What's the most rude thing anyone has ever said/done to you?

[gail734]

OK, I know it's not really an AIBU, but it features people being definitely U! I was just putting on some eyeshadow (as you do) and I remembered this: a) years ago, I was in a noisy pub and drunk man said to his wife, "Look at this girl, isn't she lovely?" His wife looked right at me and said, "She would be if she'd learn to do her eye makeup right." Still no idea what was wrong with my eye makeup, so presumably am still making the same terrible mistake!

b) I once went on a very short taxi journey and the fare was £5. I gave the taxi driver £5.50, ie a 10% tip. He looked down at it and said, (I kid you not) "That's not much of a tip." I just went, "Thanks! Bye!"

c) My boyfriend gave me a pair of earrings for my birthday. I said to my friend, "Oh, I see you're looking at my earrings. DP gave me them for my birthday." "Is that ALL he gave you?" "Yes. They ARE real." (They were pearls.) She then said, "Oh. They don't LOOK real."

d) I was once flashed at. A proper, open-up-your-brown-raincoat flash. I was about 23, and it was right in the centre of the city, in broad daylight. The thing was, the flasher was a bit of an amateur and got the timing wrong. He let me get too close to him before opening up the raincoat. I didn't look down, so I didn't see anything. Still rude though. Or am I being over-sensitive?

I have a thyroid problem so can't put weight on and always get comments but this one took the mick.

I went to New look one day for some jeans but they had nothing in my size (6) so asked the girl behind the counter if it was possible to order some.
Girl just looked me up and down so I walked off, as I was leaving I heard her say to her co worker "well maybe she should eat something and put some weight on".

I'm ashamed to say I lost my temper and told her exactly what I thought of her customer service and where she can stick her poxy jeans.

I've got a gift for saying the wrong and causing unintentional offence. A colleague had her baby a few weeks early and I bumped into her a few weeks after baby was born. The most beatiful baby, so tiny. And I said :'aww, small, but perfectly formed.' I thought I was saying something nice, but she gave me the filthiest stare. Was I rude?

That sounds fine to me autumn. People always commented on how small DD was. I didn't mind that. I don't think that was rude.

See my previous post for how to be really offensive to a mum of a small early baby

Woman around the corner to me about school choices for her PFB " I wouldn't send my DS to your DS's school as the mothers are so awful".

She said the same to another friend, so don't think it was a joke ... although maybe it is just us she doesn't like.

My sister and my ex have been the cruelest.

I have heard I wish you were dead from both of them, but at least my sister was 13 at the time, not that it makes it okay or anything. I was 5 so a bit heartbreaking.

I have been told by my ex many times he wished I was dead and messaged me randomly asking me why I'm not dead yet. I could return the favour, but I'm not as bad as him and we all know what kind of man my ex is, if anyone has met him for any more than 5 minutes that is.

I've also had 'you'd deserve to get raped' and 'It would be okay if you got cheated on, you deserve it'. I know some lovely, charming people.

Bf at 17- you are not intellectual enough for me(he went on to working in a shop after quitting college,I got a degree)

ugly older male colleague-women can be judged on how early it is in the evening before men find them attractive,so someone awful would be around the time when last orders are called. I'd say you're about 11pm.

Sil-come on now, you need to get grip of your weight.you are huge now. (I was a size 12)

A senior manager once told " you are exactly like Mary from " something about Mary" hahaha then he said " sorry, I shouldn't have said that."

I still have no idea what he meant. I don't think he was being nice. At least I don't think he was. If you have any idea please put me out of my misery:)

A senior manager once told " you are exactly like Mary from " something about Mary, only not so intelligent" then he said " sorry, I shouldn't have said that."

I still have no idea what he meant. I thought she was nice. I don't think he was being nice. At least I don't think he was. If you have any idea please put me out of my misery:)

I know this sounds like a compliment but one christmas my bro looked me and up and down and said....
'oh! you are looking really slim and smart!'

Rude twats in nightclubs probably take the biscuit. When I was about 17:

"Scuse me luv, have you got a boyfriend?"

"Yes."

"Well, hang on to him, won't you?"

At university:

"Drinking pints puts men off."

"Oh, right, I'll try and remember that" downed rest of pint and ordered another

On my wedding day. After she'd lost some weight for the day.

"people are going to look at me and say wow! and then say oh and there's Rhiana"

On my daughters first birthday. After I'd spent days making and decorating a cake by myself from scratch.

I've made a jelly but I thought it best not to bring it out at the party because I'll only outshine you.

Both my mother

Vodka - that reminds me of two about my exmil, who sadly died of breast cancer. Her sister was v religious and used to send her letters (while she was dying) about 'if you believed in God he would save you'

then one of our friends started an Alpha course and told my then DH that 'your mother would have survived if only she'd taken Jesus into her life' I had to stop DH from decking him

Dh's best friend has been seeing a girl for just over a year we will call her sarah, we don't see them often but she makes a massive point of showing she hates kids.

We went to best friends sisters wedding a couple months back and our very cuddly dd was giving out lovely cuddles, she went to 'sarah' who reluctantly and very awkwardly lifted dd onto her knee then turned to another guest and said 'i really don't want to cuddle it'

I was seething, how dare she call my child an it??.

