I've missed a lot here. Does anyone know what I missed when Hully's post was deleted?
Here is my post from the other thread: beginning with my take on the "does knowing about fashion make you disdainful" question.
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Here is my 2p:
Being opiniated and judgey about fashion and / or style is just one way of being nasty. Lots of stylish and or fashionable people are nice, lots nasty. Similarly to how I can sing in tune, always know when someone else isn't, and am lovely to all the people in my church choir who are all over the show. I am better at singing than them, but not better than them. Surely everyone understands this.
I hate "mumsy" used denigratingly on this site. I mean, at all, but on here? Seriously. Stop it. Say "frumpy" if that is what you mean.
I feel sad about some tunic-wearing because it seems that the person is underestimating herself. I mean it is as if she has adopted a very soft pyjama-y style hoping that it will elide her flaws, where paradoxically, the softer and less structured a look is (in general), the more suitable it is for the very young and effortlessly chiselled (of cheekbone, etc). I feel that some women wear things that they have chosen self-deprecatingly to look "rather jolly" or "no one will think I am trying to show off" or whatever. My own mother's look (as opposed to her mother's who was KILLER) is very unthreatening, very self effacing. I think everyone is happiest in things that suit them but EVERYONE on here is told to wear tunics and they DO NOT suit everyone and a bit of structure, a touch of glam or badassness is NOT inappropriate if you are a mum and the tunic is NOT badass (usually).
I am not gorgeous I am 5'4" and size 14. but sometimes (not crawling about a floor at a toddler group) I look totally killer. I look good in wedges or platforms or heels, waisted things, tight skirts and witty little jackets. CLearly this is not what I wear when I scrub the bath. But even if you are going to toddler group, why not wear a badass little jacket (it can be cheap, second hand) with your trousers that actually suit you and fit you (not nec jeans)? Or whatever. If the answer is "because I don't care" then fine, don't care, but don't get all upset that some people do and may even think that you are missing out.
I am coming out of a pregnancy / baby hole. I am not pregnant and not bfing, loving being a size 14 (as opposed to 18 post partum) and being able to wear, kind of, what I want (I mean I will never look good in a jersey body con dress but compared to how I looked and felt a year ago, being able to find anything fun I can wear in Age Concern is a massive thrill, I'm buying something cute for £4.99 nearly every fortnight and having a great time). I look at the tunics and sometimes think: that was me, a year ago. 3 tents and 2 pairs of jeans on rotation.
SO: I think the OP is saying: people who ASK for help, on S&B, can we not offer them something a little more creative and life-enhancing? Please?