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What's the most rude thing anyone has ever said/done to you?

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gail734 · 07/12/2012 15:08

OK, I know it's not really an AIBU, but it features people being definitely U! I was just putting on some eyeshadow (as you do) and I remembered this: a) years ago, I was in a noisy pub and drunk man said to his wife, "Look at this girl, isn't she lovely?" His wife looked right at me and said, "She would be if she'd learn to do her eye makeup right." Still no idea what was wrong with my eye makeup, so presumably am still making the same terrible mistake!

b) I once went on a very short taxi journey and the fare was £5. I gave the taxi driver £5.50, ie a 10% tip. He looked down at it and said, (I kid you not) "That's not much of a tip." I just went, "Thanks! Bye!"

c) My boyfriend gave me a pair of earrings for my birthday. I said to my friend, "Oh, I see you're looking at my earrings. DP gave me them for my birthday." "Is that ALL he gave you?" "Yes. They ARE real." (They were pearls.) She then said, "Oh. They don't LOOK real."

d) I was once flashed at. A proper, open-up-your-brown-raincoat flash. I was about 23, and it was right in the centre of the city, in broad daylight. The thing was, the flasher was a bit of an amateur and got the timing wrong. He let me get too close to him before opening up the raincoat. I didn't look down, so I didn't see anything. Still rude though. Or am I being over-sensitive?

OP posts:
ballroomblitz · 10/12/2012 09:52

An old assistant manager told me I needed a boob job as my boobs are small. I put in a complaint about him.

A place I worked night shifts was full of some decidedly weird characters. One of my colleagues informed me one night he could slit my throat with the box cutter if he wanted Xmas Shock . Dunno if that's rude or just very, very creepy.

catgirl1976geesealaying · 10/12/2012 13:41

My boss when I was a size 12

"You know you're a dress size away from a P45 don't you?"

FolkElf · 10/12/2012 14:12

Shock @ catgirl What was the job?! (not that it matters really!)

slug · 10/12/2012 15:53

At my Master's graduation when it was announced I had won several academic prizes:

"Well it's politically correct to give it to the women"

Because obviously women don't understand computers and couldn't possibly out score the boys on every single assessment. The man in question had, of course, availed himself frequently of my good nature when struggling with assignments.

MamaLazarou · 10/12/2012 16:02

My mum said to me: 'When you were born, you were fat, bald and ugly... but now you've got hair!'

Sad
beela · 10/12/2012 16:09

v elderly friend of the family: 'you look just like your mother did at your age. Except she was never so fat'.

I was (still am) a size 12-14. My mum used to be a 10-12, so I suppose it was true. However, the lady in question was easily a 16, as were all her daughters.

jen127 · 10/12/2012 16:14

"when are you due ?" My local DHL man doing a delivery to work , asked this in front of one of my colleagues who knew I was definitely not pregnant!
He asked twice when I ignored him the first time arghhh!

ODearMe · 10/12/2012 16:21

I remember when I did work experience as a teaching assistant at the local primary school. One little boy, aged 5, took a shine to me and would present models, paintings etc. one day he asked me to marry him. I replied that i was a little too old for him, and maybe when he grew up. His response was, 'but miss jones, when I grow up, you will be dead'.
Made me laugh anyway.

NanFucker · 10/12/2012 17:24

Folk - this sounds trite but is probably true, its jealousy poppet. Especially with your mother, she probably couldn't cope with you blossoming into a beautiful young lady and had to try to make herself feel better Sad xx

earthpixie · 10/12/2012 17:37

Very recently I said to DS (5) 'Oh look, this lady looks like me'. She did, it was in a magazine and no, she wasn't a model.
DS 'Yes but she's MUCH prettier'.

In my first week at uni a boy said to me 'Do you shop at Evans?' I was a slim size 12 at the time (I'm 5'8''). I met him again years later and reminded him: he had the grace to look embarassed.

Greensleeves · 10/12/2012 17:55

FolkElfSad there doesn't have to be anything wrong with you to get treated like that. You just had the misfortune to have a sociopathic bitch for a mother who destroyed your self-esteem.

