To be daydreaming about having a minor accident that puts me in hospital for a couple of days :(

[larks35]

I know I am really. But I am just so worn out! I work full-time and have a 3yo and 8mo. Mine is the main (at this point only) income we have. I do enjoy my job (teacher) and that is my main focus during the week. But I obviously also love my family and they are my focus in the evenings and weekends. DD has been teething and a bit ill recently so nights have been broken. I had another parents' evening tonight (have had one per week for the last 3 weeks). I have a mound of marking that I'll struggle to do, probably tomorrow, saturday and sunday evening.

I just need a break! And yes, I know I'll get two weeks off over Christmas and I am lucky with that compared to others, but that is just another kind of work and I'm all out of steam .

So my daydream is to have a minor accident that entails a two night stay at hospital. Work will be sympathetic, DP will have to cope and I'll just sleep and read. I obviously need to work on my work/life balance.

Gosh OP I get it. I have been walking to work and half hoped I could be involved in some kind of minor accident. I actively used to fantasize about the lift I was in, taking me to my floor, would break down as I would rather spend THE WHOLE DAY stuck in the lift than be at work.

As the lift doors opened every day I would think "damn you you fucking reliable lift"

I'm a nurse.

I'm a SAHM (one dc not at school, 2 are) and I often get this.

Pre dcs I was a bit nonplussed when my mother was recalling with fondness a bout of flu that meant that my older brothers were taken away by their grandparents for a fortnight.

God, I understand now what she meant.

I had really bad tonsillitis a couple of years ago. Hideous pain and just grim. But I look back and just think of all the sleep and me being alone in bed at night and reading in early hours when I couldn't sleep, and the dcs being kept away.

I've thought about it, and i think very light appendicitis might be reasonable. My friend had hers out last year and was in hospital for a few days. She said it was brill!! (once pain under control).

Feeling your pain OP. I had a bunion op last year and had a lovely 6 weeks on the sofa. I didn't miss school at all and I was relieved of childcare duties at home. It was just what I needed to recharge my batteries.

I thought that too until I developed an illness which involves hospital stays.
The food is rank, they are often dirty, you get no decent sleep and not all of the staff are nice.

I loved it when the lights went out really early and all I had to do was sleep.
And I didn't mind the early wakening either, I'd get my coffee in bed and could doze of again..
I'm so sorry for everybody that have had bad stays in hospitals, all my nurses were amazing.
to all you lovely nurses out there, IME the vast majority of you are wonderful and caring.

Yanbu (don't bloody well do it though).

I had to have a hysterectomy 3yrs ago. Once I knew I was alive afterwards I spent a couple of days sleeping off the GA and morphine. I was actually excited to not have to do anthing for 6 weeks. Was a much happier, better mum once I recovered as I'd recharged my batteries.

I've had a couple of GA's recently for IBS, to be fair I hate having them as it's so scary but it's such bliss being able to get a decent hours sleep and relax for a while.

It's the lack of guilt that makes it wonderful! That for once you can not do anything and it is not your fault and that you will not have to pay for your lovely time off with dh having an equivalent time off in the future!

About 18 months ago I had just gone back to work when dd caught a stomach bug. Dh went to work in the am whilst I would I. The pm. At about 10 am I started throwing up. When the phone rang at 11am and it was dh saying he was on his way home as he'd been made redundant and escorted out of the building my first thought was "thank god for that - he can look after dd".

It's not just teachers, I remember feeling like that quite often when the kids were younger. I actually fantasised about being old and moving to a retirement home where all the meals and washing etc were done for you!

Sorry to link to another thread, but this has inspired me to ask a short survey, if anyone's interested. www.mumsnet.com/Talk/_chat/1636668-Straw-poll-wishing-for-minor-accident-illness

In hospital you don't have to do any work when you're woken up in the middle of the night; you can roll over and go back to sleep.

Having spent several nights lately having to talk for hour after hour to a suicidal and at times hallucinating child and then doing a full day's work, I think I could just about cope with the night nurse coming round a couple of times in the night with my pills. If I could have a few days of guilt free rest without fear, I wouldn't be quibbling about the quality of the food or a bit of noise on the ward.

I'd be all for the short hospital stay- except I'd be so bloody frightened about what was happening to dd if I wasn't there.

