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To be a traditional sahm ??

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ProudMum4Eva · 02/01/2013 22:16

I personal have never been flamed for my choice in life, however I see many people who continuously get some sort of insult for their life choices. So here I thought I would share all for the first time.
I am 34 years old I got married at 18 straight from college. I am happily married with five wonderful children who I adore and do everything for. I have NEVER worked (outside the family home) my DH has always worked. He works traditional hours leaves about 8:10 mon-fri and is home for around 5:30. I do everything in the home cleaning, cooking, bathing the younger children, ironing and so on. I dote on my children and my husband. I love it they do not need to help me in the house I look after them and that is what I am good at.

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amillionyears · 04/01/2013 20:52

InNeedOfBrandy, she is envisaging a nice retirement.
She is in danger of still being surrounded by her offspring, well into older age.

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ProudMum4Eva · 04/01/2013 20:52

amillionyears

No I do not see that at all. Sorry :)

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bickie · 04/01/2013 20:52

Now that would make it different if you were having bobby's on the beat to pass the time! Lol I need to go again - but just wanted to wish you the best OP. I think you probably are genuine and very sweet. Hope it all works out.

rechargemybatteries · 04/01/2013 20:53

I spy a future interfering mother-in-law. Sorry proudmum4eva but I do.

I wish you well and I hope it works out for you but you are being very very short-sighted.

You only seem to be interested in this thread and the SAHM debate. Do you just define yourself by your children and husband? What about you? Aren't you a person in your own right? What do you do for yourself?

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ProudMum4Eva · 04/01/2013 20:54

anotheryearolder

Thank you for your routine. I do not mean to come across as anything.

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happyfrogger · 04/01/2013 20:54

Am I the only one who thinks this has TROLL written all over it? Hilarious and pointless thread!

amillionyears · 04/01/2013 20:55

Nope, everything is roses in Prouds garden.

amillionyears · 04/01/2013 20:56

I was late to see that.

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ProudMum4Eva · 04/01/2013 20:57

rechargemybatteries
Yes I do define myself as a mother and wife. It is just the way I personally like it. I know others like to do things a different way and that's great to .

bickie

Thank you posting it was nice talking to you all the best to you as well :)

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amillionyears · 04/01/2013 20:58

yep, first time poster under this name.

Bye bye op

amillionyears · 04/01/2013 20:59

happyfrogger, well done.

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ProudMum4Eva · 04/01/2013 20:59

happyfrogger

:( Sorry if you think it was pointless.

I am sure there may be other threads you may find interesting. Grin

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rechargemybatteries · 04/01/2013 20:59

So Proudmum4eva - you see yourself only as a mother and a wife only an add on to your husband and children? Do you have self-esteem issues?

What will you do when you are no longer a mother - when your children are grown? And when half of your identity is gone?

anotheryearolder · 04/01/2013 21:00

Routine ! routine
Its not a routine its our carefully considered way of life faints at the shock Wink
happyfrogger you are not alone

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ProudMum4Eva · 04/01/2013 21:00

amillionyears

Under what name ?

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rechargemybatteries · 04/01/2013 21:00

Have I been had?

Arisbottle · 04/01/2013 21:01

Why does she have self esteem issues?

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ProudMum4Eva · 04/01/2013 21:03

rechargemybatteries

No I do not have self-esteem issues. When my children are all grown I will have wonderful accomplishments and hopefully lovely grandchildren not long after Grin
Just like every other mother out there.

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rechargemybatteries · 04/01/2013 21:03

Arisbottle - I didn't say she did, I just asked if she had, because in my experience women who define themselves as only wife and mother and not as a person in their own right (and I include my previous smug self in this) has self esteem issues and if (when) their world doesn't run how they expect it to the shock is devastating.

scottishmummy · 04/01/2013 21:03

oh pack it in with the troll hunting.no harm done,no cash extorted
people participate willingly, it's not relevant if it's dubious post or not
anyway it's a mn perennial the housewifes vs the workers

kim147 · 04/01/2013 21:04

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rechargemybatteries · 04/01/2013 21:04

What if your daughters and sons in law do not want you to keep your grandchildren? What if they don't want or need you?

You, quite frankly, sound ridiculous in that last post. What accomplishments do you have? What do you do outside of your family?

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ProudMum4Eva · 04/01/2013 21:05

Again people seem to think I have done something wrong again. I am sorry if I have offended anyone I really am not meaning to. I was only answering the questions asked.

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Arisbottle · 04/01/2013 21:07

If circumstances were different I would love to be a SAHM, I do not have self esteem issues. I would still be the same person that I am now, just less busy and stressed.

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ProudMum4Eva · 04/01/2013 21:09

rechargemybatteries
I do not do anything different than any other women out there outside the family. apart from the fact I do not work.
What my children decide to do as adults will be their choice of course.

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