aibu to be annoyed my friends invited this woman?

[RussianSnowflake]

In my group of friend there is one girl who we all know. Some obviously know her better. I have known her for many years and the only way I can describe her is odd (she doesn't have SN)

We had a girls holiday in 2010. The girl decided to eat things like fruit and swordfish etc, so you can guess what happened. At one point she was even being sick, and was just stood in the middle of the room, one of the girl had to actually tell her to use the toilet. We then had to tell her to have a shower because she was literally about to get into bed with sick in her hair.

We took a road trip to visit a friend who had moved away, the girl borrowed one of my friends jumpers as she was cold when we got there. We ordered food and she ordered the hottest curry on the menu. We start eating and about 10 minutes later we realise she's gone very quiet, we looked over and saw she was bright red, pouring with sweat and even had tears in here eyes. She pulled the jumper off and swiped the sweat off her face with it and then handed it back to my friend.

This kind of behaviour I could tolerate. However we were having a chat and she was talking about her problems and I mine. She then turned to me and said "yes well my problems are much bigger than yours."

Her mum got ill around the time we were on holiday (one of the reasons we invited her). Two of my friends bent over backwards helping her, constantly inviting her out, ringing her and texting her to see how she was. Her mum got much better and yet she would still ignore the concern my friends were showing.

The help they gave her was never appreciated. She does like these women, she is just a very anti-social person. She would rather ignore these text than be polite and say no thank you, in fact I don't think she has ever once said thank you to them.

I have not seen this woman myself for a good two years.

I returned home after working away for the last 6 months. and after seeing my family, my friends organised a meal. I turned up a little late (10 minutes) and so everyone else was there and to my surprise so was this woman.

I know it sounds selfish but we spent all of 5 minutes talking about me and what I'd done and then the rest of the evening was talking about this woman. My friends know I dislike this woman and yet she was invited to the reunion/catch up meal.

aibu to be slightly pissed off about this?

I kind of feel like I am.

At the time she DID have problems (her mother's illness)

The fruit and swordfish isn't even part of this.

It was the fact that she threw up all over the room, which we cleaned up, and then we had to actively tell her to have a shower because she was covered in sick and it was in her hair too.

Would anyone here really want to wake up covered in sick and have their bed covered in sick? Probably not no.

I was making the point that it almost felt like we had to baby her.

I take it that now you're back from your travels you don't want to hang out with her when you meet up with your other mates?

'we were having a chat and she was talking about her problems and I mine. She then turned to me and said "yes well my problems are much bigger than yours.'

Sounds to me like she was taking the piss. Perhaps she's not so much 'odd', as more intelligent than you.

It's nothing to do with intelligence, I personally would never dismiss someones problems and declare my own as being bigger and more important.

So you had a reunion with your old friends and are pissed off because you couldn't talk about you for longer.

Youare you! Why would you be interested in talking about yourself? Surely you mean you're disappointed you didn't get to here what your other friends have been up to?

hear

I like swordfish.

And fruit.

So why OP do you think they invited her?

Is it :

A. They forgot you hated her?
B. They did it to wind you up?
C. They like her?
D. She's actually become a big part of that group whilst you have befn away?
E. They felt sorry for her?

'It was the fact that she threw up all over the room, which we cleaned up, and then we had to actively tell her to have a shower because she was covered in sick and it was in her hair too. '

No Snowflake, it sounds like something I'd have to point out to my DS as the logical solution to a problem he hadn't encountered before.

She wasn't drunk Maryz

I spent the night cleaning up her sick, I then lent her clean clothes to use and washed hers for her.

And then spent the next morning in the hotel room with her.

I was on holiday once and got a bout of gastritus!! I was sick and just got back in bed, was far too ill to even think about getting in the shower, I could barely make it to the bathroom. My DH helped me out because he loves me and it didn't bother him at all..I imagine a true friend would be the same.

Sounds like whilst you were away your so called group of friends have been seeing this girl and god forbid, actually like her.....maybe even more than they like you.........

Seriously, you are not making yourself sound very nice at all on this thread.

Keep digging though.

When ae you going away to work again OP, is it just the holidays you are back for?

Pancake

She hasn't become part of the group. This was the first time they'd met up with her.

Maybe she had to eat fruit and swordfish because she forgot to pack her Heinz baked beans and Walkers crisps?

Seriously though, the behaviour being sick is odd, as is the wiping sweat on someone's jumper and handing it back. It sounds like she struggles with social boundaries/norms.

If your friends invited her to the dinner though, they must still be getting in with her and have seen the opportunity for a reunion, which is a nice thing to do.

How come they invited her then?? Someone had to have had contact to invite her?? You seem very fixated on the fact that she isn't part of the gang.

How old are you??

She definitely has not become part of the group.

The night I met up with them was the first time all of them had seen her in two years.

I've had really bad vomiting (not from eating fruit, from noro) and the dehydration can disorient you and all you want to do is lie down, she was obviously very ill and you're holding it against her? why?

In that case she had 2 years worth of stuff to talk to everyone about.

Just like you shouldn't drink the tap water.

I cannot believe I am still alive then. I hadn't realised we were supposed to treat all water beyond the port of Dover as some sort of poison.

Mmm swordfish. Funny I tend to always order fish or prawns on holiday and never been sick. Its hardly an inevitability that she would have been sick so I'm not sure why you're blaming her for it.

She hasn't become part of the group. This was the first time they'd met up with her.

Well if that's the case, it sounds like someone invited her to take the piss and that's very rude and a horrible thing to do. Making someone the butt of a joke isn't adult behaviour. It's pathetic. Your "friends" and you aren't coming across too well in this thread .

If she threw up - and was not drunk - then she may have been delirious with the illness and just want to flop on to a bed.

Does not make her weird - just ill.