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AIBU?

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to leave my baby for 2 nights?

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lilypaige · 01/12/2012 02:49

Hi all
I have a 7 month old dd who is my world. Ive been asked on a hen weekend which would mean leaving my dd from friday teatime until sunday morning, with my mum who dd is very close to. What do people think about this? Part of me is really wanting to go as im a single mum, im with my daughter 24/7 so would be nice to have a break. The other part of me is thinking iv never been away from daughter that long and how would I cope?! Thanks for any replies x

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mummysbigsmiles · 01/12/2012 02:59

My daughter is 10 weeks old and two weeks ago i left her with my sister to have a girly night in, i felt terrible, i spoke about her the whole night, i phoned my sister every half an hour and even asked for pictures of her while she was there. I have now come to accept that i am a single parent & I am only human, i do need a break once in a while to have a bit of me time, it most certainly doesn't make us bad parents. I know exactly how you feel but us single mums deserve a break once in a while, even for some adult conversation! Go and enjoy yourself & I'm sure your little one will be well looked after.

MrsTerryPratchett · 01/12/2012 03:03

Try it and see. I was a mess when DH took DD away for a family visit for three nights. Couldn't sleep. But I did get some me time.

MarjorieAntrobus · 01/12/2012 03:11

Oh do go!
Your DD will be well looked after.
You will come back refreshed.
Go, try not to think about her too much, and enjoy yourself!

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lilypaige · 01/12/2012 03:13

Thanks for replies. Most ive ever left my dd for is a couple of hours while I go shopping. Think it might do us both good, I can have some quality time with old friends, and dd can have some 1-1 time with grandma.

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BewitchedBotheredandBewildered · 01/12/2012 03:15

It might not be best for your peace of mind, but it will be very good for her.
Make sure you do outings like this as frequently as your mum will have her.
It will benefit everyone, especially your daughter.

McChristmasPants2012 · 01/12/2012 03:19

OP, if you was in hospital would you feel the same?

imo i think you should go, as a single mum I can imagine how hard it is to parent alone, you deserve to have some fun.

your DC will be with a loving nanny who will tend to her just like you, go and enjoy yourself

McChristmasPants2012 · 01/12/2012 03:19

as i am not

Spermysextowel · 01/12/2012 04:23

I couldn't do it. I had to go to hospital 6 weeks after DS1 was born. Maintaining BF was difficult. I didn't feel the need for me time until DS2 was about 5

RichManPoorManBeggarmanThief · 01/12/2012 04:37

Go!! She's 7 months old, not 7 weeks. She quite possibly won't even notice you've gone. I don't think they have a great sense of the passing of time at that age- a bit like cats . Plus she's with your mum, which will be lovely for them.

BookieMonster · 01/12/2012 04:48

Go and have a lovely time. Your DD will be in safe hands.

Fairylea · 01/12/2012 05:03

Go and enjoy yourself.

I don't have anyone to have ds for me now as my mum is now old and frail but with dd (big age gap) I left her with my mum when she was six weeks to go to a wedding for one night. She was absolutely fine. I had a sleep! It was lovely.

At 7 months and knowing your mum so well she will be fine.

imaginethat · 01/12/2012 05:03

Never left my first child in her early years but left my second for 8nights at 7 months and all FINE.

BigWhoop · 01/12/2012 05:15

I've never left my 17 month old overnight so I can't give any help on how it would be.... BUT, your circumstances are very different to mine - I think single Mums are bloody amazing, and yes you need the break. You should definitely go.
I have a friend who gave up bfeeding at 6 weeks purely so she could go on a hen do weekend when the baby was 8 weeks old... now that I was a bit ! about, but each to their own, that particular Mum seems to need a night out and a release more often than most... I think it keeps her sane!

Bossybritches22 · 01/12/2012 05:24

Go + enjoy the sleep! In some ways easier now than later + if grandma can cope then take full advantage you desrve it!

Mrsrobertduvallsaysboo · 01/12/2012 06:51

I had to leave dd for 2 nights when she was 6 weeks old...dh coped and so did I.
Go and have fun.

Fakebook · 01/12/2012 07:17

Do it! You're very lucky!

2beornot · 01/12/2012 07:30

Definitely go and try to enjoy yourself. You honestly don't know how easy or hard that will be until you get there.

I would also say that if you find you're not thinking about your dd then don't feel guilty. When I first left dd I thought I must be the worst mum in the world because I could switch off, knowing I'd left her in good hands. Now she's nearly two I realise that's a good thing!!!

AntoinetteCosway · 01/12/2012 07:38

I did exactly the same thing when DD was 8mo, except she was with DH. I missed her a lot but had a lovely time and to be honest, I don't think she noticed. Go!

PoppyWearer · 01/12/2012 07:40

I went away when DC2 was 8mo for two nights. I missed him like crazy but the time away was much-needed too. Go!

lovebunny · 01/12/2012 07:48

stay at home with your baby. is your social life really more important?

Tiredtrout · 01/12/2012 07:54

Go and have a break, enjoy being you for a couple of days with your friends. Your dd will be spoilt by her nan and you will come back all refreshed

splashymcsplash · 01/12/2012 08:51

Personally I wouldn't (and I know how hard being a single mum is).

Could you go for part of the weekend?

Are you breastfeeding?

wonderingsoul · 01/12/2012 08:56

I didn't feel the need for me time until DS2 was about 5

good for you!

i say do it. she will have a great time. and so will you! i bet you come back buzzing and ready to take on the world again.

if it would put your mind at rest it may be worth asking your mum to have lo over night before you go. just to see how ayou and lo get on. it'd put your mind at rest knwoing this isnt her first time x

wonderingsoul · 01/12/2012 08:58

stay at home with your baby. is your social life really more important?

REALLY? if this was every week.. then maybe you'd have a point. every one deserves some fun and time out.

Djembe · 01/12/2012 09:01

at lovebunny ! I can't believe anyone would think this is an unreasonable thing to do?! She's a mother, not a nun!

Fwiw I'm married and have been out numerous times without DS. If I was in your position I would go, as long as you feel ok about it. Please don't worry what other people think - if your mum's happy to have the baby, there is no issue - good for all involved!

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