about the word "frape"??

[BunnyLeBOOwski]

Logged onto FB this morning and was subjected to no less than 3 posts including this odious word.

In a fit of pique I posted a status along the lines of "For the love of God people, please stop using the word "frape". It makes you look insensitive and uneducated".

I know, I know, FB is the work of the devil and I shouldn't care but these are otherwise vaguely intelligent people and it is a hateful word is it not??

Or is it a harmless word and I'm overreacting?

Disclaimer: I'm at best pre-menstrual, at worst preggo so I may just be a tad snippier than usual .

i'm very happy for you Horatia. I have a law degree. Are you happy for me too?

Yes I do,because rape can be used to mean violation/improper treatment. Though they can be funny,they are a violation of that persons account/privacy/right not to be made to look ridiculous.

X post.

I wouldn't have been quite so sarcastic had I seen your "minor expert" statement was tongue in cheek.

I don't like it. I have a history and feel uncomfy when people are making rape jokes. Of course because of this I never feel I can stand up and tell them to stop it.

Yes, I defend its use. Language changes constantly. Words that once held great power or were considered taboo slowly become common slang, then pass into such a general usage that nobody blinks at it. "Frape" is not the same as "rape". But actually - any act that you consider a violation of yourself/your rights etc is a rape. I use rape as a term when I feel a company has completely overcharged for something because they know they can get away with it. I use frape if somebody hacks another person's facebook. Do I believe it lessons the gravity of actual rape? No! I have experienced non consensual sex, I still don't see the use of the word rape as being derogatory of my experience.

I think people are far too over sensitive about this and do we really need a thread on it every week? That alone makes me want to use rape more. Rape rape rape.

Find a real issue to be bothered by.

Huh, so that's what that means. I saw it earlier today and thought my friend just misspelled 'frappe'.

I know it can mean that. But perhaps 99% of the time it is used it means "forced sex act". If you asked 100 people on the street what it means, they'd describe a forced sex act.

I hope you crossposted with my comment where I said I was kidding.

I hate it, I think it's a disgusting word!

I am surprised,I have to say,to see that grown adults "frape" each others Facebooks. I thought it was a more of a young people thing,teens and drunk students.

So regardless of whether one agrees on the use of the word,we can all agree that these people are very immature?

Horatia I did. Apologies.

I'm typing on my phone so once I start typing the page doesn't update and all I can see is the text box.

YANBU

It's ridiculous to use a word like that so frivolously.

Yes it might be a technically correct definition of the action but it is generally associated with a horrific violent unimaginable crime and i can't understand why such a phrase has caught on.

When I worked in a company that had young boys (16-20ish) working in our warehouse I overheard them talking saying that someone had emptied the battery bin of a particular type of battery and the actual phrase one used was 'oh someone's been raping the battery bin again'

It was all I could do not to punch him in the face

I honestly do not know that is wrong with people.

Cross again! Drat these fast threads

But why?! These people are using the word properly. Wtf is wrong with that?

I think everyone who disagrees with the word "rape" used in any context except when being used to describe forced sex should be complaining to publishers of dictionaries.

It isn't the use of the word per se that riles me, I think, but rather a culture within which the word is used so casually and the act/crime is so misunderstood and unpunished.

It's really distasteful and I hate it.

YANBU.

Yet another way in which Facebook is shite....move away from the Facebook.

But it's not the fault of people using the word "frape" that it goes so unpunished.

I know a few people who have actually been raped in the sexual assault context and do not find the use of the word disrespectful, I also know at least 1 who actually uses it and she was the victim of a vicious attack.

If you hear "x has been raped", do you ask further questions to find out which of the 3 meanings was intended?

Twitter is much better than Facebook. Not least because more people appear to be literate. Or rather,the one I choose to follow are.

I went to school/university with the people on my Facebook. My mind boggles that they all shared at least 12 years of free education with me and cannot spell at all.

No as it would usually be pretty obvious what meaning was intended, just as it is when it is used on FB.

It is horrible. But I hasten to add, it is not FB that is evil - it the people that use FB. If you don't like what they post, pull them up on it, or delete them. I am abroad and use FB a lot as it is a handy way of keeping in touch. Strangely, I am rarely troubled by disturbing or worrying posts, as my friends and family are not a bunch of misogynist, racist wankers.

No Shriiieeek...because it is obvious what is meant.

The phrase raped and pillaged. As in x coastal town was raped and pillaged by the Vikings. That's not referring to the sexual violation of the women who lived in x coastal town (though did happen often historically),it refers to seizing property by force.

God I'm sick to death of this topic, it's done at least once a week. Usually under the guise of 'am i being unreasonable to block this person'

It is not just a sexual term.

I am sure most people who use the word use it innocently. That is not the point though...

Ghosthip, but in mhe, you tend to play down the dv/abuse/rape card on many threads, so maybe you need to educate yourself a little.

And I have been there, done that, changed my opinion.

You could try not clicking on the thread then, Ghostship.

The title of this one was enough of a signpost for you, I presume.