To think adults who can't drive are a nuisance

[Atthewelles]

Barring situations where an illness or financial circumstances proscribe it aibu to think adults who can't drive are a PITA. People have to constantly go out of their way to collect/drop them off places; arrange plans around the times that suit the non-driver who can't travel solo but has to tag along with you; always be the designated driver who can't have a drink while the non driver happily slurps a third glass of wine etc etc etc

Yes, I have been spending too much time with a non driving sibling over the family Christmas but AIBU to think that a perfectly functioning adult (who is extremely technically minded) in full time paid employment, should bloody well learn to drive.

I drive.

It is NOT a "necessary" skill if you can get public transport or manage without it.

I drive to work because its an inaccessible by bus.

And plenty of children walked to school for miles and didn't dissolve in the rain when I was at school. And still do.

I totally get why plenty of people don't drive even if they have no medical issues or money issues.

I would prefer not to have to drive to work when I am fighting with traffic and inconsiderate drivers.

Oh goody, are we all going to get what we prefer all the time now?

i admit that some aspects of my life might be easier if i did drive- I would save time and it would be convenient if i had my own car. But then again, some aspects of my life would be easier if I was a foot taller or had bigger norks or if I was married to johnny Depp. I don't need those things, just the same as I don't need to drive.

i do

i'm a right cunt PITA though

but someone kindly invented coats and shoes, so we're not all that badly off

mostly i stand in the street, crying, until someone i know drives past and is guilted into giving me a lift, it's only right you know

(Not you Salmo)

(Poor timing)

(kids preferring cars to walking in bad weather)

I think the cagoule was a fine invention.

Line - children mustn't ever get wet.

I'm a non driver and have never asked anyone to drive me anywhere, I walk,use public transport and in an emergency take a taxi.I actually enjoy walking,driving is not for everyone.

I passed my test a year and a half ago aged 34. I love driving now and wouldn't be without it but it's not an essential. YABU to be so grumpy.

I'm wondering if I have defective 'poor little ones' - as they often insist on dragging poor me out to parks or country walks in such weather.

The cagoule was a mighty fine invention and our children won't wear them today because of all the car-drivers driving their children around. Kids today don't realise that when it rains you get wet because they have spent their entire lives as passengers, watching the weather from inside a car.

Oh I had a hideous lovely turquoise cagoule when I were nobbut a little bairny.

won't someone think of the chiiiiildren?

Yes Molly I suspect it does. I think the worst lift cadgers are women of a certain age who have never learned to drive but are used to the convenience of a spouse running them about. When they are divorced/widowed they expect all and sundry to fill the void. My MIL is very much of this ilk, I feign ignorance to her broad hints and watch her silently fume.

I get annoyed by the self centredness of her behaviour, she also expects people to come and perform DIY, sort out her computer at the drop of a hat, rather than the fact she can't drive per se.

But the water used to gather in dips and folds then pour out over my trousers in finest comedy tradition.

I had a bright red cagoule and I wore it till I was 18, when I was allowed my own umbrella.

I don't mind people not driving.

I do mind people like my friend (lovely in all other respects) who asks me if I fancy shopping in a nearby town/cinema etc and then if I say 'yes' says 'Great! Will you drive then?'

Sometimes if she's made plans with another of our friends and invites me tooI wonder if she actually wants me to come or if it's easier than getting the train/bus!

I coveted my friends umbrella.

I don't drive and I never expect anyone to go out of their way for me. I walk or catch public transport. I will learn to drive, but not until I can afford to run a car.

it's ok to choose not to drive but then to ask for weekly lifts to places that your neighbour is not going to anyway is what I find annoying.

We all walked to school and back in the 50s and 60s, our children did too.
I had 55 driving lessons years later and after each I was exhausted as so tense. Wouldn't overtake anything, and remember once stopping in a 4 lane at traffic lights, saw on the otherside there were only 3 lanes with a bus in one, and was terrified. Instructor took over the controls while I shut my eyes expecting to be squashed in the middle. Decided it was a danger to my and everyone elses health and gave it up.
My 83 year-old neighbour drives like sterling moss, but has excellent eyesight and reactions . Has never offered a lift to me in 15 years, and I have never asked.

always be the designated driver who can't have a drink while the non driver happily slurps a third glass of wine etc etc etc

If you want to drink, take public transport or share a cab like the non-drivers do.

Why should arrangements be made to siot drivers? make arrangements close to public transport!

Either offer a lift with good grace or don't. Your general attitude is V passive aggressive.

(I am a driver)