Moaning mn career mums.Yes you...

[Jenna2012]

Been reading various threads on mn with interest for several weeks now.why do u ladies feel do pessimistic about ur work life balance and compete with the ' oh poor me title'. If you want a better quality of life, surely u can downsize and have less financial Responsibilty and then look after ur dc yourself instead of paying others to look after them. I just don't get why you have kids unless you wanna love And look them yourself. This doesnt apply to single parents.is the financial gain worth it?

Autumnlights list is a good one and I for one can't argue with anything on it.

However every time we reach some sort of peace OP comes and posts something seriously unpleasant again and it all kicks off. Like this:

Feel sorry for kids who r stuck in nursery m- f 8-6. Coz there mother wants her career.

Well don't feel sorry for them. My DSs had a whale of a time there and used to beg to go on their days off. I didn't want my career - couldn't give a stuff about that or whether I'm a role model. I wanted the extra money it brought in so we could pay the mortgage AND eat.

Stay at home or go to work it's nothing to do with anyone else and nobody should jusge anyone for what they believe to be the right choice for their family at that particular time.

Alien, yes I do agree. Maybe if my position were different. This thread had been very misinterpreted . I have career mums friends who' neglect ' their kids not because they have to work, because they want to be successful , but this comes at the cost of dumping their child.

so is that why you gave up work, because your DP wanted you to?

Because that makes sense, if you were ok working but your DP was not, and you gave up work because of him, then you are still desperately trying to convince yourself you made a wonderful decision by putting down working parents.

It hasn't been misinterpreted.

It's total and utter bullshit, but nobody has misunderstood exactly what you were about.

autmnlights - your list was fine with me (I work out of the home).

Redlac, do I threaten u? Lol!! Is that the best u can do. Very surprised u guys resort to meanness.

Currently catching up from what I missed after going to bed last night, but just had to reply to the student parents bit.

So it's ok for me to be a student parent to 'better myself' Jenna, but by your standards I can't do nothing with it otherwise my children will think I don't love them?

Redlac, I rare see my father, he is always away on business So stop ur snide comments

Jenna, given that I work with the children GENUINELY neglected (ie starving, beaten, ignored) shall I stop doing that in case my own children feel a bit out out that they go to afterschool club (which, incidentally, they love, and complain if I pick them up early?) just so I know how to be a "good" mum for future reference...

Redlac, I rarely see my father, he is always away on business So stop ur snide comments

What about the fathers that want their careers - or are you only Into goading mothers?

where did I say that you see your father? I said that your daddy has given your 'hubby' the day off and yet here you are on mn winding people up? Is your DH not demanding you make him a wholesome and lovingly prepared lunch?

Redlac, I'm not. I seriously don't agree with u mums.

So stop ur snide comments

Gigondas -it's "biology" apparently. Or the biology that was invented in the 1850s to keep women out of the workplace.

Ltve- still don't agree. Why have kids when u can take responsibility

I do take responsibility.

I am responsible for earning enough money to keep my family secure.

I am responsible for teaching my daughter that the sky's the limit for her chosen career.

I am responsible for showing my daughter that if you make a contract with someone/some employer then you stick to that contract.

I am responsible for teaching my daughter that she is important enough for me to stick to a job I am finding harder in order to make our future lives easier.
I am responsible for showing my daughter that a female can do just as well in a traditionally male environment.
I am responsible for teaching my daughter that it is never a good thing to "need" a partner to be financially secure.
I am responsible for showing my daughter that if you want life's little luxuries, then you need to work for them.
Oh, and I am responsible for teaching my daughter that if a 100 other people think you are wrong - you'd be an idiot to keep thinking you were right.

I am responsible for a lot more, but I am boring the tits off myself now, let alone everyone else.

Good luck - you are going to need it.

I don't have to work

I want to work - I love my job - I like having money - I like buying stuff

My children have been in childcare from about 10 months - they are now all at school

I couldn;t give a tiny rats wank what anyone else thinks about my choices - I am 100% happy with them tahnks

Still ignoring my posts, Jenna?

Has it occurred to you that your career-mum friends who you say are neglecting their children might have been just as neglectful if they were SAHMs? As I said in my post a short while back, someone who is neglectful by nature, will neglect their children whether or not they are working.

so what? I don't agree that shite like X Factor should be on the tv but I don't come onto MN slating everyone who watches it.

Why does your opinion matter to ANYONE apart from you?

Let this thread die.

Ha ha ha ha ha "I seriously don't agree with u mums". You couldn't make it up.