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10 week old being taken to Scotland for 3days

116 replies

DillyDallyDayDream · 11/12/2012 22:10

Posting for a friend

Her MIL (they have a shit relationship) is demanding she takes my friends 10 week old away to Scotland for 3days. She's saying no as the distance is quite big (would travel from South east England).

Who's being unreasonable my friend or her mil?

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CabbageLeaves · 11/12/2012 22:26

No way.

MiL is wrong to 'demand' and DP is a twat for not recognising how ridiculous it is unless the child's mother is happy with it

FromGirders · 11/12/2012 22:26

Hahahahaha
Nope. Would never happen. MiL does not get to say what happens to a baby any time, let alone when baby is ten weeks old!!!

NervousAt20 · 11/12/2012 22:26

Mil is BU. and as for the demanding? WTF I would be telling her where to get off

FromGirders · 11/12/2012 22:27

And DP would be wearing his testicles as earrings!

Mingebiscuits · 11/12/2012 22:27

Friend needs to grow a pair and tell MIL to fuck right off! MIL is probably trying to rekindle her old feelings of being a new mum and wants baby all to her greedy self.

Smellslikecatspee · 11/12/2012 22:27

Just seen your last post if I were your friend I would be seriously thinking about my relationship.

As for MIL being a social worker, well then surely she should be aware of the needs of a young baby and its need to be close to its mother/ main care giver.

steppemum · 11/12/2012 22:28

Mil is unreasonable.

baby should not be separated from mum for 3 days at this age. Totally inappropriate, baby is still bonding. The baby would be distressed unless MIL has lots of daily contact with the baby now.

I am guessing she isn't breastfeeding. If she is then it is impossible as baby needs to stay with mum to feed.

I have argued before on threads about mums being so precious that their dps are not allowed to take the baby away for an hour/day, but that is the baby's dad, and only for a few hours.

Just feel the need to say it again

Ab so lu tely NO Way!!!

CaptainVonTrapp · 11/12/2012 22:28

I don't care what her job is but I don't believe a SW would 'demand' this of a 5 weeks old baby.

'Her partner' says it will be ok??? What's her partner got to do with it?

DillyDallyDayDream · 11/12/2012 22:28

I said exactly the same Mrs Terry's. The MIL IS a spiteful bitch anyway

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GentlyGentlyOhDear · 11/12/2012 22:29

Ridiculous! What is it with all of the entitled MIL threads at the minute?!

A social worker should know better than to suggest such a thing as well!

ArtexTheHallWithBoughsOfMonkey · 11/12/2012 22:29

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Northernlurker · 11/12/2012 22:30

I can see why your friend has a shit relationship with mil. Mil is a monster. Your friend should tell her to get stuffed. Same goes for 'D'P if he doesn't get his head out of his backside.

MrsTerrysChocolateOrange · 11/12/2012 22:33

Good for you Dilly. Now is the time for your friend to channel her inner tiger/bear/. She will need to learn to say no in a way that people will understand. She is now a Mother and will need to protect her LO from this really very odd person.

DoingitOnTheRoofTopWithSanta · 11/12/2012 22:33

A good SW would know that this is unacceptable.

Yes, that^

Your friend is insane if she starts letting MIL get away with that sort of shit now. I hope your friend is not breast feeding, as that would make the MIL unreasonable times a fucking billion

propertyNIGHTmareBEFOREXMAS · 11/12/2012 22:36

The mil needs to become an estranged mil ASAP. Why oh why does your friend even need to consider if she is being unreasonable. What madness.

propertyNIGHTmareBEFOREXMAS · 11/12/2012 22:40

MrsTerry, to be honest it is situations like this they the phrase 'fuck off' was invented for. The DIL needs to repeat the expletive liberally as required Grin

MrsTerrysChocolateOrange · 11/12/2012 22:42

Agreed, property, agreed. Xmas Grin

DillyDallyDayDream · 11/12/2012 22:55

She's said no and told mil to do 1 but mil keeps coming back even more demanding

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InLoveWithDavidTennant · 11/12/2012 22:59
Shock

a child that age should not be away from its mum... regardless of who is asking to have them.

scotland? for 3days? blooming madness!!

PuggyMum · 11/12/2012 23:00

Tell your friend that...

'No is a complete sentence'

She will soon have this as her mantra with her mil!

gimmecakeandcandy · 11/12/2012 23:00

Ffs what is it with all these cuntish mils I keep reading about lately? Tell your mate to tell her to fuck off to the far side of fuck and stay there.

JiltedJohnsJulie · 11/12/2012 23:05

Well mil can demand but agree your friend needs to tell her to FUCK OFF.

RayanneGraff · 11/12/2012 23:05

The MIL is unreasonable, to a staggering extent. Think you will get a MN consensus on this one.

maddening · 11/12/2012 23:09

Mil is vu

DonkeysInTheStableAtMidnight · 11/12/2012 23:13

Bonkers, not going to happen. Back up your friend fgs, this really isn't acceptable. Where is DP in all this, is he a man or a mouse? Sad if this relationship ends over MIL playing greedy granny over the 10 week old.

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