To be fed up with jealous people who seem to hate anyone who has more money than them?

[SexyClaus]

I seem to epitomise what some people hate - I live in a gated estate, drive a 4x4, am a SAHM and send my children to private school. Why does this mean that some people think this gives them a right to be rude to me or about the choices my family make? I would never look down on anyone who doesn't have or do what I do, so why is it ok to do it the other way round? I am so fed up with it! And you know the ones I really can't stand? Champagne socialists who think they are all left-wing with socialist ideals but are really just like me!

I'm glad to hear it ophelia, and am also glad your instilling good values

everlong I agree that some of the comments have been OOO; but mostly, she hasnt said anything besides her first OP; how else could the thread go? It was either going to get daft or be silent.....

If she gave some examples, then people could discuss

In the reverse scenario, the same would apply

OP must be out braving the school run vipers.

I'd quite like to be referred to as the posh one with the pearls as opposed to the rough one with DMs and piercings

I dont believe that is true everlong

There are as many snobs on MN, as there are inverted snobs

Again I kind of hope her dp is nuts deep in a chubby bird who works down the bookies... is something i find deeply offensive. Totally uncalled for. My friend killed herself and left her 8 month baby without a mother because she was in a situation like that. Vile.

I don't think anyone really cares do they? Are the gates to keep you in or people out?
If this is your normal conversation opener I can see why you might feel disliked. It's not jealousy though.

We have been heard! MNHQ has bowed to pressure and hired an amusing, and festive house troll for us!

THANK YOU OLIVIA!
Cheers mate, Justine.

Hurra!!

I hope you are still at it after 5 when I will be back.

'If your name is Dawn or Donna no amount of who vs. whom is going to make you seem classy.'

A for that, if nothing else.

Oh Sexy I didn't ask if you smoked, I asked it you had any ashtrays?

I didn't ask how many loos you had, I asked what do you have in them?

If nothing else, I am annoyed at the OP for fuelling the MN opinion that anyone who has a 4x4 or any other flash car is a twat and should dive a 1990 Micra. OP is not an idiot because of the 4x4, some of us have nice cars because we prioritise it as something we really want. It doesn't mean we think we are better than the 1990 Micras, we just have different characters.

There are some vile posts here. And no, I'm not talking about the op. I'm talking about the sort of comments which suggest that because she's a sahm, her husband must be shagging a prostitute. Disgusting comments. And worse than anything the op said.

see, I am generally an inverted snob; but I have a huge range of friends from heads of state to those who have watched dcs die of malnutrition

I find it really rancid, that someone would assume that people disliked her because she has too much money/people are jealous

Most people at all levels, have much more profound and fundamental considerations. I find it hard to have empathy/sympathy with someone feeling hard done-by in this way. Be defined by your actions woman. And stop whining

yes everlong threads about 4x4s usually have majority in support of..

No one is "better" than anyone else. There is nothing wrong, though, with working hard to give one's family a nice time and one's children a good start in life.

I do actually sympathise with the OP's point, though not the way she comes across. My wife is frequently judged because she has a relatively easy life compared to some. But, so what, she does her best for our children, does voluntary work and has nice hobbies, which she also uses to improve others' lives. What is wrong with that? There is no virtue in having to struggle.

There is something very Northern European about material jealousy. In the States and a lot of the World, seeing someone with nice things is an inspiration to others..."see what I or my children can aspire to". In the UK it is an excuse to whinge about how unfair life is and maybe cast aspersions about how someone better off got to where they did.

The only thing the OP does not get is that one should have a certain noblesse oblige if one is lucky to have a nice life, which means keeping ostentation down and not shouting about how wonderful your life is.

I don't envy you. A gated estate? How frightfully naff.....

I think that most of the posts here are unfair to the OP.

The accusation of boasting is ludicrous - who could be arsed to anonymously boast on an internet forum? There is literally no advantage or benefit to it, yet it gets thrown around quite a lot as an insult on here.

Rather, she has read MN over a period and realised that certain aspects of her life come in for heavy criticism and she wonders why that is OK.

I don't suppose she's losing sleep, or comparing it to some of the vastly more serious problems people are dealing with, but she's asking the question.

We have no evidence whatsoever that she is boastful or unpleasant in real life, so to suggest that she is seems hurtful and unfair.

I was called a 'rich bitch' this morning when I pulled over to ask directions - presumably a comment on my car, yet I would certainly not say 'poor bitch' to someone who pulled over in an ancient old banger, and I was a bit shocked and hurt (although I realise that worse things happen at sea etc etc).

Well the first few posts seemed to set the tone for the thread, so I guess the OP realised pretty quickly that there was little point offering examples or expecting any serious debate.

The first seven posts included a yawn, a biscuit, a raised eyebrow, being called a twat and being accused of gloating. She probably got a bit defensive after that, although I haven't seen any posts from the OP that are as breathtakingly offensive as some of the replies.

Can someone explain DawnDonna's name please? I am not classy, just thought it was a pretty combo