Moaning mn career mums.Yes you...

[Jenna2012]

Been reading various threads on mn with interest for several weeks now.why do u ladies feel do pessimistic about ur work life balance and compete with the ' oh poor me title'. If you want a better quality of life, surely u can downsize and have less financial Responsibilty and then look after ur dc yourself instead of paying others to look after them. I just don't get why you have kids unless you wanna love And look them yourself. This doesnt apply to single parents.is the financial gain worth it?

It is the mommy martyrdom that irks me - like my mother, the OP seems to think that motherhood is about sacrifice.

You dedicate yourself to serving your children, only WOHM if it is necessary to pay the bills - you'd better not enjoy it.

Being a happy, fulfilled SAHM would be fantastic. But you would not be judging others if you were in that position.

Not at all Tantrums I think your posts are spot on.

I think the opinion that it is a waste of a life/eduction is smug. Sorry! :)

What's right is what suits.

Jenna, now you are back can you please explain why it is taking feminism too far to have a man care for his children????

My dh would like to know. As would my brother. And no doubt my FIL, were he still alive.

Narked I have what has potential to be a tremendous boil on my right arse cheek. Fucking hideous angle for squeezing.

Oh thats ok walter i was just checking

How old is your dd, OP?

MissPants you must sound the klaxon and start a boil thread!

neglecting my child?

you don't learn fast do you Jenna?

"When a women has a child the child should not fall in her list of priorities. "

I am still asking: what about the man's list of priorities??? Why is that different? Please explain.

Also, in response, I am 28, have a mortgage with Dp and should be mortgage free in 6 years. This is due to saving whilst I was younger and not squandering it on booze, nights out etc.

Also plz stop with the smug bullshit. I'm not. I'm merely answering your queries.

Cory, because a man should bring home the bacon as it were. Do u think men and women have equal roles. Ask yourself can a man breast feed for 18 months while the women is out working?

Ah, so Daddy will bail you out with another job running one of his businesses when you decide you want to play out again?

Why do you keep ignoring the questions about the father's responsibilities?

Wow. No wonder women feel they can never do right for doing wrong.

What's for sure OP is that your priorities can never be the same as anyone elses. We all do what we have to do to provide the sort of environment we want to bring our children up in. Judging other people against your own situation can never work.

Everyone moans. It's not just the 'career mums'

For the lady who stated she had her children in nursery from 6 months. You chose your career over your bringing up your child , and are trying to justify it by saying they are now ambitious?? I believe its wrong

No, I chose to stand by my contractural obligations. The 'promise' I made to my employer and my country.

My child is not neglected and has never been.

You have never worked in the real world - Daddy's money followed by Daddy's business followed by your husbands money.

I NEVER judge, but by Christ I'm judging you.

Absolutely I want to know about fathers and parenting

You ran one of your dad's businesses.

So in fact, you don't have to worry how your CV will look after 10 years out of the office because daddy will find you a nice job anyway.

jenna, you are in an almost uniquely privileged position, and it might do you good to reflect on that for a bit, instead of berating everyone who hasn't had your advantages.

(By the way, I hope it wasn't charm school your father paid for )

It's like stepping back in time isn't it?

Oooooh breastfeeding being brought into this now .

My DD has never had a bottle of formula in her 18mo of being on this earth. She is still being bf, I actually spent last night nursing her through horrendous diarrhoea and still manage to work full time.

I'm lucky to have flexibility in my role. Next!

My poor neglected child speaks 2 languages fluently and is top of her class. She has lots of friends and goes to Brownies and theatre classes. She wants a chemistry set for Xmas. She is independant and loves cooking and riding her bike. I am not sure how me staying at home would have changed a thing - what else could I have wished for as an outcome?

Oh god, don't bring breastfeeding into this! Too few women breastfeed for 18 months for thatto be relevant. Or are you saying SAHM who don't breastfeed for 18 months are 'bad'. Go, on, please isolate yourself even further!

Well OP, I bf my first child until over 3 and still bf my second at 2.5 and I work. No, men can't bf, but they can do everything else.