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Prefer to be beautiful to having brains?

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charlmarascoxo · 24/11/2012 19:31

I was asked - would you rather be beautiful and have below average intelligence or would be rather be clever and be dull looking/plain jane.

I went with beauty.

It seems to me that in society having beauty is quite highly valued and life is perhaps easier because you are more accepted. Most people however chose brains over beauty. So perhaps I am in the minority?

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Latara · 26/11/2012 21:24

I'm not sure why some people are more confident or successful than others; but looks & brains don't seem to have much influence in either thing.

I'm not sure why some people call me 'sweet' or similar because i'm really not; i just look younger than i am. It's patronising IMO.

AmberSocks · 26/11/2012 21:25

Most men ime seem confident,they just dont seem to worry about things like that the way women do.

thats probably why men are in charge of the world and we are not!

AmberSocks · 26/11/2012 21:26

Plus you do get people who are good looking and intelligent....its not one or the other!

Latara · 26/11/2012 21:27

My sister is very pretty but always gets lots of hassle from men; not pleasant really. She's popular with both men & women though luckily; & she's intelligent at maths, accounting etc. which is a good thing.
So she has both. I'm proud of her achievements in her career. :)

YerMaw1989 · 26/11/2012 21:33

Logically I know I should say brains , but attractive people have easier lives in general so beauty.

Kewcumber · 26/11/2012 22:21

"but being bright means being tortured by the complexity of life and being socially inept"

not necessarily - thats personality not intelligence. I'm not really a tortured should and certainly not socially inept - in fact I did very well in a "brains" profession in the media industry because I could talk to people (just like a real human being!)

I think there are a lot of stereotypes being trotted out on this thread.

blueshoes · 26/11/2012 22:34

Kew, you are clever but probably not a genius Grin. Agree about the stereotypes.

wildstrawberryplace · 26/11/2012 22:55

No one has said that being merely bright means being tortured and socially inept.

People were talking about extremes of beauty and extremes of intelligence and how they can be hindrances rather than beneficial.

Kewcumber · 26/11/2012 23:41

how do you know I'm not a genius [pouty emoticon]

TheShriekingHarpy · 27/11/2012 00:15

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Eliza22 · 27/11/2012 09:03

Brains for sure. But then, I'm not blessed with brains or beauty.

Latara · 27/11/2012 09:11

It's true to say that personality counts for a lot; because generally a person's characteristics show in their face i think.

I knew 2 pretty women who were bitchy & looked it; somehow it made them less pretty.

(But lots more people - pretty or not - aren't so bitchy luckily).

Corygal · 27/11/2012 09:25

Brains, because beauty does not bring you romantic happiness. The biggest group of women divorcees are size 10, believe it or not. Isn't that sad?

But mainly because no one is that ugly. Scrubbing up can change you dramatically - and highlights are a lot quicker and cheaper than an MA.

LaQueen · 27/11/2012 10:01

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