Too much time in playpen for toddler?

[lexiss]

This morning DS 17 months woke up at 6am. I got up bf him and put him in the playpen. It is one of those extra large, hexagonal playpens.

Around 6.15 I gave him some water and changed his nappy. Then I went back to bed after making sure the playpen had only safe toys and the baby monitor was plugged in.

I fell asleep and woke up at 8.30. I went out to see DS and he was happily playing with this toys. He is very into small manipulative puzzles, shape boxes, stacking cups etc at the moment and he was busy playing with these.

He had been in the playpen for nearly 2.5 hours! Is this too long? Is there a problem that he plays happliy for this length of time by himself?

Most days I have a nap during the day for an hour or so and DS spends this time in the playpen but I have never left him for 2.5 hours before.

What do you think about this?

Okay, firstly no one has told you what views you can and can't hold they've just asked you to present them as views not facts.

The bit about the 2 kids and defamation I'm afraid I don't understand.

I was asking a genuine question and don't see having mental health issues as an insult. They are a fact of life and do not in any way make someone a lesser person.

Your reply has just highlighted why I am concerned.

You seem sure everyone is out to get you. You also grossly misinterpret what people say.

I actually don't like seeing people rounded on which is why most of my posts to you have been to try make you understand why it is happening.

You say you have been in mn for 5 years. Do you find yourself in these types of situations often? If not, is there a reason why this particular thread has caused you to react as it has?

If it does happen regularly is it something you actually enjoy? Do you get some form of perverse pleasure from feeling got at.

I only ask as you sound so much like my mother it's uncanny and she very definitely has undiagnosed mh issues.

These are hypothetical questions by the way, I'm not asking you to justify yourself to me or anyone else.

The point is that you were rude and offensive to others from the outset and when challenged for your behaviour and unfounded claims you threw up your hands saying everyone else was using you as a scapegoat because cause no one else who disagreed had come back. Like a child saying 'it wasn't me being offensive - you are all picking on meeeee!' I posted to refute this and pointed out that it was YOUR attitude to others that was the reason people were responding negatively to you.

Cue a load more unsubstantiated and offensive statements and when it becomes clear that actually you aren't looking great (finally!) you then start complaining that I have been offensive to you.

Can you not see the irony here? You are rude and offensive to all and sundry and when someone turns your behaviour around on you you start banging on about how they are the one who is offensive and in the wrong.

As ye sow so shall ye reap perhaps?

You appear to be able to give it but not take it.

Again you remind me of a child picking on others in the playground - happy when you are the one being mean, but complaining about meanies when they say something back.

Grow up.

TBF you said it would be viewed as neglect if an accident was to happen - I trust you know what you are talking about?

Please give examples of how I was any more offensive than you at the start of the thread.

I didn't feel got at but you're quite persistent in your offensive name calling.

Tricky for me this, as my DD plays in her cot when she's tired, and then naps, she won't go to sleep in the day any other way. Even when she's exhausted, so she has books and couple of teddies in there, that's it. I think it's the going back to bed thing for me that sticks a bit here, I couldn't sleep if my DD was awake, I'd be listening for every little thing, I don't think what you're doing is purposely neglectful BTW, and I know no sleep can be a killer, but you may not hear him being sick/choking if you're in a deep sleep.

GB why don't you just say...

I have got to involved and wound up on this thread, it makes me really cross that you cannot see what I see. It has all got a bit out of hand and I'm sorry for causing offense to anyone. Lets all agree to disagree on the one off 2hrs and not even go there about our different views on cc and play pens.

The name calling is a sign of desperation.

Calling people liars is a sign of desperation to....

The OP was canvassing opinion on whether it was too long to leave an awake 17 month old in a playpen. I said yes it very much was. I even said that I didn't disagree with Play pens Per se but I did disagree with leaving a toddler in one for 2.5 hrs.

I have been called, 'Batshitcrazy', 'crazy', 'stupid', 'twatty', 'a child', my mental health has been called into question and yet I should be apologising for offence caused??? InNeed, please imagine what my response to that might be as I don't want to offend anyone!

Can't we all stop this now?

It's getting silly.

No Maryz I will not- please don't instruct me to do things.

Throw away comments? I have been diagnosed as having MH issues over the Internet hardly a throw away comment!

No you don't have MH issues and no one said you did either, it was a liken to someone else.

You are completely ridiculous though.

Well it wasn't likening in Randall's first post querying my MH. She went on to liken my MH to her Mother's in her following post on the issue. Why is that ok?

If Randall was really concerned for my mental health she/he would've pm'd me. It is not acceptable to try and diagnose someone in this way because they take offence at what I'm saying.

Is it? Why? Please give me examples of the bizarre behaviour? Let's be honest though the concern is really about having the last word.

Being passionate in a discussion is not indicative of MH issues.

I have been asked to provide answers to questions put to me...sorry but why should I. I have no more duty to answer questions or to apologise than those have to me.

Why is it that when someone comes on here asking a question they get 2 pages of responses then the next 20 pages are spent picking apart one particular posters comments? Everyone is perfectly within their rights to disagree with others viewpoints, however to go on about them page after page is nothing short of bullying and is certainly not in the least bit helpful to the op.

To answer your question op I think if this was a one off thing then no problem, your child was fine. However you went on to say that you put your child in the pen awake and go off for a nap every day and this imo is not ok.
Being a parent at the most basic level generally involves being awake during the day.
Your child is 17 months i doubt he is going to be happy being confined for much longer, most toddlers enjoy exploring their surroundings. What happens if he decides to climb out for the first time when you're having your nap? If you really can't get enough sleep at night then i think you're just going to have to rely on a nice strong coffee or 5 to keep you going like most sleep deprived mothers!

I think the trouble is that the op asked the question in AIBU, acceptable!

When I came on to post I was going to comment that I thought 2.5 hrs was too long, especially in another room, but to hope the op got some help for her insomnia.

Unfortunately I was distracted by someone implying that leaving a child alone that long could lead to developmental delays.....

sorry op!

Yet another 'helpful' post that in no way relates to the op's question. I rest my case.

I don't see why it is ok to question someone's parenting and call them neglectful just because you don't agree with their parenting, yet it's not ok to question someone's mh due to how they are posting.

Noone has tried to diagnose you over the internet

This thread is madness, although I probably shouldn't use that term as it could cause offence to those suffering mh problems