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AIBU to expect people to come to my "tupperware" party to spend at least 3 pounds when they come?

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lilasimpson · 21/11/2012 17:51

I held a "tupperware" type party. The hostess came down with the items and did some demo,etc....I had invited a few mums/friends, including very close friends...to be honest it was meant to be fun and I did not want the mums/friends to feel obliged to buy anything and stated that on my email. However, I never would have thought that out of the 10 people who came, 3 ordered something, which left the hostess really crossed as the guests who hadn't ordered said they would def do that by the deadline...but they never did...even when the hostess phoned them to find out after the deadline...I am feeling really sad and disappointed as I would never have gone to a party like this without buying anything, even if it meant 3 pounds....I feel that these women just came for a free lunch really( I cooked lots of things!)....To be honest, I wanted to enjoy this party and the money did not matter so much but I could have easily got lots of items with all the money that I spent cooking all the food...AIBU?? NB: /my "best friend" even tried to get my discount (as i get points and discount acoording to the sales), so that she wouldnt have to spend so much...in the end, she bought nothing, saying the items were too expensive....

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NoraGainesborough · 21/11/2012 18:37

Well not everyone commented about it being the Tupperware brand.

So it was plastic containers that are not made by 'tupperware'?

hf128219 · 21/11/2012 18:39

Was it a Charlotte party?

NoraGainesborough · 21/11/2012 18:40

lovelyladuree the friends who indicated they wanted to buy something, did so to be polite. And as the hostess contacted them AFTER the deadline, they had the ability to place an order if they so wished.

If I say I want to place an order I have the right to change mind and not order. Without someone ringing me to question my decision.

BeatTheClock · 21/11/2012 18:41

And that awkward quiet bit where the person doing the party asks if anyone wants to book a party at theirs. Then cranks up the pressure by saying what the hostess will get if we do. (Or wont if we dont)

Much coughing, whistling and searching for a pen at that juncture.

I do remember my mum having Pippa Dee clothes parties. The enduring memory there is all her friends stripping off behind the sofa trying to squeeze into the clobber. And mind blowingly the clothes all having names like Barbara Blouse, and Sandra Trousers. Except the party rep would say 'And here we have the Sandra Trouser flattering in Berry, Mocha and Vanilla'

I was very young and allowed to lurk in the baclground if I was quiet and didn't eat all the sausage rolls.

Narked · 21/11/2012 18:42

Those things all work like this:

ImperialBlether · 21/11/2012 18:43

I'm in stitches at this thread. The outrage!

I still haven't got over going to a Tupperware party about ten years ago. My friends and I were invited to a party by a work colleague. We thought it was going to be a proper party. Imagine our surprise when, on a Friday night, we had to sit on hard kitchen chairs and watch someone demonstrate plastic boxes. I was so desperate to get out of there I bought a cake holder for £30 - only realised the price as I was writing the cheque. I make two cakes a year and they are eaten in minutes.

NorksAreMessy · 21/11/2012 18:43

"if u can read"

Rude

Tweasels · 21/11/2012 18:46

I think it was Ann Summers. The so called friends just didn't buy enough dildos.

What is the world coming to when you won't even buy an overpriced plastic cock to help your friend get a discount on her butt plug.

No one needs friends like that OP.

mrskeithrichards · 21/11/2012 18:49

I enquired about doing Ann summers once, being the dirty mare I am it would've been easy. However I realised I couldn't sit in the company of people drinking wine without joining in. Then I realised me, pissed and in charge of a box of cocks wasn't a good idea.

Smeeeinit · 21/11/2012 18:51

YABVU for even inviting your friends to a shit party where they feel obliged to buy a load of ole tat!

PuppyMonkey · 21/11/2012 18:52

I'm a bit disappointed it wasn't really Tupperware. ( brand name, capitals)

I went to a Vie at Home one at neighbours. Awful stuff and only about £2 or so cheaper than Clinique. I tried to slip off early and the Vie woman shouted really loud across the room: "You haven't left an order form!!!!!!" I told her I wasn't interested and she gave me a cat's bum face.

