AIBU to expect people to come to my "tupperware" party to spend at least 3 pounds when they come?

[lilasimpson]

I held a "tupperware" type party. The hostess came down with the items and did some demo,etc....I had invited a few mums/friends, including very close friends...to be honest it was meant to be fun and I did not want the mums/friends to feel obliged to buy anything and stated that on my email. However, I never would have thought that out of the 10 people who came, 3 ordered something, which left the hostess really crossed as the guests who hadn't ordered said they would def do that by the deadline...but they never did...even when the hostess phoned them to find out after the deadline...I am feeling really sad and disappointed as I would never have gone to a party like this without buying anything, even if it meant 3 pounds....I feel that these women just came for a free lunch really( I cooked lots of things!)....To be honest, I wanted to enjoy this party and the money did not matter so much but I could have easily got lots of items with all the money that I spent cooking all the food...AIBU?? NB: /my "best friend" even tried to get my discount (as i get points and discount acoording to the sales), so that she wouldnt have to spend so much...in the end, she bought nothing, saying the items were too expensive....

Anyone remember a brilliant thread about one of these? Something to do with a casserole dish?. The OP was properly funny about it.

Did I dream it?

There are still tupperware parties?
Who'd have thought.
Op, did you invite Sharon?
I bet she's always up for a bit of tupperware.

10 people who came, 3 ordered something

Erm. I'm no expert but isn't that a pretty good result?

What did you get if they spent an average of £3 a head?

I find saying 'sorry, I never go to these sort of parties' works a treat

I think I'd be too surprised at being invited to one to do that, Norks! Had no idea this kind of thing still happened.

OP, does the man from the Pru call at your house every Friday?

An actual tuppaware party? I'd love to have one of those!

YABVVVVVVVVVVVVVVVU to even expect your friends to come to such a "party, let alone buy anything". parties are about fun, these affairs are nothing but a sales pitch, if invited I always refuse. Can't believe the organiser rang people up. That is harassment.

Have been invited to a Tempest Spa (or something like that) party next week, hostess is a good mate & has assured me I'm not expected to buy anything-she then added that she purchased a hand cream from the one she went to & it cost, wait for it, £18.50

YABU as hell. This is why I never go to these. No obligation to buy anything, MY FOOT.

Oh the insurance man!

This has to be a wind up?!?

One of the mum's at the DC's last school held a 'Boutique Christmas Open House Party'... she guilt tripped most of the school into attending by saying 5% of all profits would go to the school coffers so even the head annonced it in the news letter.

The stuff she made was shit... some of it was tesco value decoration packs that were split up and sold for £1 individually!

I spent £10 out of sheer confusion and guilt. In the end she donated a mere £20 to the school after she deducted her 'expenses' which included gas, electricity, tea, coffee (we paid 50p for ours in the make shift cafe kitchen table)

Some people have a complete brass neck!

Eeeeeek! I really don't like those parties - have been to a couple of Pampered Chef ones and they're equally awful! I can't believe the hostess phoned your friends!! What did she say??! She'd have got short shrift from me, that's for sure!

SantaisBarredfromhavingStella

Honestly, you ARE expected to buy something. Even with good mates, the are inviting you to spend.

I went to a Virgin Vie party once. I spent loads of money. Then I went home and found out I could get everything much cheaper on eBay. So I cancelled my order and did that instead.

OP, you would really hate me.

Oh god parties where they flog stuff. I've been to 'em all. And yes to my credit I usually try and find something to buy, even if it's small. In fact preferably if it's small cheap.

But oh.my.god that all stoppped at the Jamie Oliver at Home party I went to. Gawd help us. If Jamie gets up to that at home he's on his own. Jamie sells big old chunks of wood (probably sawn off something in his garden) for megabucks and calls it a 'platter'. Talk about I Saw You Coming.

Then I was struggling at a Pampered Chef party and bought the worrlds most expensive pastry brush. They were selling the same brush in a pack of two at Asda for a millionth of the price.

And Tupperware? No thanks. I can get a load of plastic boxes if I get a nice takeaway from my local Chinese restaurant and they're brilliant.

Thankfully I seem to have exhausted all possible parties now and am left in peace. Oh the relief.

I think MN has reached a consensus, OP.

A tupperware party?! Say whaaa

Good grief I've been whisked back to the 1980's!

YABU - most people only go to these 'parties' because their 'friend' the hostess cajoules them and says repeatedly "please come as a favour, you don't have to buy anything" .

YABU - I doubt there was anything worth having to buy for £3

YABU - spending "just because" is killing the planet

YABU - actual "Parties" are fun and do not involve selling overpriced crap to your mates.

Having said all that I would actually love to go to a real proper tupperware party but it seems they don't sell in the UK any more :(

Did you have babycham and cheese with pineapples on sticks?
Please say you did.

I wish people would read the OP properly. It was a 'Tupperware' style party, not actually Tupperware. The guests who were called after the party had already implied they would buy something at a later date. Everyone who goes to these types of parties knows what the crack is. OP YANBU. They definitely came for the free lunch. Bastards.

Hi all, thanks for your lovely feedback...if u can read, it says "tupperware" type party, not tupperware party... I just do not want to say what it was.but i take every thing u said into account. Tks

I wouldn't think much of friend who invited me round and expected me to buy a load of tat.

So when hosts say 'you don't have to buy anything?', one should assume that that is a lie and is actually code for 'you know what the crack is. Buy my shite'

Just for future reference.

if it was an actual proper Tupperware party people would have brought stuff. It's been unavailable in UK for some time now. Have you seen what it sells for on ebay?

So what type of tupperware was it?
Curious now.