To think it's IMPOSSIBLE to make friends in some towns...

[IncaAztec]

I moved here last year with DC1. Everyone has lived here since the year dot. Its very hard to meet anyone, let alone anyone who wants to go on a playdate/be friends. I won't name the town but I think my experience seems to be common in small provincial ones with few incomers.

I have tried to make friends but am foiled at every turn. An example: At a baby group (dull, but an example), I offered another Mum I had met and chatted to before my seat as she is very heavily upduffed. She took it and went off to talk with her friend, leaving me alone. Not even a Hi!

People are borderline rude at nearly all the playgroups. I go for my DC's sake these days. Anyone else in the same boat or want to name and shame their unfriendly, cliquey, rubbish town?

got no choice unfortunately, Amibambini. am stuck for at least another 8 yrs if i survive that long.

YANBU. DH and I moved to Hertfordshire two years ago. During this whole time, I haven't gotten to know a single person. I went to an antenatal class where nobody spoke to anyone, I later tried and failed to get a coffee group together during maternity leave, and then went to a baby group where many of the others already seemed to know each other.

There's also this weird thing whereby every new person you meet asks you if you have bought a house here and when you say no, they become totally uninterested in you.

We're moving back to London next month. I'm so excited.

It probably doesn't help that we're not English. People actually stare at us sometimes when we speak another language.

I grew up on an island, mainlanders were loathed. Now that is an insular weird place. They will however happily take your tourist £ whilst secretly loathing you.

I know live in an ex mill town and though not a huge amount of outsiders its very friendly. Even complete strangers will sometimes say good morning if out and about early enough.

I live on the outskirts of a small village in West Yorkshire, I've lived here 4 years. At first, people were borderline unfriendly but have thawed. The regulars at my bus stop usually say morning, and the neighbours are more friendly.
Its taken 4 years to get to that stage though.

Some suburbs are the same as well. This one we live is ok but I joined a circuit training group in a different suburb well talk about rude and unfriendly. I'd smile and say hello but got ignored. Wasn't like I was pushy but they were just so unwelcoming to anyone new. I gave up in the end.