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Original poster

Well my DH hasn't lifted a finger

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Lynned · 26/12/2012 13:26

But he lifted his feet so I could vacuum under them. Still have a pile of presents to wrap (for his family on Saturday). Made a lasagne ( admittedly the meat sauce was from the freezer) and an ice cream bomb for dessert. Sorted two loads of washing... Need I go on? I could easily be the Asda mum!

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lubeybooby · 26/12/2012 13:27

Why are you doing this? Why should he get to live like a single man in a hotel with maid service? why? whyyyyyyyyyyyy?

JustFabulous · 26/12/2012 13:27

Don't be a martyr. Tell him to get off his arse and muck in.

susanann · 26/12/2012 13:28

so tell him to get off his arse! You dont have to put up with it.

BerryChristmas · 26/12/2012 13:29

We call my sister Maggie the Martyr - would you like to join her???

dreamingbohemian · 26/12/2012 13:30

Don't wrap those presents! They're for his family. If he never gets around to it then you can explain to them exactly why.

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Lynned · 26/12/2012 13:30

I'm just so damn soft. He did wash up yesterday to impress ML, they have not entered the 21st century and don't have a dishwasher. And he does go back to work tomorrow!

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pumpkinsweetieMasPudding · 26/12/2012 13:30

Get him off his bee-hind!
It's your Christmas too!

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Lynned · 26/12/2012 13:31

Right. I shall make him help wrap, I will tell him MN said so.

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susanann · 26/12/2012 13:33

give him a list of jobs to do. Who did all the shopping, cooking etc. Bet it was you? Its your xmas too!

EuroShagmore · 26/12/2012 13:34

Why do people stand for this shit?

BigcatLittlecat · 26/12/2012 13:34

My DH is still in bed! I dong mind! He hasn't had a day off since middle of November! Back in work tomorrow! Joy of running own business!
Meanwhile dishwasher is on for 2nd time and done 4 loads of washing!
Will have to wake him up as going to my parents for Christmas dinner part 2!

JustFabulous · 26/12/2012 13:35

"He did wash up yesterday to impress ML, how pathetic. they have not entered the 21st century and don't have a dishwasher. And he does go back to work tomorrow!" And?

JustFabulous · 26/12/2012 13:36

Don't tell him MN said so Hmm. Tell him his family, his job.

JethroTull · 26/12/2012 13:38

If you're happy doing it all - fine. If not, tell him what needs doing & have a sit down with a cup of tea.

TheJoyfulChristmasJumper · 26/12/2012 13:39

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Lynned · 26/12/2012 13:39

He's not that bad really! Their trouble is they don't think the same way as us. If I asked him to do something he would. It would just be nice just for things to get done without asking.

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Pochemuchka · 26/12/2012 13:39

Take yourself off up to bed/to read/to chill out for a bit. If you have young children, more's the better - leave them with him.

Tell him to get off his backside and give him some tasks to do while you relax. Not ideal that you have to tell him but better than being a total martyr like other posters have said.

SayMama · 26/12/2012 13:41

Who is their ?

Don't tar my DH with that brush, he is more than capeable of getting on with stuff without being prompted.

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Lynned · 26/12/2012 13:42

My dcs are 11 and 14, and glued to their respective xboxs and kindle fire. I am (shock horror) a sahm, so I do most things on a normal week.

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sweetkitty · 26/12/2012 13:44

Are you married to Jim Royle?

Of course if your happy doing everything he's going to sit on his arse, you know you will have the next 30 years of waiting on him?

Don't do it tell him to get off hs arse.

TheJoyfulChristmasJumper · 26/12/2012 13:46

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Lynned · 26/12/2012 13:46

Lol at Jim Royal! I have just asked for someone to set the table, maybe if they don't, I will put mine on a tray and leave theirs!

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Pochemuchka · 26/12/2012 13:50

I'm a SAHM too and my DP can be a total arse when he's working (own business) but even he's been doing stuff over Christmas and giving me lots of time to rest and have time to myself.
I assume your DH isn't working over Christmas? In which case he should be taking an equal share of the work and you shouldn't keep making excuses for him.
I'm starting to think you actually like doing it all Hmm

dreamingbohemian · 26/12/2012 13:50

Let me guess: you were the one who actually took the time to buy the presents for his family, right? So the least he can do is wrap them.

dreamingbohemian · 26/12/2012 13:51

And yes, if no one sets the table, don't serve them dinner. Making up your own tray sounds like a great solution!

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