Too much time in playpen for toddler?

[lexiss]

This morning DS 17 months woke up at 6am. I got up bf him and put him in the playpen. It is one of those extra large, hexagonal playpens.

Around 6.15 I gave him some water and changed his nappy. Then I went back to bed after making sure the playpen had only safe toys and the baby monitor was plugged in.

I fell asleep and woke up at 8.30. I went out to see DS and he was happily playing with this toys. He is very into small manipulative puzzles, shape boxes, stacking cups etc at the moment and he was busy playing with these.

He had been in the playpen for nearly 2.5 hours! Is this too long? Is there a problem that he plays happliy for this length of time by himself?

Most days I have a nap during the day for an hour or so and DS spends this time in the playpen but I have never left him for 2.5 hours before.

What do you think about this?

Stupid bloody new phone

They use sleep deprivation as a torture device for a reason!

Have a look in the sleep topic, you'll find loads of lovely support and advice in there.

This parenting lark is tricky isn't it!

And if he's happy to play on his own let him play on his own. If he wants you he'll tell you.

There's absolutely nothing wrong with that, it's good for them to be able to entertain themselves. Make the most of it, he may change his mind tomorrow and if he does you'll certainly know about it!

Awww, isn't the op lovely. See, no problem, the child is fine :)

yes you do sound very lovely OP,

oh dear god..WTAF happened??

I read the op on Monday, I havent read it since but really??

To be honest I find the whole thread quite disturbing.
I think its pretty awful to imply neglect and abuse to a first time mum who was just asking for advice. No one knows what they are doing first time around.

Its not too much to expect a forum for parents might give the OP a bit of support is it?

And as for the developmentally delayed due to CC, the accusations that one poster didnt bother to get involved with her DN based on one persons imagination, accusations of bullying and alliances, I am actually speechless.

And that does not happen very often.

Great (biased) summing up there. Are you the cavalry riding in on your Donkey?

Support?? MN should come with a warning these days- this forum will provide support for those who agree with the majority.

The OP was canvassing opinion- I gave mine. If you have read the whole thread my personal spat was with Choola not the OP after she called me 'batshitcrazy'. I responded to this believe it or not!

Most people didn't agree with what the OP had done. However, they gave their views in a polite way (generally) and the OP listened to what had been said and took it into consideration.

The issue came when some people decided to start shouting neglect and accusing people who dare to not spend every second with their child of neglecting their children.

Are you seriously trying to tell me that some posters are not familiar with each other, online friends?

I didn't say anything about a conspiracy, moral support would be a more fitting definition. Mrs do you work for a tabloid newspaper as you are great at exaggerating the truth and applying a bit of a sensationalist spin to things?

I'm not online friends with anyone, but I did very strongly agree with Maryz's posts on packing etiquette in Aldi recently.

Sirzy, that is simply not true. There are a lot of rude posts at the very start of the thread before I even contributed.

NO the issue came when someone called me, 'batshitcrazy' amongst other things. I'm not the type to just say, 'oh, ok if you think so?'. Sorry if you dont like that . Then it was decided I was fair game, I was called various lovely things and my mental health was questioned. It was out and out bullying. The MH thing was defamation and it is totally unacceptable!

Yes. I am best friends with everyone on this thread who disagreed with you.
We all live in the same house. We were in the pub this lunchtime discussing you and I decided to "become the cavalry"

FFS, you were going on about being allowed to have your opinion and post it.

So you can do that and I can't?

Can I suggest that you actually RTFT and absorb the comments you made? That may give you some idea of why people are disagreeing with you?

Failing that, let it go

We get it. You are highly educated, you do not approve of play pens or CC to the point you feel it delays development and makes children sad.

Ok, great. Thanks. So is that all?

Oh everyone is in my quiche dincha know we are all drinking bailys coffee and sat in my living room on seperate devices prefering to talk about your MH and all giggling over what else we can "bully" you over

Speaking of defamation, you didn't think implying that a poster ^ didn't care about her DN. and sat back and let her suffer might just fall into that category?

Or is it ok for you to make gigantic, unfair assumptions based on nothing but your own imagination, but not ok for others to do so?

The cavalry thing was a joke that's why I said Donkey. I'm also wandering why you felt the need to summarise the thread?

At one point I said that I didn't think play pens were wrong per se but I didn't agree with leaving an AWAKE 17 month old in one for 2.5 hrs- so shoot me, I'm such a radical!

I mentioned my MA as someone was disputing my ability to distinguish opinions from facts.

And yes you are correct I don't agree with CC.

Ok, so Mrs, you'd be ok with someone questioning your mental health would you. Telling you how your characteristics suggest a problem. Oh come on???

If I were behaving in a way that other people honestly found concerning I would have no problem with anyone questioning my mental Heath.

The thing is golden you do an awful lot of ignoring people that might have a point.
You are insulted and disgusted that someone questioned your mental health. But I would imagine the people who you really did insult, like the person who you said sat back and let her DN suffer were a hell of a lot more offended than you.
But you won't accept that will you? You won't accept that you have been insulting. You just insist everyone has been horrible to you.

You disagree with me maryz ???

Im devestated :( :(

But, honestly golden I'm sure that you have agreed with posters on mumsnet before? It's not against the rules is it? It's just having the same bloody opinion.

You know that at least half the thread agreed that it was not the best idea in the world to leave the baby and go sleep in another room?

I mean, you weren't the only one. But you are the one, still here, still arguing. I don't understand where you are going with this or what you hope to achieve?

baileys coffee is my favouritist