to not tell DH about DDs christmas money ?

[OhDearNigel]

DHs uncle always sends us money for Christmas and the cheque came yesterday. DH did not realise that a separate envelope had come for DD and thought the money was for all of us.

DD and I opened her card and out came a crisp £20 note. WIBU to never mention its existence to DH ? He will only put it in her savings account which is where he squirrels away all her birthday ahd Christmas money. Which is not very exciting, is it ? DD, by the way, is 3. I want to buy her a toy with it. She only gets new toys at Christmas and birthday so it's not as if we're knee deep in them ! And she has outgrown most of her stuff from last year

Since the Uncle has sent cash separately and your money in a cheque, I think it is entirely possible he intends her to get a toy as well. He probably knows all too well what would otherwise happen. I think 3 is the age when toys are most beneficial. How about some girly Lego?

Five - but it doesn't sound like the OP's house is overrunning with toys. This little girl is going to get one toy at christmas from the whole family, and she only gets gifts at Christmas and birthdays so at this stage, if this is normal she owns a grand total of 6 toys. It's not like she's getting hundreds anyway. This would just mean she gets 2 toys this year. hardly the sea of brightly coloured plastic that will cover my living room.

This is in a family rich enough that the child benefit doesn't need to be used for everyday expenses, but can be saved. Most odd.

I don't think anybody has said dash out and buy something straight away.just that she should be allowed to pick a toy.

I think I'm going to take a pp suggestion and only send vouchers for toy shops in future its a shame really as I usually avoid them due to companies going bust and then not letting people use them.

I've been thinking about your thread a lot....

I think you should buy your dd a toy with the money, as it was sent by her great uncle in lieu of a Christmas present.

Also, try and think about what your dd will take from her upbring, into her adult relationships. Personally I am quite secretive with money and never tell dh what money I have. This is a throwback from my childhood, where my mum had to be secretive as my father was controlling...I agree with marriedandwreathedinholly completely.

I hope you and dd have a lovely Christmas x

Also, try and think about what your dd will take from her upbringing

Dontmind, completely agree. Was more a general comment as the dcs tend to get quie a bit of money for birthdays and christas. I always assumed people were happy with me making the decision on their behalf to save it. Actually I know mil is as she gives them money precisely because they have and get so much stuff.