To Be Annoyed about this (Poss SN) Childs Behaviour

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Ok so we went to The Panto last night which wasn't a cheap night out with the tickets costing £100 + for 4 of us.

We were sat 4 seats in with a family of 4 occupying the end 4.

The Father of other the family preceded to lift his DS aged about 10/11 over the seats (spare) to the row in front so he could get a better view and was now sat directly in front of my DP.

This child then spent the entire performance jumping up and down on the seat in front,shouting loudly for sweets,flapping arms,banding his head with his shoes which he'd taken off and generally distracting everyone around him. To give the father credit he did repeatedly tell the child to shut up /sit down and threaten him etc.

Although My experience of ASD is quite limited, I'm assuming the boy was on the Autistic spectrum and although the panto is a family performance and I expect to be disturbed by kids needing a wee,rustling sweets etc AIBU to be pissed off with our evening be ruined especially seeing the boy could have been seated on the end of the aisle where he would have disturbed others less ?

Unfortunately can't c&p but I'll third Amber's comments about arseholes.

But disabled people's treats aren't hard earned as they're all on benefits, innit?

morning runner

im not a parent of a disruptive child, im the parent of an autistic child who sometimes has no control over his behavior,

I cant minimise it and why should he be hidden away just because it embarrasses some people? because I really dont see an autistic child making more noise than is usual at a panto.

Life has certainly not dealt me a bad hand thanks all the same.

Aww I thought all the disgusting posters had left the thread but I see there is a new wave :(

Perhaps this family thought they would try one more time to take the whole family out to an event. Maybe they knew it could end in disaster but wanted to give it a go?
Maybe the lad was having a particularly bad day? Something unexpected set him off?

These are all valid questions but the father's response was disappointing.

With regards to the wheel chair question: I think that if everyone is treated as equally as possible, everyone is comfortable and has a decent view then that all seems fair. If a wheelchair user moved themselves out of space they were in (presuming all of the above - comfort and view, like the boy was moved seat) to a position that blocked my view (as the jumping and banging probably did) I would probably ask if it would be possible if they could move back. If it turned out they couldn't see from there etc etc then fair enough but surely the point is we all have to live together in this world?

What would you have done, morningtunner? To 'minimise the impact'

The only entitled posters on this thread are those who think disabled people should be kept locked away from others because of their 'disruptive behaviour'. After all, they don't deserve to do normal things do they? Because they have fewer rights than NT people? fascist much

are you saying that disabled children are allowed in restaurants but not theatres?

I don't know, Starfish - dh and I had to take it in turns to walk ds around the carpark when we tried to meet family in a restaurant a few weeks ago, because the table next to us wouldn't stop tutting and staring at ds, who was lying on the carpet between our chairs, clapping and squealing. So it would appear, not welcome in restaurants either!

Have given up typing decent post reports. They're just single word reports now.

Again: Slapping yourself once is very, very different to jumping up and down on a chair, shouting and hitting yourself with a shoe.

MNHQ should be ashamed to let a thread stand which basically consists of people arguing for disablism.

So sad to see the sheer level of arseholianism on here. Which is why despite the fact I'd love to see a tolerance campaign on here and would wholeheartedly support it I don't think it would work.

There are too many small minded disablist twats about. The worst thing is I be they think they're so 'right on' about any other ism.

Blue if you really work with kids with autism your ignorance astounds, shocks and depresses me in equal measure

Who said slapping self once?

It was repeatedly over the course of an hour and a half.

What are the permitted number of slaps/flaps before one becomes distinctly non-u then?

I only tackled the wheelchair question as it had been brought up so many times it seemed rude to ignore it.

Morningrunner you should be ashamed to post such shite.

Morningrunner you should be ashamed to post such shite.

i hope that mnhq don't delete this thread, though. there have been so many good responses to the upsetting posts.

Ohhhh hazey how I wish I could have dealt with those tutters for you...

Dissecting the number of slaps is fucking vile

I don't think a campaign would work. I think by letting this thread stand MNHQ have made it pretty clear parents of disabled kids cannot find support here.

I think I will vote with my feet and go elsewhere