Prefer to be beautiful to having brains?

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I was asked - would you rather be beautiful and have below average intelligence or would be rather be clever and be dull looking/plain jane.

I went with beauty.

It seems to me that in society having beauty is quite highly valued and life is perhaps easier because you are more accepted. Most people however chose brains over beauty. So perhaps I am in the minority?

Okay. Back to serious discussion.

Beauty can open doors but can also close them. Sometimes a really attractive person is not taken seriously or they could get into a situation where others feel threatened by their beauty.

Exactly Tess. Would you really want to hang out with someone who only wanted you around because you looked good? Not interested in what you had to say, just whether you reflected glory on them

I agree that beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and also wonder if the op is samantha brick.
If you voted for beauty would you rather have a 'beautiful' face or a 'perfect' body?

do men have these kind of discussions?

I doubt very much whether men have these discussions.

I'd pick BRAINS every single time. There is so much you can do with a good mind. Beauty can be acquired.

I'd go for brains, perfect plastic surgery and buy myself some beauty

I think Brad Pitt agonises about it.

Well, by virtue of asking what you'd rather have, there's an assumption that is the case OP.

Though clearly tis a touchy subject.

Hmm but what is beauty? If you ask my DH I am the most beautiful thing in the world. :)
On the other hand if you ask my lovely brother it becomes a totally different view!

I would go for brains though as it makes me able to make myself a beauty

who do you consider beautiful?

who do you consider clever?

It's all just chemical reactions in the body. No one is beautiful. Your genetics decide what kind of features appeal to you and then all this chemistry takes place in your body and signals are sent to your brain saying "wow, that person is beautiful". There is no such thing as love.

All the comments about cleverness making you unhappy make me sad. I think I am pretty clever - not something I would say in real life or on here out of context - and I don't feel this has made me unhappy in the least. Quite the opposite.

also wonder if the op is samantha brick

And why is that?

Don't think I have once said that I am beautiful or that my female friends are jealous of my good looks.

I said out of a choice of two I would be more likely to chose beauty.

So you can take your snide comment somewhere else, unless you can back up your lovely comment.

Arthurfowlersallotment why single me out?

Other people have agreed they would chose beauty (although it seems to be in the minority)

And others have told stories about things that have happened because they deem themselves to be beautiful.

I have not done this.

I do NOT think of myself as beautiful. All I said was that I prefer beauty over brains.

Luckily for me I have both

Phewff!

I have a beautiful brain if that helps?

I put this question to a Year 9 C/D borderline class once (so "average" pupils). Actually, it wasn't looks - it was a choice between being really clever or really sporty. Almost every single one went for brains, which I found incredibly interesting.

I think it's mostly nonsense.

With both beauty and brains, the main thing is to apply yourself to your goal.

I have a brainy face. like this

I agree the way we look affects how some people treat us, I'm not sure I've ever met someone I would consider ugly/not beautiful unless they have repellent personal hygiene or habits. It disconcerts me how hung up we are on looks because I know for sure there are many people who have a very narrow definition of what's beautiful.

As long as I don't scare children & small animals (& dp) too much I will be happyish with my looks.

As for brains, it doesn't matter how high calibre your brain is if you don't have the aptitude to use it. As we are constantly told now, you don't call a child clever you congratulate them on the work they've put in. You can work hard at your looks and/or your brains.

When you chose your partner/husband/whatever, did you choose them for their beauty or their brains.

Oh if it was brains or being sporty, then I'd pick brains. Who wants to be sporty? Look at Josie Jump - she ended up tweaking and being kicked off Balamory. No thank you to that!

Binks is that really true?

Oh, I chose my husband for his beauty. But I don't think I would have stayed with him for very long if he hadn't been intelligent too.

i'm supposedly clever but I think I would plump for beauty