To have told SIL "no...NOT Pardon!"?

[MrsMushroom]

We're abroad with DHs family.

DD aged 4 didn't hear something SIL said.....DD said "What?" and SIL said "WHAT? WHAT??? I think you mean PARDON don't you?"

I HAD to say..."No...in England "what" is fine. Or If you prefer..."sorry, I didn't catch that."

Was I rude? I just don't want DD saying "Pardon" or even worse "P'don"

Oh and Merry Christmas everyone!

tidy At no point did I say that the convo as only between SIL and DD. It was a discussion around a table with more than 2 involved. So I was not wrong at all.

ever;long I don't mind SIL or MIL helping out with manners at all. It was that she corrected her wrongly.

Fine, split hairs then! Your DD said "what?" to your SIL. That portion of the conversation was being them.

Hardly anyone who posts in AIBU thinks they were wrong so it surprises me little that you don't either.

Therein lies the problem then. You think she corrected her wrongly, she didn't. This is about your opinion only. You can't have absolutes here. The fact that you are trying to insist on one is making this into a much bigger deal than it needs to be.

Wrongly in your opinion. Plenty of people on this thread disagree with you.

'pardon' is like saying 'ta' instead of 'thank you'

OP is right. 'Pardon' is horrible.

I'm not keen on pardon, but "what" is rude in this house and the kids will be told not to say "what", but "sorry , I didn't catch that /hear what you said"

KIM and if you were my child's teacher, I would suggest that you go on a course to learn some manners.

Its not 'what' .... Saying 'What' is very rude!!!!!!!!!

Sorry, could you repeat that please

should be
'what did you say?'
pardon is irredeemably naff and just 'what' is a bit rude.

Burp and fart in public is nasty !!!

Oh, I misunderstood your OP. I thought your issue was pissed-off-ness that your sil had correct your dd over setting as triivial as here choice of "what" over "pardon". In which case I would defo say YANBU.
But actually, if I understand it from your more recent posts you're looking for confirmation that your use of "what" is correct and you were right in pointing this out. In which case I think you were both BU?
some ppl y "what" and some say "pardon" on the whole ppl are usually not trying to piss the recipient of e word off (especially at the age of 4 one would hope). The class issue is a red herring IMHO. Just because it's mc/ uc / wc to use a particular word doesn't make it necessarily right or wrong. Correcting ppl about somantics on such a scale is a bit rude really and rudeness can be found cross-class as we all know.

well if it's a matter of opinion, SIL had no business correcting OP's child in the first place!

I'm with you MrsMushroom. It' s not like your dd said "you fucking what?" Didn't need correcting, SIL was trying to demonstrate superior linguistic skills and made herself look a dick.

Ggrrrrr to autocorrect on this iPad.

Why do some posters think that "Pardon" is so horrible? What is it that makes it so bad?
apparently it is because 'pardon' is French and we are English. Took me years to find that out.

Baubles

Kim She never said "You what?" she said "What?" in a pleasant, questioning tone.

This is fucking hilarious.

Oh, thanks Kim

Frankincense you fucking WHAT? I beg your frigging PARDON!?