I used to work a residential carer and mentioned to one of my clients I was getting married. Her reply? "I hope you're not wearing white. Girls like you shouldn't wear a white dress"

Oh that reminds me, when I was a carer on residential one of the women attacked me, spat on my and called me a whore because she thought I was having sex with her husband. He'd been dead for a good few years :(

Went out with my DP and a few of our mutual friends - ended up bumping into another group that knew them because they all went to the same college.

Twat one: Who's this?
DP: That's JazzyTheSnowman - my fiancée
Twat one: Never saw you as a chubbychaser!

Twat two: So how old is your son?
Me: He's 17 months.
Twat two: Really? haven't you even tried losing the baby weight then?

Twat one (again): Well, at least she's got fantastic tits. reaches for a grope and instead gets a swift punch from DP who has had enough of their shit

I love my DP. Hated these wankers, but at least he stood up for me!

Elderly church-going couple (said to my face) when they found out that my first dd was stillborn.

"That's what you get for living a life of sin - god loves to punish people like you".

@tapir

NanFucker I used to be a Christian and did the Alpha course. You don't get told stuff like that on it. He's just a cunt.

I've had loads said to me. Had a bitch friend when young. I was always slim and am pretty tall at 5' 8. Did promo and modelling but friend who was 5ft at the most would find fault in me, usually just as we were going out for the night. If it wasn't my roots were showing (dyed blonde in those days) it was I had a ladder in my stockings or anything similar. I got sick of her one night and the other girls we went out with dumped her too. I thought they liked her but they said nope.

I often get asked if I'm pg. I do have a bit of a tummy now though and don't take offence tbh. I just say no it's just fat

All from my one sister:

On hearing that I was finally pregnant after years of fertility problems and due just after my 40th birthday "Oh you'll definitely be fat and 40 the"

One week after birth of DS she took a photo of us, then deleted it saying "You wouldn't like that one, you looked like a hippo"

On meeting DD for the first time at 5 days old "At least I'm not the only one who doesn't produce pretty babies"

MIL: I feel sorry for your DS having you two as parents.

Ways to not find out your boyfriend is tired of you, Number One:

I was standing in my boyfriend's parents' kitchen holding my cat, while we were staying over at Christmas one year. In front of both of his parents, he declared, "You just need a baby, and I am not going to give you one!"

Dear reader, I did not marry him.

I've had a lot of comments made about my face over the years. I've been told I look like a doll and that I don't look real (admittedly the doll thing doesn't sound so bad). I've been told I look like several cartoon characters including princess Fiona (in ogre form!). I've also been told I've got animal features. The worst is though I work with children & have had many comments along the lines of "what's wrong with your face" and "you've got a funny face"

My DH, family & friends all insist I'm normal looking as far as they are concerned but I have terrible self esteem thanks to all these comments from strangers.

First heard at 9 then continuously in various forms: "There's something wrong with you. We should take you to a child psychologist but then it would go on your permanent record and you'll never get into university and no one will want you and we'll never get rid of you".

First heard at 10 when I was given a pair of ski pants for my birthday and then continuously in various forms: "You can't wear those. Your bum's too big. I'll take them back" Until I had my children I had a figure almost identical to the Rachel girl who does Countdown and I can see now that she is a very slim girl and has a fine and shapely ass.

From being around 15:
"Your boobs are too small/not as nice as mine"
"You're too fat/you're not as slim as me/you're an unattractive shape"
"You're not very attractive/your brother is more attractive than you/you're not as attractive as me" exh used to say that the person I most resemble facially is Erin Karpluk.
"No one will ever want you"
"I don't know why you and your DH are having a baby. He'll leave you. They always do"

All my mother. She was definitely right on the last one though. So she was probably right on the others too. Until my mid/late twenties I never weighed more than 8st3 and during my teens when the comments started my measurements were 34-24-35 and were until I had DS. Still not good enough though.

ExH yesterday: "You're beautiful and amazing. Everything about you is wonderful. Any man would be lucky to have you so don't write yourself off" Any man except for you, the one who married me, eh? Fuck off. Probably doesn't count as rude but definitely one of the biggest piles of twatish shit I've ever heard.

I don't even feel bad about myself anymore. I feel like I'd have to have some small amount of self esteem left for it too bother me and I don't. None. I'm clearly such a fucking failure on every level that what's the point in even trying to sort one thing out? I'm never going to correct all of my many, many failings so why bother.

In fact, I can't think of one nice thing about me. I can't even get out the world's smallest violin because I don't play the fucking violin so it'll have to be the world's smallest clarinet.

Oh hold on, my exh said he can remember being at someone's house when we were 17 and my hair smelt nice. And I haven't got cankles. it's a lot to expect anyone to love me for/base my entire existence on though isn't it?

So sorry folk about the emotional abuse you have suffered. I couldn't have got through that - and life's pretty tough at the best of times. I think you are incredibly strong x

Thanks. Not strong though. Completely broken. Probably have been for years. Just do a good job of hiding it day to day.