Moaning mn career mums.Yes you...

[Jenna2012]

Been reading various threads on mn with interest for several weeks now.why do u ladies feel do pessimistic about ur work life balance and compete with the ' oh poor me title'. If you want a better quality of life, surely u can downsize and have less financial Responsibilty and then look after ur dc yourself instead of paying others to look after them. I just don't get why you have kids unless you wanna love And look them yourself. This doesnt apply to single parents.is the financial gain worth it?

Brilliantly expressed Tantrums. Thank you. Your children sound lovely! :)
(FWIW I'm a SAHM. Right now. At the moment. Not necessarily until DS leaves home.)

Oblomov she started at 11:30 last night

I'd better stop piddling about on here and take 6 month old DD to my mum's house so I can get to work .

Oh AND Op, I don't even need to work. I think, thta if we tightened our belts, we could JUST about survive on dh's salary. I choose to work. I like working. I LOVE my job. I get paid well for something i find really easy. It's the only time I can sit down, have a cup of tea in peace and do some claculations, with adults.
I am Oblomov, a person in my own right. I am also a woman, a freind, a wife, a mum, a daughter, a sister, etc etc etc. I have many different 'roles'. Being a mum is only one of them.

And I want my children to realise that they are not the centre of the universe, that the world does not revolve around them. They are only one person in this big world. They are a part of our family. But dh and i are as important. Without our marraige, there would be no family for them to be part of.
So no, my children are not THE most important.

I agree. yAnBu
I think the point is that is being made is that if that is what you want to do, do not then complain.
It makes me sad that children are farmed out to nurseries 8-6 M-F.
We have a son and my (female) partner stays at home while I (also female) work. We would not want someone else raising our son.
We live in a lovely house in a lovely village but won't for much longer, especially if we have another.
We just think children place more value on having their parents around thab what house they live in.
Still, we all have different views!

Excellent post Tantrums.

OP observe that post for:

Well reasoned argument
Sound judgement
Excellent vocabulary, sentence construction and spelling

Where's Xenia BTW? OP Xenia is a very good person to help you with your question.

Oh, and for the record, one of us is a newspaper editor, the other a barrister - we have always valued our careers.

You do wear your parenting like a hair shirt, as someone said upthread.

My mother did the same, over the years she became increasingly resentful. She is now a bitter woman whose children see contact with her as a chore.

I love being a parent. I also love my work. I know I won't turn into my mother, and I know I am giving my dc a happier childhood than the one I had.

I hope you can do the same.

She has come!

The one whose coming was foretold back in the mists of time.

It is.........

The ANTI-XENIA.

Run! Save yourselves! And do not look back lest you be turned into a pillar of salt or something of that nature.

Aaaaaaaaargh!

Loving this thread.

More than I love my daughters obviously

I am one of those awful women who could be at home full time but chooses to work.

I really hope the OP was a timewaster becxause otherwise when she grows up she will look back at this and cringe one day.

It's a backward dinosaur.

Great post Tantrums.

I am a sahm and never will go back out to work. I get really depressed at the shite some of my co-sahms post.

I love my life. I admire all women who are doing what they need to for themselves and their families without feeling the need to post foot stamping guff about other peoples choices. It's pathetic.

Been reading various threads on mn with interest. why do u ladies feel so pessimistic about being a SAHM. complete with 'oh poor me title.'
if u don't wanna be bored and wot have u why don't u just get a job? The menz is doing this.

I love MN.

I'm now going to be late for work. However, that's ok because I am the boss, so no-one to tell me off. The Nanny is taking the oldest two poor, deprived DC to school and taking the youngest to play group.
The cleaner is coming later, so I'll have a nice clean home to come home to and it's DH's turn to cook tonight.
I'll just spend time with the poor, deprived DC when I get home.

Now, what was the question again?

Oh, I am also typing on my iPhone but without the text speak or typographical errors must be due to my several degrees

You're well urban this morning word :)

Bit late to the party...
I have a career because
I'm an intelligent human being with a good and expensive education. I don't plan to waste it by not having a career.
I have to support my son and myself.
Being dependent on a man is not my style. Men can fuck off, get injured, die. I need my own earning power and my own money.
My son benefits from me working, he learns a work ethic and he has a mum who is engaged and interesting.

I've seen the op use the word 'apposed' instead of 'as opposed', that in beginning to believe it's a word... Quick, someone slap some sense into me.

OP I'm a scientist, I work in research predominantly in the field of radiation physics. Do you think that I should stop working because I have a child? The work I do is quite valuable and may potentially save lives. I spent 9 years at university to do this work. I am fortunate in that I don't 'have' to work as you put it, but I do 'want' to. I hope my DS is proud of me when he grows up and doesn't feel I ruined his childhood by working.

Some very interesting and clever posts on this thread.

Only some though.

Someone asked "why is the OP lucky?"

I would personally hate to be a SAHM, but I still think that having choices is fortunate, even if I would not take that choice myself.

Hmmm.... Jenna eh? You would happen to have a dd called Elal Ella, would you?

My aunt had 7 dcs and stayed at home, she's never worked a day in her life, guess what - her kids have no work ethic either.

However my mum had 3 dcs and 2 ss, she worked part time/ full time/ was a student etc and in my lifetime so far has worked her way up from an overlocker making tights to sister/ teacher and works in other parts of the hospital too.

She is amazing, strong, inspirational she has taught me that in life if you want something you work hard, you have determination and you can achieve anything. What more could I ask for?

I work becasue I enjoy working. Having a baby hasn't removed my need to work.

This thread is making me want to find a job, now!!