Locked out of DH's garage

[auroramusisamica]

Am silently fuming as DH has converted our garage into his 'studio' and refuses to give me a key. It has been about a year now and I didn't think much of it first, we agreed it was his place to work, is filled with his things and I had no desire to go in there.
However it has been dawning on me that I don't like being locked out of part of my house. There have been occasions when I wanted to access things (like blank DVDs or paint brushes) and couldn't get them.

I do go in there with him but I have asked for a key, several times over the last few months and he says I don't need one, it is just his stuff, he doesn't want me in there going through things etc.

If he had just given me one first I would have no interest but now it has become this big issue and his refusal is making me want to go through it (which is not like me, I know he has porn there & I don't mind, but he knows I know this so must be something else right?)

So AIBU to want a key, surely if he had nothing to hide he would just give me one?

[lisad123]

Doesn't feel so weird and freaky now I have two others who think the same

[MORCAPS]

My DH has both a shed and a study that are 'his' spaces, both have locks and keys (shed to keep kids away from power tools and study to keep kids away from work stuff).

They keys to both these places however are kept on the key hanging thingy in the kitchen (out if easy reach of small fingers).

I have no interest in either of these rooms (bar unlocking the study once a week for the cleaner). But if I did want to have a nosey then I absolutely could.

[lisad123]

Chipboard = sound proof right?

[SchroSawMummyRidingSantaClaus]

Lisa I linked to Ed Gein a few pages back but I watch too much CSI.

[auroramusisamica]

No no nothing like that!! I watched him build it, the lock was only added after he moved the furniture in. Actually after this thread whatever I find will probably be a relief

[SchroSawMummyRidingSantaClaus]

Is he sleeping yet? Go nab the bloody key and look!

[HildaOgden]

check behind the chipboard for decomposing bodies

He's up to something,you know it,we know it,get in there.You say this is going on for a year,did anything else change at that time?

[joanbyers]

So he has a computer with internet there? Does he lock the door when he's in there?

[quoteunquote]

Drill it out, get a drill bit(a couple) that are for metal, make sure the drill bit is the size of hole at the top of the key hole, you are trying to chip the teeth bit of the lock, bit of trial and error, bit of wiggle, bit of metal removal, and bit of tapping with a hammer and a decent screw driver, and you will be in.

or phone a lock smith, have a computer savvy person there, and a friend.

[SoggySummer]

How is his behaviour with the key. Does it EVER leave his side? Does he take it out with him EVERY time he goes out? What does he do with that key when he showers? Sleeps?

I am not suggesting he is having an affair but these questions are the same type of questions that are asked about strange mobile phone behaviour (that gives clues to an affair). For instance, I had a mate who thought it was odd her DHs phone never left his side but exactly HOW odd that was became apparent when she realised he even took it to the loo when going to the loo and into the bathroom when he showered. When looking closer she was horrified and shocked to see he slept with his mobile under his pillow.

Now hiding a key does not = affair but if your DH ensures that key never leaves his side even when showering and sleeping what it does confirm is that he definately has something to hide and not "just his personal space".

My suggestion would be to get the key when he is sleeping, get your self geared up with a good torch, turn of the electric (flip the switch on your fuse box) - checking first that when you do this nothing bleeps in the bedroom as it goes off. This will immobilise his camera. You can now get in and have a good look. What you wont be able to do with the electric off is look at his computer which could be the main host for any secrets.

Another thing is - Is there a spare key? He may only have 1 on him ALL the time but what would be do if he lost it. Usually new locks/padlocks come with 2 new keys. I suspect he has a spare somewhere I would be inclined to not just accept his key is on him at all times but there is infact a spare hidden somewhere else - although it my not be in the home. Places I would search would be pockets of clothes in wardrobes, bedside drawer, his car etc etc.

Some would say its wrong to snoop and it probably is BUT he secretiveness is an invite to snoop and want to know more.

[apostropheuse]

I have to say that chipboarding is a pretty normal way to line walls!

It's what all my internal walls are constructed of - and many houses have this.

However, as I said earlier in the thread, I'm inclined to think (possibly illegal and immoral) porn or some kind of drugs.

[auroramusisamica]

Ok didn't want to say what he did as a job but you guys are scaring me so he is a musician. There does have to be a certain level of sound proofing for mixing. I am not going to be on any documentaries.

[lisad123]

If we find out that in fact all he is doing is breeding mini pigs or a secret knicker thief can this please go in classics

[auroramusisamica]

I am even more convinced that it is a boring affair or porn addiction now (never thought I would be pleased with those options)

[lisad123]

Oh that's easy he is making naff porn music

[RibenaFiend]

He's working for MI5. The camera is a heat activated motion sensor which alerts an army of garden gnomes who are concealed in your shrubbery. The gnomes will overpower you and imprison you in a large plant pot until morning.

Send in the squirrel and when the gnomes are occupied then blast in, ninja stylie!!! (I have got to get some sleep!)

I think it's easy to think bad bad things. In all the degrees of bad. It's probably just gay porn and a butt plug nothing illegal.

Locking you out is mental however. That is the bigger issue.

[apostropheuse]

Ignore my last post on account of me being a numpty.

My internal walls aren't chipboard - they're gyproc! Completely different thing.

[auroramusisamica]

You will think I am making this up now but he actually does keep teasing me about getting gnomes for the garden (I really hate the things!)

[waltermittymissus]

Nah his being a musician doesn't make any more sense of this.

Maybe he's making porn and is editing it in there!

[Terrywoganstrousers]

DP looked like this when I told him and said 'that's not just weird, that's POLICE weird!'
I am desperate to know what's in there now.

[somedayma]

does he keep the key with him when he's in the bathroom etc? where does it go when he's asleep?

[auroramusisamica]

To be honest I really don't care so much about what he is doing (unless it is scary illegal obviously) so much as he won't let me in. It just annoys me a lot that it is my house too and I have no access. I think I am going to bed now but thank you all so much. You have all given me a lot to think about and I will have to change the situation somehow. I will come back I promise if I do/find anything (unless it is breeding mini pigs as I'm not sure I want this in classics!!)

[WhereYouLeftIt]

It really doesn't matter what he is hiding. It is creepy and, yes, quite sinister that he feels entitled to lock you out of part of your home.