To be daydreaming about having a minor accident that puts me in hospital for a couple of days :(

[larks35]

I know I am really. But I am just so worn out! I work full-time and have a 3yo and 8mo. Mine is the main (at this point only) income we have. I do enjoy my job (teacher) and that is my main focus during the week. But I obviously also love my family and they are my focus in the evenings and weekends. DD has been teething and a bit ill recently so nights have been broken. I had another parents' evening tonight (have had one per week for the last 3 weeks). I have a mound of marking that I'll struggle to do, probably tomorrow, saturday and sunday evening.

I just need a break! And yes, I know I'll get two weeks off over Christmas and I am lucky with that compared to others, but that is just another kind of work and I'm all out of steam .

So my daydream is to have a minor accident that entails a two night stay at hospital. Work will be sympathetic, DP will have to cope and I'll just sleep and read. I obviously need to work on my work/life balance.

[SauvignonBlanche]

YANBU, I'm fantasising about a minor fracture that meant I didn't have to work over Christmas and New Year.
DH's office is closed down for 2 bloody weeks, we're allowed 2 days over the festive period.
I'm knackered and don't want to do it. Why do people have to be ill at Christmas?

[KenDoddsDadsDog]

My best one ever was having a Christmas baby three years ago. Nobody expected anything!

[LadyFlumpalot]

The point I realised I had PND was when I was driving down a country road towards a main road and saw a tractor coming along quite slowly.

I was alone in the car so I did briefly seriously consider driving out to be hit by the tractor. I figured it wasn't going fast enough to seriously hurt me, but I would probably end up in hospital for a few days and could take my ear plugs and get a few nights SLEEP. I didn't because I didn't want to hurt my car!

So no, YANBU, but please don't act on any of those thoughts.

[Bunbaker]

If you lived round here (South Yorks) all you would need to do is step outside the door. You will slip on the ice rink outside and end up in hospital with a very long wait in A & E while they tend to all the broken bones.

Many schools are opening late today because of the treacherous conditions, the traffic is chaotic and many buses aren't on the road yet.

I took the decision to take DD in late because it is so icy, then the school texted to say they weren't opening until 10.30 anyway.

[TheDoctrineOfSnatch]

OP, I sympathise.

DH and I tag team at weekends. It's marginally tougher for the one doing the care but it's so much better for the other one. Can your DH do the care on Saturday whilst you go to the cinema or something?

[honeytea]

FgMy mum said almost exactly what you said op, she is a teacher.

I have been on bed rest for weeks because of high blood pressure at the end of my pregnancy, my mum was saying how lucky I am and how she wished she could be on bed rest.
I am so incredibly bored, I just have hours to worry about everything the huge baby who is a week late and not properly engaged, the fact I can't walk about to try and get him to engage, the 2 months maternity lay that I won't get till the 20th and all the Christmas shopping we will have to do between the 20th and 24th (they want to induce me on the 22nd how am I going to give birth and do all the shopping in 2 days?) I spent the last of our money on wine for Christmas dinner as I thought that would at least make the situation of no presents and random food less noticeable.

I was upset my mum was envious of me having to rest but reading this thread has given me some insight into how she feels.

I hope you all have very merry and restful (accident free) Christmases :)

[whattodoo]

I'm sure this will be no consolation to anybody, but can I just let all the teachers, police officers, nurses etc know how much I appreciate and admire them.

My DD started reception this Sept, and she is knackered. But at least she doesn't have to pretend not to be miserable, or have to control all the festive lunacy, or comfort those who are going through tough times.

So, I know you're struggling and there doesn't serm to be a light at the end of the Christmas tunnel, but I for one want to raise a glass to you.
[Fblush]

[cory]

I am going in for an op in January but it won't be a minibreak; I will spend the time juggling my worries about dd who is ill and has been having suicidal thoughts again and will probably also be scheduled for an op around then. All relatives either live abroad or are in poor health and dh is starting a new job with a 6 hour commute so won't be able to be of much practical help. The work will be divided between myself and ds who is 12. And I have several work deadlines to meet, none of which can be covered by other people.

My daydream is to be in a situation where I could actually look forward to that hospital trip.

Sorry didn't mean to be competitively miserable.

But those of you who have a child with SN and/or MH problems will understand the feeling: it doesn't matter how ill you are because they need you so much and it's not something you can pass on to other people. If I can't function, dd might make another attempt .

