to be annoyed that we are excluded

[Flojo1979]

Here comes the excuses, so far I've batted them back with good humour but its fading fast.
Been seeing someone on and off for a while, he spends time art mine, with my young kids etc.
Hes off to NEC with his son tomorrow who I havent met.
I just invited myself and DD to go to, as he knows we love motorbikes too.
Cue excuses.
So far we've had 'u know I'm going with DS', to which I replied 'oh sorry for confusion, I meant we all go then u see us and DS, win win, wharves time are u picking me up?' To which he replied 'told u I'm going with DS' to which I replied 'thats fine, can't wait to meet him. What time shall I be ready for' .....
I'm on a hiding to nothing ain't it?
How on earth do I salvage this?

[TiggyD]

I hope he reads this and gets out fast.

[JustFabulous]

"why not say it is just boys"

He did say that. You just ignored it.

[JamieandtheMagicTorch]

BTW. What does his reply say?

[IllageVidiot]

Overly attached girlfriend

I wonder if the text is the final answer?

[Doinmummy]

Always have to put the breaks on him as he appears to adore DD. Yet just feel somewhat disheartened that he is reluctant with me

This sounds wrong.

[tisnottheseasonyet]

In what way, doin?

[grovel]

IllageVidiot, I shouldn't laugh but I did.

[Doinmummy]

Sorry meant to say this sounds the wrong way round. He should be keener on the Op rather than her daughter .

[Doinmummy]

Actually I guess there's no ' should' about it. He doesn't have to be keen on anyone if he doesn't want to.

[TheNebulousBoojum]

Perhaps the DD doesn't give hi the feeling of being pursued, roped and branded on the arse. Perhaps she's a small child who is generally a happy and uncomplicated person.
Unless you are making some vile and unfounded insinuation, doin?
Because if he wuz a PEEEDO he'd want to spend time with the OP and her family making them feel comfortable. And unsuspicious.
OP sounds like hard work, perhaps she should call it a day before he does.

[HildaOgden]

You're involved with him for a month and you're already pushing the blended families role on him????


Seriously,get a grip.

[Flojo1979]

It wasn't him! My mate text me.
I tried calling, as I hate texts but he didn't answer, I'm guessing its no coincidence.
Those who didn't get my "its not fair" joke, I said it because I've been told 16 million times already that I'm being childish!

See, this is why I'm single, I'm totally useless at relationships.
I either hold them at arms length and they wonder off bored. Or I meet someone I really like and grab them with both hands, then tighten it round their neck when they don't respond!
I am doomed to eternal singledom!
Oh well, its friday night, o'clock

[Doinmummy]

No nasty insinuations at all . Just saying that he's just not that into her. I wouldn't want to be with someone as a partner who seemed less keen on me than my daughter. Not for any sinister reasons either.

[Flojo1979]

No, he's not sinister, he just seems to dote on her and finds her 3 yo conversation more amusing than mine!
He took DD to meet his family a few months back, just not me! And not DS, we are a secret, he's 18 ffs. Not mentioning us is one thing but last wkend he deliberately hid it. Hence why its been bugging me all wk, hence why when he cancelled our plans to go NEC did I jump on the don't worry we'll come too bandwagon and didn't jump off til it was too late!

[Flojo1979]

Anyway I've taken it all on board so will not push any further and will try to back track if I ever hear from him again

[NoraGainesborough]

OP you posts don't add up.

Where in you OP did you say he cancelled your plans to go to the NEC. YOU didn't have any plans according to your OP, you invited yourself to HIS plans.

[Doinmummy]

WTAF??? Took your daughter on her own and kept you and your son a secret . I take it back - very very odd

[AmberLeaf]

Dooin said what I was going to say.

He took DD to meet his family a few months back, just not me!

WHAAAT?

[Flojo1979]

Not my DS, I meant keep secret from his DS.

[AmberLeaf]

Is that the only part you are going to answer???

[Doinmummy]

Still odd

[AmberLeaf]

Why are you letting this man take your three year old daughter off without you?

[NoraGainesborough]

why did you allow a man you are 'on and off' with to meet his family, when its an issue for you.

Why is he caring for your dd alone? I don't think there is anything dodgy about it but it seems strange that you would allow a non serious boyfriend to take dd for the day.

[shinyblackgrape]

He took your DD but not you?! How well did you know him then? Whose child did he tell his family she was?!

I'm speechless. I really am. I genuinely think you need to assess your boundaries generally.

[Flojo1979]

I usually see him on a saturday, he usually sees his DS and family on a sunday. We'd vaguely chatted about what we were going to do etc. But nothing firm.
He originally text to say, can't do saturday off to NEC with DS. As I do bike show most yrs I realised it was time of yr.
I said no worries we can all go, as he then said u know I'm going with DS, I dug my heels in (or claws as it now seems!)