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AIBU?

To be a traditional sahm ??

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ProudMum4Eva · 02/01/2013 22:16

I personal have never been flamed for my choice in life, however I see many people who continuously get some sort of insult for their life choices. So here I thought I would share all for the first time.
I am 34 years old I got married at 18 straight from college. I am happily married with five wonderful children who I adore and do everything for. I have NEVER worked (outside the family home) my DH has always worked. He works traditional hours leaves about 8:10 mon-fri and is home for around 5:30. I do everything in the home cleaning, cooking, bathing the younger children, ironing and so on. I dote on my children and my husband. I love it they do not need to help me in the house I look after them and that is what I am good at.

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HoHoHoNoYouDont · 02/01/2013 23:26

catgirl

MatureUniStudent · 02/01/2013 23:27

Well we have worked out that there is more than one variety of SAHM. So I guess we have got a learning objective out of this. And a warm happy fuzzy glow...

ProudMum4Eva · 02/01/2013 23:27

catgirl1976geesealaying

Sorry ?

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whiteandyelloworchid · 02/01/2013 23:30

i've come to the conclusion, whatever you do in life, some fucker wants a pop at you
so you might aswell just do exactley what you want and what makes you happy

i love being a sahm

ProudMum4Eva · 02/01/2013 23:33

HiggsBoson
Thank you I know I am lucky. I understand some mums do not want to SAH and some do yet are not able to.

When all my children have grown I intend to relax still looking after our home and caring for my DH. Then one day DH and me shall move to a sunny climate and enjoy our golden years .
Although plans may never work out. :(

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ProudMum4Eva · 02/01/2013 23:33

DH and I should I say sorry :)

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JugglingMeYorkiesAndNutRoast · 02/01/2013 23:33

If you've found ways to juggle things to everyone's satisfaction and happiness, including your own, then good for you !

Do agree slightly though that it might be best as your children get older to think more in terms of raising them to be good and capable adults (like you !) than in terms of looking after everyone. Just a thought

catgirl1976geesealaying · 02/01/2013 23:33

DH and I.

3smellysocks · 02/01/2013 23:34

My own kids are totally different, they enjoy helping cook, they clean their rooms with music blaring out, they carry shopping in knowing that it really makes a difference to me when I'm exhausted, they make breakfast for eachother while playing horses, they get thier own clothes out the night before so they have more time to play in the morning, they help load the dishwasheer after I spent ages cooking. We are a team

ProudMum4Eva · 02/01/2013 23:35

O and of course get to pamper my my future grandchildren :)

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OpenToPersuasion · 02/01/2013 23:35

Make youself too indisoensible and you'll never be able to move from the Apron String Zone.

Please have a ponder.

catgirl1976geesealaying · 02/01/2013 23:36

I'm only pedanty when I'm drunk. Good for you op. Marvellous. May your retirement be sunny with n'err a bridge to cloud your horizons.

Old northern saying that.

ProudMum4Eva · 02/01/2013 23:36

3smellysocks
That is great are you a sahm ??

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ProudMum4Eva · 02/01/2013 23:38

catgirl1976geesealaying

Thank you I know you were probably trying to be funny but thanks :)

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catgirl1976geesealaying · 02/01/2013 23:40

No. Genuinely. Happy for anyone who is making life work for them. It's all any of us are aiming for.

ProudMum4Eva · 02/01/2013 23:40

Yes I am already very indispensable and very proud to be. :) Best feeling in the world feeling needed.

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catgirl1976geesealaying · 02/01/2013 23:42

But I would disagree with your last point.

I'd much rather be wanted than needed.

Still. Whatever works for you op. Whatever works.

WorraLiberty · 02/01/2013 23:42

The graveyards are bursting with indispensable people

As my old Grandad would say.

ProudMum4Eva · 02/01/2013 23:43

Ah you see I know I am always wanted. Yet I will be very sad the day I am no longer needed. :(

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DevaDiva · 02/01/2013 23:43

Got about half way through this thread and all I can say without being rude is grrrrrrr that's how it makes me feel

ProudMum4Eva · 02/01/2013 23:44

lol that's very strange unfortunately the graveyards are full of all kinds of people. :)

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OpenToPersuasion · 02/01/2013 23:45

Honestly, ProudMum, whatever makes you happy, but I do believe that "needed" is not too neat the top of many people's Best Feeling Ever List.

Enjoy what you do, and remember that you've only got to justify your lifestyle to yourslef.

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catgirl1976geesealaying · 02/01/2013 23:45

Who is Eva BTW? Is she your dd?

A lovely name

ProudMum4Eva · 02/01/2013 23:45

DevaDiva aw nooo why?? I hope I have not said anything to upset you :(

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MatureUniStudent · 02/01/2013 23:46

so need a like button

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