What's the most rude thing anyone has ever said/done to you?

[gail734]

OK, I know it's not really an AIBU, but it features people being definitely U! I was just putting on some eyeshadow (as you do) and I remembered this: a) years ago, I was in a noisy pub and drunk man said to his wife, "Look at this girl, isn't she lovely?" His wife looked right at me and said, "She would be if she'd learn to do her eye makeup right." Still no idea what was wrong with my eye makeup, so presumably am still making the same terrible mistake!

b) I once went on a very short taxi journey and the fare was £5. I gave the taxi driver £5.50, ie a 10% tip. He looked down at it and said, (I kid you not) "That's not much of a tip." I just went, "Thanks! Bye!"

c) My boyfriend gave me a pair of earrings for my birthday. I said to my friend, "Oh, I see you're looking at my earrings. DP gave me them for my birthday." "Is that ALL he gave you?" "Yes. They ARE real." (They were pearls.) She then said, "Oh. They don't LOOK real."

d) I was once flashed at. A proper, open-up-your-brown-raincoat flash. I was about 23, and it was right in the centre of the city, in broad daylight. The thing was, the flasher was a bit of an amateur and got the timing wrong. He let me get too close to him before opening up the raincoat. I didn't look down, so I didn't see anything. Still rude though. Or am I being over-sensitive?

A bus driver complained about me taking so long to get off the bus because I was disabled a while back

I complained. It helped.

Fil, telling me it was my fault his holiday was ruined because my dd was stillborn whilst he was away.

At dd funeral, my aunt told me I had put on weight ( I had only given birth 10 days before).

A couple of not particularly attractive young lads at a party when I was 15. They told me I was really ugly.

30 years later it still hurts like hell.

Also an XBF who was prattling on about his ex wife, who told me "I won't go near a good looking woman again" or words to that effect. He didn't understand why I was hurt at that

I got called in to a serious meeting once at work. I wasn't getting on with one of the women there.

They sat me down and asked me why I was a racist.

That had nothing to do with it! They wouldn't believe me. I was so upset, I burst into tears while defending myself.

:( blizy

Fucking hell Blizy [sad ]

This is one I said

I met my DD and her then boyfriend for lunch in my break. We had a lovely lunch at a nice restaurant . They both seemed a bit nervous during lunch.

When I was due back at work, DD said they had something to tell me.

I said , "Well quickly, You've just had an hour and now I'm due back at work"

They both went bright red in the face and said "We want to get engaged. We want to get married after I finish Uni."

My response!!!!!!!!

A quick kiss on the head and

"Don't be silly, you are far too young to be thinking about things like that"

and walked back into work.

I was in a nightclub with a friend. Not a glamorous place, a local disco. My friend was getting on very well with some guy, so I felt obliged to chat to his mate. I introduced myself and asked him his name. Casting around for a conversation topic I asked him, "So, Dave, what do you do?" He leant over and said into my ear, "I hate gold-diggers." I literally turned on my heel and walked off.

coralanne
but did it work out?

I gave someone a lift in my car once to an event 170 miles away. They failed to thank me, ignored me at the event, and left me waiting aimlessly at the end to see if they wanted a lift back. Eventually I gave up and left without them.

A "friend" once accused me of stealing, when it was her ex-boyfriend that had stolen my contributions towards the bills in his name, and moved out without payting them or leaving a forwarding address.

A "larger" woman getting out of a car when I was cycling past "My God your arse is massive". I'm a size 8!

Inexplicably a man in a car when parking mine once and beating him to a parking space - "get a haircut"...

Talkin

Yes it did. During the afternoon I thought about how I had reacted and was horrified with myself.

When I arrived home from work, I apologized and gave them both a big hug.
She said she had been a bit upset at my reaction but she was fine.

The thing is she was 18 and in her first year of Uni.

She looked so young and fresh faced. Her cousin who was 32 at the time used to call her "The backpack girl" because she always had a cute backpack on wherever she went.

We had a huge engagement party, beautiful wedding and now 10 years on she still looks so young and innocent.

