possible, it shows him that this is real and hopefully gets the message across that its not up for discussion. He can be very nasty at times but it will only be words, which I can ignore. His mum is pleased to have him home I think.
I am quite reassured that I am doing the right thing as he mentioned he was tired as he hadn't gotten home until 4am this morning. I think I was meant to be jealous that he'd had a good time or that he could've pulled or something 
but what I actually thought was what a saddo. So I don't think there are any under lying feeling that will suddenly rush to the surface. Which is good. When I think of him with someone else I only pity her.
I have my babies, new opportunities, and he has his mother who drinks more than he does and liver disease to look forward too. I think I get the better deal
Thanks everyone.
To be fair, marriedinwhite is totally right, it does give me horrendous indigestion but I get it anyway no matter what I eat or avoid. Worst part of being pregnant I think. It wakes me up of a night and makes me sick, sometimes I think if I'm going to suffer with it anyway it might as well be for something I enjoy.
Today has been good, ex had dc from 12-4 and I had a long soak in the bath with a book and straightened my hair - unheard of, its normally a quick shower and the frizz takes over. Then I decluttered 
a fair few black bags worth and he took them with him when he dropped dc off. All very formal and polite.
I've got the midwife tomorrow and will let her know the situation, I am coping fine at the moment but in the newborn exhausted phase I might need a helping hand and would rather have any information in advance to what support is out there.
I should have done this ages ago! I think sometimes you have to really reach the end of your teather before finally doing something about it though, I would probably have been talked round or worn down before but not a chance this time. Thanks again for all your support.
Top decluttering Op!
Now you need to add "poor meat hygiene" on the red flag thread. The nation needs to know 
I wonder if 'ltb' will now be replaced by 'time to declutter'?
Wow just read the rest of your replies surrounded by, yes your well shy of him he sounds dreadful. Good on you
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