I was at a Christmas Party on sat night with my husband. I was chatting to a woman whose dh works with my dh. She works full time and has 3dc. I dont work, and have 5dc. She was telling me how totally organised she is for Christmas, has had all her presents bought, wrapped and put in the loft by the end of october. Then she told me that her Xmas dinner table is always set to perfection as she is very particular that everything is just perfect on the day.
So far so good. I must admit to feeling a little inadequate that I was nowhere near as organised as she is, but thats ok, I can live with that. But then she turned to me as said, "So Irishchic, how do you put in your day? I mean you must have SO much free time now that your youngest has started school, you're like a real lady of leisure arent you!?!"
I was 
a bit gobsmacked. She was being perfectly serious. I have met her on occasion before and she always makes some allusion to me not working, but never anything quite as irritating as this. My dh has also told me that her dh has to frequently listen to her going on about how "easy" irishchic has it at home compared to her.
I was blindsided and muttered something about plenty of housework, shopp[ing laundry etc that has to be done. My dh told me after that I should have just told her to "wind yer neck in love!" or something along those lines.
My dh has a v stressful and busy work life,he is also involved in community and voluntary stuff, so I pretty much run everything else in our lives bar work, I know many women manage all this and more, I take my hat off to them genuinely, but I feel pretty stretched in my own role, and certainly dont spend my days idling away constantly remodelling my house or something.
I am pissed off with her for the comment, but MOSTLY am annoyed with myself for trying to frame a polite response instead of being able to put her in her place with a witty retort. It really ruined my night.
AIBU?