To be a traditional sahm ??

[ProudMum4Eva]

I personal have never been flamed for my choice in life, however I see many people who continuously get some sort of insult for their life choices. So here I thought I would share all for the first time.
I am 34 years old I got married at 18 straight from college. I am happily married with five wonderful children who I adore and do everything for. I have NEVER worked (outside the family home) my DH has always worked. He works traditional hours leaves about 8:10 mon-fri and is home for around 5:30. I do everything in the home cleaning, cooking, bathing the younger children, ironing and so on. I dote on my children and my husband. I love it they do not need to help me in the house I look after them and that is what I am good at.

KarlosKKrinkelbeim

I am interested in the real responses I have had and have already thanked the posters for their input.

Weekdays:

I get up at 5am with my 13mo DS.

Between 5 and 8am I play with him, feed him, wash him, change him and read to him. And quickly get myself ready for work

At 8am I leave the house for work. 2 days a week 1 drop him at nursery, 1 with my DM and the other he stays at home with DH.

I start work at 08:30 and leave at 17:15, pick DS up and generally stop to do food shopping. (Rarely get a lunch and if I do I will be doing personal banking or admin)

Get home at 6. Play with DS till half six. Feed DS. I normally clean the kitchen and change the laundry over while he is eating

At 7pm I bath DS. Then we read and cuddle and have a bottle.

At 7:30pm I put him down.

I then tidy the house whilst he is settling.

At 8pm I log in to finish my work.

About 9pm I have dinner and wine.

Bed 11:00 and repeat (with gaps for MN)

Weekends

I get up at 5am with DS on a Saturday. Sunday I get a lie in and DH gets up with him

Play with and feed DS etc in the morning.

Work when he has his morning nap

After morning nap, take him for a walk, soft play, park, swimming, zoo etc

Housework when he has his afternoon nap

Then playing, reading, art etc from afternoon nap till his dinner

Then bath, cuddles, reading and wind down.

Work for a bit after he has gone to sleep, the dinner and wine from about 9ish depending how much work I have.

janey68

Yes some other posters have explained to me about this site already I did say sorry for that probably not the best place to post. I was just trying to get others to share :)

OP what would you do if your husband cheated on you or hit you? I know it's awful to imagine the worst but what if? How would you and the dc manage? Not all men pay child support a lot of them just bugger off or go self employed. I hope you have a safety net.

My daily routine is:
5am up house work for about an hour or walk the dog then get ready for work
6:50am cycle to work to arrive at about 7am
Leave work at 6pm, home for about 6:15
With DH I will then me making tea, helping with homework , putting our youngest to bed, having family time until about 9pm. in between children having baths and going to bed we clean the bathrooms and walk the dog again
I then work for at least two hours , Somtimes three
around midnight , sometimes ,later I go to bed.

I cannot imagine that anyone would envy my daily routine, I can imagine that lots of people would envy the routine if a SAHP.

Who's roseanne threetom?

I tend to find if you want people to share information, the way to do that is to ask them, which you notably failed to do. Perhaps a bt of experience outside the home might teach you to articualte yourself a bit better?

ThreeTomatoes

Thank you for you replay. I am glad you have a routine that suits you well.

Is there any big reason you want to be at home more when your DD in in high school?

I had a working mum growing up she started work when I went to High school. I loved coming home to empty house . I can see now looking back why I as a parent now would want to be at home for my teenagers lol

It's not simply that AIBU is a strange place if you want to just ask others about their daily routine. It's more the fact that you managed to write an entire OP without actually asking that question! It was just a very self satisfied potted history of your life so far.

Are you sure you didn't just conjure up the idea of wanting to know about other peoples lives a little way into the thread, once you realised you'd been rumbled?

That is a bit rude Karlos.

if my DH was able to fully support me and our children and I could dedicate my time to pottering about I would be quite self satisfied too.

Proudmum4eva - I'm genuinely interested in how you think your life would be if you were in my shoes? Or if your DH got run over by a bus? Or had a terrible accident that meant he couldn't work?

Can't believe some of the attitudes towards SAHMs here. How can staying at home to care for your children possibly be setting them a BAD example? There is no right or wrong - some mums work, some don't - why is there this eternal quest on MN to prove one is better than the other?

scottishmummy, it is abundantly clear to anyone with more than a passing interest in this debate that you have issues around the whole SAHM thing. You appear on every thread I have seen on this issue with depressing regularity and trot out the same tired old nonsense about setting a good example by working/bad example by staying at home.

On the face of it you have massive contempt and disrespect for SAHMs but there's definitely more to it than that. It's pretty obvious that you are not happy in your choices because if you were you wouldn't' feel the need to constantly justify them on every thread and constantly berate women who are able to stay at home with their children.Your obsession with this debate is not healthy - think you need to face up to your issues with SAHMs and ask yourself where all this contempt and vitriol for them really comes from.

PS I'm also willing to bet that you have a far less important job than you think you have, which you have bigged up to yourself to justify not staying at home with your kids, and that you bully any staff who have the misfortune to work with you - you sound the type.

KarlosKKrinkelbeim

lol , I have in some way or another (although unknown to me) seem to have offended you. Really did not mean to but I would love it if we could just pass polite comments rather than you just going off at one about me being a SAHM if that's ok :)

Also I do get out the home you know.

Oh and Janey I was self satisfied and smug and probably rather sneery about others when I was where the OP is. I am ashamed now, but I probably was.

Proud, are you proud?

janey68

Like I said fairly new to this site so if I have done anything wrong I am sorry. Thought I could just share and others would share to lol :)

Are your sons going to expect a wife or partner like you?

Again cannotbelieve why the rudeness.?

Perhaps scottishmummy argues so firmly because she thinks she is right . People tend to do that when they think they are right.

A lot of the same questions are popping up again. lol

Anyone else want to share their daily routines ?? :)

Proudmum4eva - I've been a SAHM. I've been where you are. But what worries me about you is that it's all you seem to define yourself as, and trust me, that's not good.

I have been a SAHM, my husband was still perfectly capable of cleaning, cooking etc. It just made more sense at the time for me to do it.

to justify not staying at home with your kids

Mmm. It's not something that requires justification though, is it cannotbelieve?