OH is a twat!!

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I've done a double shift today so OH was at home with our DS who is 3.5. I AM HORRIFIED to find out he hasn't gave DS a drink since 4pm as he has been a bit sickly lately, fair enough, don't give him milk just before bedtime but at least give him water or juice! He doesn't go to bed till 8pm and sleeps all night. He is off his food so I don't feel like he is as humgry if I give him milk at 7ish, I'm now sat here thinking my poor son has been deprived of a drink so OH hasn't had to deal with sick...
When he told me I calmly remarked that it was a bit shit not letting him have a drink, he stormed off and locked himself in spare room saying I was over reacting and to piss off, leave him alone and that I had won if I wanted space to myself.
I was fine untill he said he refused him a drink, I feel so sorry for DS who will now have to go 16hrs for a drink!!! Am I being unreasonable here, I don't think I am, if he is feeling and being sick he should have fluids! But to say to him "no your not having a drink incase your sick!" is awfull! I can't beleive OH saying I'm over reacting!

We were not dehydrated before. We just didn't wee so much.

Can i just point out, in a making a point kind of way, to sock that neurological disorders don't mean you can't parent well. I've got a permanent neurological condition but my kids are just fine, even when dh has to work overnight. Because it makes no difference .

Yes um being pedantic. But neurological is often used in the wrong context. I find it hard to walk, write, sew, keep my balance. But I'm still a bloody good mum!

"Why are people sk obsessed with drinking now?"

It has been standard medical advice for at least 40 years to keep sick children hydrated.

Refusing a child drinks for hours is crappy parenting.

There are a lot of people on this thread as thick as the bad father in the OP.

Oh I miss the good old days. My mother never gave us drinks we had to go in the garden and lick the grass like cats.

There was always water in the toilet if we were really thirsty.

3.5 year olds are old enough to find it :o

We were only allowed water in winter and only then if we got icicles.

Weegie,

I'm sure you are. It was just a example of where some one may not be, I was referring directly to a example I personally am familiar with of someone whose condition means that unfortunately with out support they are not. It was not intended to be in any way representative of anyone that I don't know.

I personally am rather obsessed with making sure my children stay hydrated when ill. Because one of my dc's was ill in hospital and in the space of a few hours when not provided with liquid went from mild dehydration to ICU for several days very poorly because of life threatening dehydration.

It's a mistake I will never allow to happen again in my own family.

I used to ask Santa for water every year boy that was a treat he would put a little beaker in my stocking

Well then pickledinapeartree its a shame my daughter didnt ask Santa and only asked a nurse.

Ffs. Just trying to lighten the mood on this ridiculous thread sock.

You obviously think its ridiculous, I given my experience with the subject think that anybody who thinks that way is a bit thick.

And you weren't lighting the mood you were posting inane comments in an effort to join in with the tag team of other people who can't comprehend that it can be dangerous.

pickled did actually agree with you and the op up thread sock

I agreed with you up thread several times sock so you might want to check my point of view before you tear me a new bum hole.

Fair point well presented.

Sorry I'm in a vile mood and totally should not take it out on you at all. My bad so I'm taking myself to the naughty step.

Ha ha

This thread is enough to send is all on the naughty step sock.

I will join you on step sock. Not been norty but am tired and could do with a sit down!

Everybody knows that a sick child is at risk of dehydration and that it's important to maintain their fluid intake. It's just that some of us thought the OP had overreacted somewhat.

As an aside, the benefits of constantly sipping water are very much overstated; I share bigkids view on that.

"I called him cruel and told him he was bang out of order, cue him heading for spare room, I just had to know I wasn't over reacting as he told me I was being a bunny boiler"

That would have upset me - if he made a misguided mistake, he was probably already feeling bad about it when you drew his attention to it. Calling him cruel is very harsh and probably made him feel terrible, which lead to the defensive response.

"if he made a misguided mistake, he was probably already feeling bad about it when you drew his attention to it."

He drew her attention to his cruel idiocy by boasting that the child wouldn't vomit because he had refused to give him anything to drink for hours.

I'm glad your son got his drink, OP. It gives me chance to tell the story of why I came close to punching SIL in the face, too.

Childminder was ill and DH and I were both working late that day so SIL offered to look after DS (1.11 at the time). I wrote a chart for her telling her roughly what time he liked to eat and what to give him etc.

Came home at 11pm, SIL says DS has been unsettled and crying all night. I ask how much he ate for his tea.

"Tea? He hasn't had any. You didn't write down he needs to be given an evening meal. Oh! That'll be why he got so upset when I was eating those crisps earlier. He was hungry. Anyway, look at this on Facebook..."

So my poor little pfb hadn't had anything to eat from 12 noon and had spent the evening crying with hunger. I didn't know I had to spell it out that children like to eat regularly. How I didn't lamp her I'll never know!