To be fed up with jealous people who seem to hate anyone who has more money than them?

[SexyClaus]

I seem to epitomise what some people hate - I live in a gated estate, drive a 4x4, am a SAHM and send my children to private school. Why does this mean that some people think this gives them a right to be rude to me or about the choices my family make? I would never look down on anyone who doesn't have or do what I do, so why is it ok to do it the other way round? I am so fed up with it! And you know the ones I really can't stand? Champagne socialists who think they are all left-wing with socialist ideals but are really just like me!

Actually my lovely niece too has a huge house, a huge car and two kids who when they're old enough will probably go to private school.
She also has a cleaner.
Her bloke is a very wealthy builder and they're having a very expensive wedding next year.
Her Mum and Dad are like me, struggling along, I'm in an HA house, they're caretakers for the village hall so get free accommodation.
I can't imagine her ever putting such a boastful post up, or ever imagine being jealous of her.
She's adorable and is what she is, as is her partner, (who is a gem).
So in my very humble opinion, you're probably not a very nice person.
I'm sure I engage every day with many people who are wealthy on MN. I just don't know as they don't boast or say woe is me.

Beside the point but am in airport in Thailand and would give a toe for a Greggs sausage roll. Stop mentioning them people. You're giving me the tummy rumbles.

Well get you Ophelia, I'm ever so jellus you're in Thailand.
You must be ever so rich .
strikes ophelia of people I respond to on MN list

doesnt jordan have gated propery, 4 *4 , kids private and talks about the haters.

obviously this is a wind up

Go get a life love. You clearly have none.

Yeah, I'm so jealous. I'd give up my title and twelve-bedroom house in an instant! pmsl

There is talk of problem social hoising tennants being moved into gated communities like yours OP. It is your duty to set an example of gracious living.

There was midwife where I last worked who worked in the UK for 9 months, then went to Thailand for 3 months, she had freaking servants there fgs, it really did show in her attitude .

I don't hate people with money in the slightest, well I suppose money inherited over generations from exploiting people who didn't know any better, yes I do hate them slightly.

It's the people who insist life is just as hard if you are loaded, than skint that do my nut in. Fair enough the emotional impact of life events is the same. Imagine your child is terminally ill in hospital, one set of people have lots of money, the other set a budget to the penny.

Spendy couple can visit whenever they like, buy sick child whatever they want, have takeaways when camping out at hospital.

Skint couple now have myriad more expenses, they have to negotiate who is going to stay overnight, work around work hours, budget bus fares/taxis, budget food for the person staying with the child.

They can't afford to take days off work for appointments, they can't afford fucking anything. Yet still expenses will keep cropping up.

The basic emotion of coping with a terminally ill child is obviously the same for everyone, but the added stresses of lack of money and the eventual debt breakdown must weigh heavily on those with less.

I have experienced this in a small way by having to visit a London hospital for something minor, it sucks and throws your finances out.

Where I am from, gated estates are full of ticky tacky houses that all look just the same, are often poorly built and are almost invariably crammed up right next to each other. There is very rarely someone actually manning the gates. At the moment we are living in a gated apartment complex in Hong Kong where there are three levels of security, which is such a pain in the proverbial as I have to produce my Octopus card for each one of them. Losing it means weeks of scrutiny by surly guards until our new one gets approved. Our apartment is lovely but tiny and looks just like everyone else's ... all 1300 of them or so. SAHM's, rightly or wrongly, are almost invariably considered stupid when one can hire an Indonesian or Filipino maid for 300 pounds a month . 4x4's elicit no envy anywhere in the world when it comes to petrol bills. Likewise with private school fees especially when a good lot of the students have been trained to think they are 'our future leaders' on the mere merit of having attended the same. If you are the type making money off GWOT etc, it's not likely that you are envied, just plain old despised really.

Beagle here for hospital as baby is sick

And not a feckin sausage roll in sight. weeps

Exactly, Tenpercenter.

your pearls must be massive if they are the thing people notice most about you. I'm picturing big long cruella de ville ropes.

Easily answered op, you have a total lack of emotional intelligence and empathy, you do not seem to have any understanding of what other people could be going through and expect no judgement yet are happy to judgement others. Money is an emotional subject for lots of people. Human nature is a funny old thing maybe you could do a family project on it.

This is hilarious, surely a pisstake from OP? Proof that money can't buy you class. Hmmm hiow can I boast about how much more I have than others, I'll go on the Internet and pretend people hate me for it. Believe me, nobody dislikes you for what you have, they dislike you for thinking you're better than them. Nobody's more consumed with what you have than you and your compulsion to boast about it. Reminds me of that Samantha Brick, poor you

I kind of hope her dp is nuts deep in a chubby bird who works down the bookies..

What an utterly vile and revolting thing to say. How would you feel if that was said to you? I hope you never have your family torn apart and lose your home and everything you hold dear to you.

This thread is stupid and the OP is either a troll or a masochist but nobody deserves that. Really really nasty.

I tend to find that people who claim others dislike them due to jealously are somewhat lacking in self awareness.

People don't dislike you because you are wealthy,they dislike you because your attitude clearly rubs them up the wrong way. Either have a think and address said attitude or learn to live with others not liking you.

also pearls? Are you an OAP?

Ophelia is baby ok?

op hope your pearls aren't too tight this morning.

puds yeah, just ickle for her age. Am currently teaching her that having a 4x4 when you don't need a 4 wheel drive is pointless

I've been rich..

And now I'm poor.

Trust me, no one is thinking anything. You are imagining it because you know what? The poor people like me don't have the time/energy to be wasting on feeling jealous about people who have it. We're too busy trying to work out how we will pay the next bill and trying to make a concoction of food sorts out of the cupboard because paying for nappies came above buying food for ourselves.

Get over yourself. Seriously.

Oh. and you might want to make sure you have a back up plan for if your money disappears. Just because you have it now, doesn't mean you always will (speaking from personal experience here)

OP has proven her point I think.

I've got 2 left socks.

OP, what makes you think people are jealous?

I agree about back up. We have a great life (mainly due to having enough time to do nice things and spend time together rather than the money) but we know the bubble could burst at any minute. War could mean we are sent home with a day's notice. We have a shithole one bedroom flat in a shithole town and some savings but we spend nearly all our money on travelling and holidays. I could live in the shithole flat again if I had to, I wouldn't begrudge it after the amazing 10 years we have had.

Funnily enough you silly mare, my name is neither Dawn, nor Donna. It's a pun. Quite a classy one at that!

Don't feel jealous of Thai airports, if it's Bangkok its a filthy hole with nothing to do. Probably the worst airport in the world although Colombo is pretty dire as well. The worst queuers in the world are in Manilla and Bangkok airports