To be a traditional sahm ??

[ProudMum4Eva]

I personal have never been flamed for my choice in life, however I see many people who continuously get some sort of insult for their life choices. So here I thought I would share all for the first time.
I am 34 years old I got married at 18 straight from college. I am happily married with five wonderful children who I adore and do everything for. I have NEVER worked (outside the family home) my DH has always worked. He works traditional hours leaves about 8:10 mon-fri and is home for around 5:30. I do everything in the home cleaning, cooking, bathing the younger children, ironing and so on. I dote on my children and my husband. I love it they do not need to help me in the house I look after them and that is what I am good at.

how dare you diminish the jobs people do,their tax ni maintains housewife
one doesnt need to be telephone figure salary or CEO for job to be of note
retail,care,business and public sector all hugely contribute to economy

I was responding to Bickies post stating that more women need to be CEOs, head on strategy etc... she was patronising me about the correct way in which to raise daughters.

and I told her that many women, and men too for that after, do jobs not considered high powered such as teaching, nursing.

an lol at haikuscot for deliberately misunderstanding me.

Its not the green eyed monster coming out. I get more out of working then a pay check and I have time for myself and my dc to.

I am genuinely perplexed how you could think SAHM with school aged dc don't have it easy and don't do school runs/coffee mnornings/gyms/lunchs/read books/MN all day. They get 9 till 3 all to themselves and only have to do what any other person has to do at home.

When I was out of work I had a great time, got up took dc to school, came home washed up watched the Wright stuff pottered about went shopping or out for lunch came home MNed or read till school pick up. Was very very nice if lonely as most people work every day. It was very relaxed slow and boring thats why I can't understand how being a SAHM = better mum as it doesn'tt effect my dc whether I work or not.

Personally I'd respect my dd or ds for going into a skilled and highly useful profession such as nursing or teaching and I wouldn't give a flying fuck whether anyone thinks they are 'high powered' jobs or not. I'd certainly have a lot more respect than if they choose to spend their life indulging themselves in gym and at coffee mornings

whats the likelihood that they're actually getting £7.50 an hour working for an accident helpline or working for their local cash and carry ?

Ugh and so bloody what if they are ! I would rather do this than see my DC starve - any parent would. Mothering is not just cupcakes and bunting . Sometimes its hard bloody graft and putting meals on the table and roofs over heads

I have more respect for anyone who earns a pittance to keep their family going than anyone who makes such nasty sneering judgemental comments as this.
For the record - professionally qualified ,earn £40k plus(partime) ,children cared for by both parents ,no use of day orphanages utterly love my Dc and my career.

Conveniently brandy, you're looking at the life of a sahm with school age dc's who dosses about watching Matthew Wright and eating custard creams. Most sahm's I know with school age dc's do something meaningful with their time, either working from home, voluntary work, open university etc. And then of course there are the sahm's with babies, toddlers and preschool children. Who you've somehow omitted from your cherry picked sample of misspent sahm'dom.

Hannah why are you getting so defensive when you have previously worked and plan to do so again

the mothers I see hanging around the school gate waiting for the others to go for a coffee love to tell me how they have chosen to stay at home rather than have a career it's always to be there for the children the others when not rushing off never tell me they have chosen their career rather than be at home just about what they do.

I am already bored of the school run and I have been doing it since September and only a few days a week

aw come on the little nasty comments being thrown out towards SAHM are not called for.

Everyone has the right to do what they want. It makes no one more better or worse than anyone else.

Another year older, perhaps if you'd bothered to read the actual thread, you'd have realized that my comments were satirising the regular sneery attitude of wohm's who frequent these threads, implying that they're all working 60+ hours a week in the City.
My use of the word 'day orphanage' was taken straight from the mouth of scottishmummy who often jokingly refers to day nurseries as such.

the call centre worker,retail,all contribute financially
unlike the housewife
your free school,hospital,local authority paid for by tax and ni

Neither is it called for to sneer at the ordinary little people doing the day to day jobs such as nursing and teaching. And the irony is I bet the poster who made that comment is bloody grateful to use the services of nurses, doctors, teachers etc when she and her children need them. Wonder if she realises that most of those nurses, teachers etc are probably parents....

It is what the family pays not just one WM though.

I teach and have never seen myself an a little ordinary person. Nice to know my place though.

and obviously there's nothing wrong with working in a lower paid role. We can't all earn 100k a year. I've already said this. But I find the idea of all these highly paid women on this thread, often working a few hours a week for 50k, (have heard this on other similar threads) a tad unbelievable. Many women, and men, are earning national average salary and often with postgrad quals and excellent experience. And yes, I'll say it again, there is nothing wrong with that

The thing is even earning £7 PH is still more then the SAHM earns.

I do not think it was a sneer at those jobs. I think she just implied they were common which they are I am a social worker and my DP is a Primary teacher so we both fit it to that section. Public sector jobs. They are more common as they are more needed. :)

You're not ordinary Arisbottle. But compared to strategic planners and CEOs, teaching is a fairly average salary. Unless you're in senior leadership. And for the record, teachers with their postgrad quals etc. should get MUCH more.

But the WOHM on here arent all claiming to be doing 60 hour weeks in jet setting jobs anyway! That's just complete nonsense! Many jobs which arent generally seen as high flying can be incredibly interesting and fulfilling not to mention hugely beneficial to society.

The thing is even earning £7 PH is still more then the SAHM earns.
So??? Is that implying women can not stay at home? I am sure in most cases there is someone working in the household. So therefore still paying tax. Why does it matter if the SAHM is not earning. That is not for you to feel better than them. I certainly do not feel better than SAHM why should I.

day care orphanage, yes it evolved from a why have em if you leave with strangers
someone (whod never used nursery) was describing how it is.the whey faced weans
the outsourcing of children to cold institutions,much derided. apparently

I am on senior leadership, just! But even if I wasn't I don't think I would be a little person. I used to have a " bigger person " job , am much more important now.