My best one from my mother, when I was 15:

"I do worry about you and men. You're so gutless, you'll get walked all over by some bastard"

A couple of titbits from my sister:

"Oh dear, did you not get your own way? Better go and slit your wrists then. Oh no but you've already tried that one haven't you?" in front of people, shortly after I got sent home from school for cutting

"Good heavens GS what have you done to your hair? It looks like an old dog's blanket. And you've ballooned"

On meeting my then fiance for the first time: "Wow GS wherever did you find him? He's just as biddable as [our stepfather] but not nearly so unsightly"

"You and I know I am more intelligent than you. One day people will start to find you out"

Greensleeves · 10/12/2012 17:58

I can't stop reading this thread, some of these are unbelievable!

Sad and Angry for all the inhuman comments about miscarriage and stillbirth. What the fuck is wrong with people?

digerd · 10/12/2012 18:00

Ruled
You must get your Thyroid problem cured. I was overactive and it was not only my weight I kept losing, but my heart was dangerously overburdened with everything working at a too rapid pace,

catgirl1976geesealaying · 10/12/2012 18:09

Folkrlf it's my current job........and not one where how I look matters!

meddie · 10/12/2012 18:24

Ex MIL after I had split with her son, came out with some trite comment on the phone like "we all love you and are here for you". I responded "If that's the case then why don't you ever get in your car and come visit your grandchildren for once. I have lived here 4 years and you have never bothered" ( I Used to take them every week to hers).
Her response was."well there's no where to sit and you're kids look like tramps"!!
both untrue.
Fortunately the up shot was I could cut her out of my life without any guilt feelings and despite reassuring my ex that she could have continued access to her GC, but she would have to make the effort to visit. I never saw her again for another 10 years.....

Flossiechops · 10/12/2012 18:47

Sister and brother in law live in the states. Dbil is a high flyer. Their first trip back to the uk they came to visit us in our new home, on a tour around the house Dsil exclaimed about ds bedroom"we have a wardrobe bigger than this room" snooty bitch has looked down her nose at us for years!

WorkingtoohardMama · 10/12/2012 18:48

Too many to list, but my 2 favourites :

The night I met my dh, one of his friends said she'd alright apart from her belly - I was a size 10!

And more recently, on hearing that we'd got a new car dh's step grandad asked if dh had bought a bigger car to fit his fat wife in?!

CuriousMama · 10/12/2012 18:56

Flossiechops you should've said you'd need that just for your ego!

cuillereasoupe · 10/12/2012 19:00

The day after I proofread an article overnight for a colleague as a favour: "Your proofreading is crap and you're a shit head of department". It isn't and I wasn't.

brightspark2 · 10/12/2012 19:00

"Mummy, when you were little, were you an Angle or a Saxon?"

JessieMcJessie · 10/12/2012 19:13

Aged about 13 to my Guide Leader- "I look horrible in that photo"

Guide Leader : "well, the camera never lies"

I still avoid having my picture taken.

miamibeach · 10/12/2012 19:19

No where near as bad as other peoples,

But on my sisters hen do, got talking to a group of men, one asked me who the hen was I said she's my older sister.

He looked at me like Hmm really? I'd have said it was the other way round.

I was 18 at the time and she was 25.

GlitterySparklyBaublesOfDoom · 10/12/2012 19:41

Some of these are awful!

This one is a bit more light hearted but it hurt at the time. They probably had a point though...

Aged about 17 in the early 80s, I was a trainee goth. Hair crimped and backcombed standing on end, dressed in black, fishnet tights, fishnet gloves etc and Siouxie style black eye make up and purple lipstick. I got off the bus to go and meet my mates in the pub and passed two blokes, one of whom said "Excuse me love, but the circus went that way" Xmas Blush

IneedAsockamnesty · 10/12/2012 19:44

My mother when asked why she had no interest in anything about the uni I was attending......

Well, it would have to be a Micky mouse one to accept you.

It was not.

The very first employee I ever had ( on there first day)on being asked to get a very high end car ready for a test drive....

Can you afford to buy it?, because you can't test drive it unless you can

My reply " I should hope so seen as I already own it, could you get me a coffee"

Stbexh on being asked how I was everytime he was asked...

Better than nothing.

Gooeyhead · 10/12/2012 19:53

I've got one, I've got one... A very charming lady utter cow said to my Ex (this was about 10 years ago) "your scraping the bottom of the barrel going out with her aren't you"

I wouldn't mind but she only knew who i was coz she drank in the pub where I worked at the time. I didn't even know she disliked me until this comment!!!