[SouthernComforts]

I feel the same, Christmas is my busiest time at work, childcare is harder to find, my gp won't up my anti depressants until next week and I feel like I'm fighting against the tide all the time.

But my poor dad has had to go back to working outside on building sites at 70 years old I feel for him the most.

[LauraShigihara]

I just knew you would be a teacher! My very lovely friend is teaching Y3 this year and has been ringing most evenings. Most conversations start with 'Cough' cough, sniff - I'm so tired, Laura!' And she is, poor thing. It's so hectic this time of year and everyone is poorly. I was a fulltime TA for years and I remember how dark and dismal this time of year can be.

[cory]

Ooh, that sounds horrible, Southern, that is not something a 70yo should be doing.

[namechanger11111]

I went to have my wisdom teeth out under general antithetic when Ds2 was 3 and I was working full time. They told me to get changed then left me on a bed to wait for my slot. I read a magazine then fell asleep at about 10am, it was great. The nurse woke me up and said you haven't had anything done yet! I said I have a 3yr old and work full time I don't get much time to rest, she said fair enough and closed the curtain.

Although I did spent 2 weeks in hospital when Ds2 was just 1 having my gall bladder out and it wasn't very relaxing. I was nil by mouth for much of it and kept getting woken up what felt like every 5 mins and I was in a lot of pain.

I hope you manage to have a bit of a relaxing Christmas break.

[BiddyPop]

I am dreaming of something similar - amn't a teacher but due to DH travelling for work reasons (overseas, 2 weeks out of 4 for the past 18 months) I've been effectively single parenting and I know others have it a lot harder, but I am completely burnt out at the minute (FT very stressful job and DD has SN too, family live 160 miles away).

I am going to do NOTHING at least 3 days over Christmas (in between Christmas Day, DD's birthday, PIL visiting (local hotel though), going to my parents and trying to go see everyone else as well...).

[MuddlingMackem]

YANBU.

I wouldn't have guessed you were a teacher from your title as my friends and I who all work part time have all shared this fantasy on occasion.

Of course you know you're not going to do anything to actually make it happen, but it's a nice fantasy to indulge occasionally, just like one about winning the lottery, so no harm done.

[valiumredhead]

I really can't summon up sympathy for people who joke about hospital trips and minor fractures.

OP you will have 2 weeks off - not too bad really, is it?

[BrianButterfield]

valium - yes, we have 2 weeks off and that's great but have you not READ the thread? God, some people just don't get it. People are actively WISHING to end up in hospital for a break and you say it's "not too bad really"?

I'm a teacher too and know exactly how you feel. I had D&V the other day and while lying feeling like death in the evening I was secretly pleased that it meant I had to take a day off. On my own. Sick or not, it was such a wonderful wonderful thought, I was overjoyed. It was worth the D&V.

I woke up to the sound of DS puking. So my lovely day off on my own was spent with a poorly 15-month-old. It was nice to spend time with him but I feel robbed, and of course ended up more tired, wrung out and drained than before. I don't even get to be bloody sick on my own.

[valiumredhead]

Yes I have read the thread and I get it. Teaching is bloody hard ime but 'joking' about fractures and hospitals stays is distasteful and ridiculous and people who have actually spent time in hospital knows you get no rest at all and it's vile to be in there.

[BrianButterfield]

Who says the people joking haven't spent time in hospital?

[valiumredhead]

I know I sound snippy but if the OP had said she fantasied about having a spa break for a couple of days to recoup then I wouldn't have said a thing.

[valiumredhead]

Well clearly they have had better experience of hospitals than I have.

[valiumredhead]

I'm bowing out of the thread.

OP I hope you manage to rest up over the Christmas break :)

[LadyBeagleBaublesandBells]

I've had a couple of hospital stays Valium, one for a mastectomy, another for a collapsed lung.
And obviously it was no picnic but the care I got was second to none.
This is a lighthearted thread, and yes a little fracture to keep me in for a couple of days sounds rather pleasant..
I've obviously been luckier than you with my NHS care though.

[valiumredhead]

I honestly had such horrendous care, threads like this make me twitch!

[BrianButterfield]

The food in my local hospital is miles and miles better than school food.

[noblegiraffe]

The thing with a spa break is that it is a self-indulgence that won't be allowed mid-term. If you are in hospital, you get people telling you that you have to rest and you aren't allowed to go into work.

I had a bus run into the back of my car on the way to work when I was 3 months pregnant. After swapping details I carried on into school and taught a full day. If someone had told me to go home and see the doctor and sort out a hire car it would have been really appreciated.