to wonder what the fuck i am supposed to do

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Oh just rang me from work to say he has to work next weekend, which would be fine IF we weren't moving house. I have absolutely no idea what I am going to do.AIBU?

I moved house by myself (single parent). You can do it! Have you packed? Are you using a removal company? Have you notified the utilities etc? Call some friends and see if they can lend a hand.

Don't panic!

It will be fine, have you got any help at all

rope in friends, family, acquaintances and get packing. It can be done.

Do you have a removal firm booked?

Tbh, I would be mad at dh for not booking the time off and if he has booked the time off, then he should refuse to work (unless it is one of those jobs like police, where leave can be cancelled).

Can he get someone to swop with him/appeal to boss's better nature?

I have no help and can't afford a removal company not everything is packed. 5 children as well to sort out. The only friend I could ask is working overtime to get extra cash for Christmas. I have a serious panic on.

How were you going to move everything? Get your children to help with the packing, 6 pairs of hands are better than 1.

So is he seriously expecting you to shift boxes and furniture onto a van while looking after 5 kids AND unpack the other end?!

If you can afford it, get the removal company to pack and unpack. We found that by shopping around we could get a removal company to do all of it for the same price as others were quoting for just a move. Send children elsewhere for the day. Put wine in fridge. Be living in other house when DH returns from work. He won't have keys, so depending on how it goes you can choose whether to let him in or not.

move what you can and get the DC to help, wait for DP to come home to do the big heavy lifting.

Start packing today, what i did was moved DD into my bedroom and used her room to store all the boxes.

Oops, cross post. Your only choice is physical violence against him or his boss.

Does he really have to work.

Man with a van is often the best/cheapest option. Try to get one with a large capacity van, as they tend to charge by the hour (I'm assuming you're not going far, though...).

If that isn't an option, I think I would refuse to move on that date unless your partner sorts out some help for you.

What does your OH suggest you do?

Does he HAVE to work? Moving house is huge. That's a not-going-to-work day.

I can't really get all the children to help as one is a toddler and one 5 months. The other there could maybe do something. I have sickness and diarrhea at moment so am struggling a bit.
OH didn't address the issue and just said he didn't have a choice.

If he cannot be at home for a pre-arranged specific job ie.moving then it is his responsibility to provide an alternative! Agree with the poster who said ask HIM for the solution. Is he getting overtime? Does he contractually have to do the work or is he taking the path of least resistance? Could he negotiate with boss for them to advance him the overtime to pay for the van or suchlike. Could you defer moving (unlikely but worth considering)

Be careful with a man with a van. I moved in June, for some reason the idiots decided to take my 'flat pack' coffee table and TV cabinet to pieces as they 'fell to bits because they was cheap' in the transit. Problem was, that the coffee table wasn't flat pack. They had unscrewed the top and snapped one of the ends off it (it was screwed in, and secured with industrial strength glue). I did manage to repair it, the top's still loose though. I don't consider £100 to be cheap for a coffee table. I also had to pay a proper removal company to bring the rest of our things to our new house as they left a fair amount of stuff. It would have been cheaper to use the removal company without the van man.

Where about in the UK are you? Someone may be able to recommend someone.

Oh, if that's the case then tell him you're not moving unless he takes the day off and helps you.

Well since this is a problem of his making he should fix it. Not you.

Tell him he either tells work he cannot work on that day as he forgot he was moving, or he pays for removal van.

You cannot do it yourself while he buggers off to work.

5 kids inc baby and toddler

Not a prayer I'd be moving with no help.

What does your dh do?

OH didn't address the issue...?

We are in south yorkshire and this is our second moving date. The first had to be cancelled because he couldn't get time off work

I assume he is a brain surgeon or something equally vital.

He's a department manager in a large well known supermarket.