Whether a hospital stay would be better or worse depends on your current quality of life. Mine atm is pretty bloody low.

Yabu. I'm on my 11th day in hospital with pneumonia and it's not a nice rest at all.

I have some sympathy. I was a teacher and remember the absolute never ending ness of it all.

But my daydream would be not to be disabled and unable to work and able to put my feet up whenever I like. That's. Fairly overrated. Mine would be to be able to teach again.

Just another perspective, but realise this is heavily influenced by this shit stay in hospital.

That sounds horrible, MadHair

Please have some and . And hope you feel better soon.

Thanks cory. Though I may save the wine until my iV course is ended

I know this is meant to be light hearted, but this is one of the saddest threads I have ever seen on here, the quiet despair of women who are so exhausted that a hospital stay seems appealing and a treat.

cory/madhair - sorry you are both having a rotten time.

This was how I knew I had to go to the doctor about being depressed. I was chatting to someone through their car window and I wanted them to run over my foot and break it so that I'd have to have some time off. It took all of my willpower to move it out of the way.

I've been throwing up today, not a bug but a balance thing, but because I had about an hour between bouts I didn't feel ill enough to have a day off without feeling guilty. The cover lady answers the phone at this time of year and says 'I can't cover you!' but if you are in hospital you know they will have to accept it. When I ended up in hospital on a drip due to the constant vomiting it was awful, but everyone was very sympathetic and I felt genuinely ill enough not to feel guilty. Today I've just felt ill, but not ill enough, and had to fend off non-stop 'Can we do something for Christmas' questions from over-excited teenagers.

I'd just like some sleep for Christmas.

Totally agree with Larks...Esme the PGCE was the hardest year of my life, rivalled only by the NQT year. I have also wished for a sick bug/flu/ any illness which would buy me a couple of days of marking in bed. I have lots of kids and am absolutely shattered, but I wouldn't do any other job :) The perks and benefits far outweigh the bad bits.

Thanks larks35 - I think what worries me post-PGCE is the fact that these kids are totally relying on me. At the moment, if things aren't going too well, I know there's a professional in the room with me who can pick up some of the slack and teach what needs to be taught.

madhair sorry you're having such a tough time but this thread is about minor illnesses and pneumonia is definitely not minor. We're only fantasising about a short, worry free hospital stay.

I also don't think this is a sad thread, just a wry, realist one. I don't think many people could say they haven't wanted to run away from something for a short time if they could. The vital thing is any of us rarely do. Everyone fantasises/imagines how aspects of their lives could be better - this doesn't mean we 're all clinically depressed, dysfunctional human beings.

Another teacher who totally gets it. We had Ofsted visit a few weeks ago. It was a frosty morning and I found myself hoping for a small skid and bump - nothing major, just enough to have to go to hospital to get checked out. My downside is that I am long-term supply. If I don't go in, I don't get paid :( I don't even have any DC but my Christmas 'break' is already pretty much fully booked; the garden looks like Steptoe's yard, the bathroom hasn't been cleaned in weeks, I have a million loads of laundry to do and the loft needs insulating and has done for years

I was actually wondering today how on earth people teach FT and have children as DH and I are hoping to start TTCing soon. It made me cry in the filthy shower

Nurse, single parent, abusive Ex, relentless court battles over child contact. It's relentless. Sometimes I would like to bow to the pressure and admit that it's all too much. I am fighting so hard to keep all the balls in the air and I just want to sleep for a whole night and have a lie in next day I know I should stop putting a brave face on, my physical health is suffering and I am falling into a bad place with regards my mental health.

But tomorrow is a new day. And this show must go on

Last year I booked myself into a 5star hotel for two nights. Best £240 I've ever spent.

Three days and two nights of sleep, tv, book reading, chocolate with the odd wander down to the pool in the basement.

I know the feeling - also work in a school (support staff), although I have to disagree that Autumn term is the hardest. For me it's summer term that is the absolute bastard. Every year I forget and every summer I'm at how exhausting and how much of a pita it is.

And next year the second half of it is nearly 8 weeks long...

I hate next term - twelve long weeks with only two days off in the middle. (We don't do "half term" in Scotland.) The weather's pish, it can still snow at any time, and there's sod-all to look forward to.

Luckily this year I'm starting a new job after Christmas, so I'm excited about next term!