To want my MIL to take this photo off her Facebook?

[DancingLola]

Sorry,a joint FB/MIL whinge coming up!

I just logged on to FB to find my MIL has uploaded a photo of DS in the bath on her profile, and has made it her profile pic. He's lying on his front covered in bubbles & you can quite clearly see his bum. Aibu to not be happy about the photo being public? I'm not one of these people who thinks there are peadophiles lurking everywhere, and I don't mind her putting up photos of him normally (as long he's wearing clothes!) but I have no idea who she's friends with on FB & want her to delete it!

YANBU

I read somewhere that if people see babies bottoms in thier natural state, the very fabric of space time rends itself asunder.

I think you should run around your living room in a blind panic and the call the police.

What will her friends to with a photograph?

If you're ok with photos of your child being splashed across the world wide web, what's the problem with this one just because his bum's in it?

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I would ask her to remove it, if you are uncomfortable.

I know I had to literally spell everything out for my mum on FB. She had photos of my kids and a open profile. I had to do all her security etc. She just didn't think. She didn't even realise everyone could see her photos unless she had certain security.

Perhaps MIL just hasn't thought.

OMG!!!!!!! Your poor poor DS, people know what a bum looks like!!!!!!!!!!

It wouldn't bother me at all. Assuming he isn't 16

He's not a baby, he's 5. I didn't say her FB friends would do anything with the photo, I just don't understand why she's put it up & used it as her profile pic!

Yeh there is that pagwatch - although I dread to think what half naked pics of my 19 year old DS there is on FB--

What do you think is going to happen? Aside from her granny friends "liking" and saying how cute he is?

YABU. sorry, I just don't get this. As Ophelia says, what would her friends do with a photo?

Oh - a 5 year olds bottom

Run around the living room twice then call the police

To be honest her friends are probably cringing, feeling like they're having a wall conversation with a five year old's arse

Actually I agree - it is a bit disrespectful to the child to put naked photos of him online presumably without his consent.

If she drew eyes on it Worra it would be easier for everyone

You don't understand why she put it up? Presumably she just thought it was cute.

Tbh, I feel very uncomfortable if anyone puts pictures of my DC on FB without my consent so I agree with you. Nothing to do with hysteria re paedophiles lurking around every corner, I just don't think it's anyone else's right to do it. I would just say, I don't want that picture on Facebook, please take it down.

rather than get all uppity, go round and explain about security.

that way only her friends can see the cute and gorgeous squidgy bum of her grandson, that she loves and adores and thinks the world of, and there is no need for you to panic.

lets be honest, if she is like my MIL, she will have about 5 friends, who just miss those days of squidgy bums in the bath, and they will all go

Photoshop a fig leaf over it. Problem solved.

OP I dont know why everyone is taking the p, i think yanbu and I would have been so angry if it was my dc, its not acceptable at all to put a naked pic of someone elses child on your fb, who on earth would find that okay??!?! I dont get why people do it with pics of their own kids either but someone elses and without permission, is 2 steps further. I would report it to fb actually, they will take it off. and also have a firm word with her not to do it again.
normal pics fine, but not pics in the bath, of a 5 yr old!!!!!!

If he was older, and it was a mooning pic, then I would be all .

small children in the bath = heart melt

once you are past that age, you see it for what it is....innocent fun to be celebrated.

I think if you feel the need for a FB account then you have to accept that people will put pictures on it, how did she get the picture, did you send it to her in the first place, or did she just take it?

I really know nothing about FB, don't use it, don't want to use it but it seems that you can't 'pick and choose' what it's used for.

As far as I know there aren't loads of photos of DS plastered over the World Wide Web... I have a few in an album that is restricted to family/close friends. I have no idea if her profile is private or not (I'd suspect not as she's not that Internet savvy) and I know with recent changes I can see photos my friends comment on without knowing the person who posted them. As I have said,I don't think her online friends are going to do anything with the photo - I'd just rather it wasn't on there. In the first place!

Actually I agree - it is a bit disrespectful to the child to put naked photos of him online presumably without his consent.

Is it not also 'disrespectful' to put photos up of him with his bum covered?

When I was a kid and my Aunt and Uncles would come and visit, my Mum would get the photo album out and I would absolutely cringe.

I hated them looking at photos of me and Cooing and Ahhing...it was just embarrassing.

If my Mum had put those photos in our front window, sent them to the local newspaper and the TV station....I think I would have died.

Yet that's the 1970's equivalent of what people do every day now on social media.

If you're ok with making these decisions for your children, I don't see how having their naked bum in the photo makes any difference.