ImperialBlether · 21/11/2012 18:55

I went to my daughter's friend's mum's (keep up at the back) Body Shop party. I don't mind Body Shop but I don't want to buy it more than once a year. I went because she was widowed and ill and trying to raise funds.

Fifty pounds later I left the house. I'm not sure what she got from it but I would've much preferred to give her that money and not sit through someone trying to put make up on me.

freddiefrog · 21/11/2012 19:00

YABU

I wouldn't have gone to the party in the first place

soverylucky · 21/11/2012 19:01

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onedev · 21/11/2012 19:01

I can't believe people actually do this to their friends - glad mine aren't like this!

psychomum5 · 21/11/2012 19:08

YABU.

And I used to be a Tupperware demonstrator and even got to the heady status of being a manager with my own 'team' of 'girls' (we were psycho-angels)

I never expected people to buy anything. I never rang them up asking them for the supposed belated order. In fact I never did make money from it as I needed to buy a new blasted kit every sodding month when they bought out each new bloody deal.

That said, my Tupperware I had then is still in use now, unlike the Addis stuff that replaced it and put Tupperware out of business.

I am quite pleased it is back on sale again.

But fuck me its sodding pricy!!!

IAmSoFuckingRock · 21/11/2012 19:15

i went to an ann summers party about ooh 5 years ago with a neighbour 9it was at her mum's house) i bought a bottle of 'love oil', cue friend sitting next to me saying very loudly "what are you buying that for? - you dont have anyone to use it with!" i should have just handed teh form back and left but i didn't bought it. it's still sitting in my dressing table drawer unopened 5 years later.

Jins · 21/11/2012 19:18

I was hopeful that this was a consensus thread but it's been ruined by the poster just before the OPs last comment saying the same thing as the OP

SucksFake · 21/11/2012 19:19

YABU. Like others have said people don't have a lot of money to purchase 'unnecessary plastic objects'.

I have only been to two of these sorts of parties. The first time I got an invite for a Jamie Oliver I got excited thinking my friend was having a dinner party with a menu from Jamie's latest cookbook.

Oh, how I laughed when I realised my mistake. (And came home ravenous & £20 poorer.)

rotavirusrita · 21/11/2012 19:31

I too have been caught out by invites to "come round for coffee". Naively the first time I didnt realise this kind of thing happened and I went without my wallet. Embarassed I rang DH from the toilets and got him to go to a cashpoint. I then spent a fortune on a bun tin.

I genuinely didnt think people would invite you for coffee and want to sell you stuff.,

I now decline all invites to such crap and dont seem to have lost any mates doing so!

KenLeeeeeee · 21/11/2012 19:34

YABU. Why tell your friends they didn't have to buy anything and then tizz at them for not buying anything?

YA-also-BU for having a naff as shite "come to my house and buy tat" party. Bleurgh.

SorryMyLollipop · 21/11/2012 19:38

Someone very close to me has been a party rep for at least two of the organisations mentioned earlier. I very reluctantly hosted a party for them to get them started and hated every second.

On another note, I was once invited to a bonfire night party at the home of a colleague. Arrived with sparklers and some food/booze etc handed them over then realised that it was a political fundraising party! There was an actual price list on the wall for food and drinks and a table set up selling political propaganda publications !!!

MrsHoarder · 21/11/2012 19:55

Sorry only acceptable if it was for the Catholic Republican Workers Party.

picturesinthefirelight · 21/11/2012 20:01

YABU

However.......

I am still using Tupperware my mum bought in the 70's. it's still in really good condition. Mum is always saying she wishes she could get hold of it now

I can't see my Wilkia stuff lasting like that. Even the Systema sandwich boxes have snapped.

RooneyMara · 21/11/2012 20:02

Oh dear.

Well OP you live and learn. These aren't really parties, they're an advertising gimmick and you get to do the dirty work, which makes your friends resent you and you resent them.

It's not a party at all.

People using their friends to sell things to is just so out of order. Especially when the stuff costs so much and no one really wants any of it. There's a mum at school who wants to sell us all her old cookware from when she used to do these 'parties'. Same thing applies - we're not customers, we're friends - well, actually, no, we're not, apparently. She sees us all as customers.

It's not good for anyone.

Have a proper party next time without the plastic stuff

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