Last year due to work commitments they moved 2.5 hours away and I miss them terribly.

my mother, after yet another failed IVF cycle: "if you really really wanted a baby, it would have happened by now...". Thanks, mom, just what I need right now...

Similar to many on here.
Older lad, to very self-conscious 14-year old me: "You're tubby, but that's not bad for a short person. Just a bit fat around the stomach and the thighs, not disgustingly obese like most short-arses out there. Well, not yet, anyway."
I was 5'1" and 7 stone. Sadly I then became anorexic and self-conscious..

"Well, good luck with the childbirth. You might die, you know - I hope you don't, but people do, even in the UK.." Former boss, on the day I went on maternity leave. So rude it was actually funny.

The rudest was a friend of my ILs - DH was away, and at MIL's request we'd come to visit. DD was pottering around in a fairly benevolent way, friend turns up and says "I see your DIL came to dump the child on the grandparents again? Oh, she's here, is she? - no doubt scrounging something before she runs off." ??? Nice to meet you, too.

On announcing I was getting married , middle sister said " good luck with that!"

DM said sai

My Fil when I was very low with PND and dd had colic - "she's in pain because your crying is upsetting your breastmilk"

Someone I knew (aquaintence not friend) used to pass comments about my DH and I (when we were living together not married) about my lack of morals and "What does my father say?)
I was 23 so I don't think my father minded.

She was very religious, her view, her opinion.

So how I had to bite my tongue when her son got his girlfriend pregnant. Unmarried.

What was it she called illegitimate children? Oh, yes bastards.

Not that I said this to her but ooooooh heck I was so at her 2-faced attitude.

A woman who worked for me in the civil service was odd. I was 22 and she was 55. And resentful. I was eating an orange at my desk at lunchtime and she suddenly went a bit mad about how the smell of food was revolting and 'I've seen you bite your nails and it disgusts me to the pit of my stomach'. This was in 1987 and I still remember it clearly!

DM has said to me "I don't have to come to your house and I don't have to see your DH's face". DM hasn't been to my home for 3 years although she expects me to dutifully visit her at least twice a week.

Eldest sister said to me "Don't invite our middle sister to your DD's 2nd birthday party as she will nag me to come and I don't want to as I don't want to talk to other mums, especially mums from [town where you live]."

I mean, WTF?

I feel really when I see famillies mucking in at parties, whilst I do mine at soft play where they do the catering, so I don't have to make all the sarnies on my own.

When I was bullied in primary school people would spit in my food.

I've had a group of lads call me an illegal immigrant because of my colouring I'm pale, with green eyes and black hair. Wtf.

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Another- on announcing our engagement, my dsis who has been with her dp for yrs said " WE don't need to get married to prove we love each other"

Whilst pregnant with DTS:

"Oh, so glad you finally overcame that Anorexia rubbish!"

DTS was considerably larger than DTD when they were 3months (had been at birth too) She still had that newborn look and he was tall and hadn't any hair. On the bus, breastfeeding them both, when an elderly man points to me with disgust to his fifteenish daughter and says:

"Is that what you want to be like in three years time? Feeding two bastards from different fathers?"
I was too exhausted and shocked to say anything, but I cried when I got home.

I was 26 and married btw!!

His granddaughter I mean.

Oh and I've never been Anorexic!

My brother and his then girlfriend/now wife were showing our grandma some photos.

There was one of my beautiful SIL holding my DD as a toddler and looking a bit windswept.

Grandma said to them "Ooh that's an awful photo of Folk. She looks horrible there"

So not only did she insult my SIL but was quite happy to make that sort of comment about me to other people.

The full insane rudeness of this one really strikes me now I have kids.

When I was at junior school, probably about 6yo or so, an older woman grabbed me, shook me and called me a thief as I was coming out of the school gates. Turns out I had accidentally put her GDs coat on (which was identical to mine and hanging in the same cloakroom).

That was pretty rude. What kind of person even thinks like that about a 6yo??