Locked out of DH's garage

[auroramusisamica]

Am silently fuming as DH has converted our garage into his 'studio' and refuses to give me a key. It has been about a year now and I didn't think much of it first, we agreed it was his place to work, is filled with his things and I had no desire to go in there.
However it has been dawning on me that I don't like being locked out of part of my house. There have been occasions when I wanted to access things (like blank DVDs or paint brushes) and couldn't get them.

I do go in there with him but I have asked for a key, several times over the last few months and he says I don't need one, it is just his stuff, he doesn't want me in there going through things etc.

If he had just given me one first I would have no interest but now it has become this big issue and his refusal is making me want to go through it (which is not like me, I know he has porn there & I don't mind, but he knows I know this so must be something else right?)

So AIBU to want a key, surely if he had nothing to hide he would just give me one?

Ugh, sounds horrid. I would be so angry at being kept out of part of my own home, though, I would have broken in ages ago!

DH says, he's either growing pot or has nasty porn. He says to take a crowbar to it, look around, fit your own lock and tell him he now has to ask you for permission to go inside.

Wow, your all getting me worked up now! I go through phases of it bothering me then I forget then reminded when I can't get something etc.

No confidential paperwork, no gas meters, no reason at all really to go in and often I don't want to that much.

I think I figured it was him having more porn than I thought (hopefully not illegal, that would not be good) or doing something on the computer eg web chats etc.

He doesn't lock the door when he is in there though, I can come and go as I please then.

How odd and downright weird, who does he think he is and why are you asking him for a key, tell him you want one and if he still buggers you about then get a nice locksmith in and get your own key which husband will have to ask you for.

I think if he was growing weed you'd smell it wouldn't you?

And she's allowed in when he's there. Yes, I said allowed. That's how ridiculous this is!

So he lets you in when he's in there. When you know he's in there. Does he have opportunity to go in when you're not around?

You don't need to ask him for a key of your own. It's a shed.

Who has their own keys for a shed? Never mind actually carrying them around with them

You don't put a shed key on your keyring with the car keys and the front door key. The shed key lives on a hook in the kitchen.

Oddest thread in a long time and that's saying something!

Oo this is creepy.

I wouldn't make any fuss. Then look when a friend's with you. You have to know surely?

I'd like to know whether the paperwork might be confidential. This is genuinely the only legitimate thing I can think of which might explain locking the room and refusing you a key. And if so you still deserve an explanation.

Right,well there is definitely evidence of some sort in there that he doesn't want you to see.Possibly dodgy porn,or possibly love letters from a mistress ,who knows?

You need to get in there.Break the lock and go snooping.Feck him if he gets annoyed.Show him this thread afterwards and tell him we made you do it.

Think it might be time to push a small squirrel through a gap in the door and then have to break the door down to investigate noise? (possibly a secret squirrel so he can also investigate?)

X-posts with OP. I'm really struggling with innocent explanations here...

I LOVE the idea that MN vipers are a defense to this They make me do it! Is he a wind up merchant normally? Could he be doing it because it annoys you?

What kind of lock is it?

How often does he go in there?

If its a padlock rather than an integral lock, I would be tempted to buy an identical padlock. When he's out, use bolt cutters or locksmith to break the padlock there and put your own identical (roughed up a bit if necessary) padlock on the garage. Make sure you have two keys, keeping one for yourself and either substitute the spare for his current (now useless) key or just don't. His old key won't work, he won't be able to get in for a while.

In the meantime, have a look round at your leisure. Though am worried about that camera....

I read your posts to dh who looked very creeped out.

Just thought of an alternative. If is a padlock, just fit your own padlock next to it and hide the keys. Though only you will know what his reaction is likely to be, and obviously this would be out and out war which might be in advisable.

I do like af's straightforward approach too though.

What does he do as a job?

Not trying to make you paranoid even though I am but how much building work was involved in the conversion from garage to studio? My thoughts are turning to a hidden cupboard under the floor/behind a false wall now. and I am resolutely trying not to think of Josef Fritzl.

Clearly I have been watching too much criminal minds, everyone is thinking love letters or porn, I'm thinking bodies and people

Sigh, I know it must be something, it isnt normal, but as it all looks innocent it must either be on the computer or well hidden.

The lock is an integral one. Wonder if the key in the soap trick works?

I am spurred on now to do more about it but will have to have a think exactly how to go about it. After a year I can't see him handing one over even if I demand it.

Me too lisad!!

Well is he asleep now? Where are his keys at this moment.

Me three lisad!

He didn't do that much to it, just some laminate over existing concrete (he didn't pour his own concrete!), chipboard lining to walks, bit of paint etc, its nice but no palace

All I have to say is Fritzl and Austrian basements

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