Locked out of DH's garage

[auroramusisamica]

Am silently fuming as DH has converted our garage into his 'studio' and refuses to give me a key. It has been about a year now and I didn't think much of it first, we agreed it was his place to work, is filled with his things and I had no desire to go in there.
However it has been dawning on me that I don't like being locked out of part of my house. There have been occasions when I wanted to access things (like blank DVDs or paint brushes) and couldn't get them.

I do go in there with him but I have asked for a key, several times over the last few months and he says I don't need one, it is just his stuff, he doesn't want me in there going through things etc.

If he had just given me one first I would have no interest but now it has become this big issue and his refusal is making me want to go through it (which is not like me, I know he has porn there & I don't mind, but he knows I know this so must be something else right?)

So AIBU to want a key, surely if he had nothing to hide he would just give me one?

[auroramusisamica]

Ok don't mean to drip feed, have never posted much of any interest before, don't really know how it works!

I am getting worried now after some of the replies! I really don't think it is anything terrible, he doesn't scare me or anything it is just annoying more than anything.

I did suggest that a lock be put on the spare room as my 'space' but he happily agreed and I don't have anything to actually hide so it seemed too much hassle just to prove a point. I think I was just looking for reassurance that I wasn't being crazy when I asked for a key yet again

[bedmonster]

Oh and just seen that he keeps porn in his shed? What? Is that normal practise then?

[BabylonPI]

But that's the whole point op, he does having something to hide obviously, otherwise you would have a key.

[HildaOgden]

He's definitely up to something.Stand your ground and get a key and come back and put us out of our misery

[BabylonPI]

Oh and my DH also has some porn, but he doesn't keep it in the garage, he keeps it hidden from the DCs on the highest possible shelf/back of a high cupboard.

[ImagineJL]

My guess is that his porn collection has extended to include some nasty and possibly illegal stuff.

There is absolutely no way I would allow someone to lock me out of part of a building that I half owned. I suspect it's not even legal to do that!

[GhoulWithADragonTattoo]

Does you DH's work involve him have highly confidential paperwork? That might need to be locked away from you and DH may think it's easier to lock the room than individual cupboards. That's an innocent explanation that comes to mind although I don't see why he wouldn't just explain that to you. It also explains why it's OK if he's with you.

[waltermittymissus]

Just googled it Babylon.

I shall be avoiding at all costs! I'll barely be able to sleep after this thread!

OP I would be inclined to think that if everyone here thinks it's creepy and weird, it probably is.

[SchroSawMummyRidingSantaClaus]

OP, go and tell him he looks stressed and run him a bath and put his clothes in the wash and nick the key and look while he is in the bath.

[cheekybaubles]

Don't you have any meters or anything that have to be read from the garage?

[BabylonPI]

waltermittymissus she's one of my favourite authors, she's brilliant and her books are very gripping right from the first page.

[PurpleGentian]

This is really, really odd.

Our garage is DH's private space, filled with his tools and half finished DIY projects. It's routinely locked when not in use, partly so DS can't get in and partly as a security thing against burglars. I have no reason or desire to go in there - but if I did, all I would have to do would be to go to our key cupboard and get the key out. That's normal behaviour.

And when you add in the stuff about the security camera? It really does sound like he's hiding something from you.

Does he lock himself in there, so you can't let yourself in when he's there? If he does, then you could argue that there needs to be a spare key in case he has an accident and is trapped.

[WhereYouLeftIt]

'Dh, I am uncomfortable with being locked out of a part of MY home. You have one week to remove the lock from that door. If it is still there in eight days I will take a sledgehammer to it, and leave the doorframe unable to accommodate a door never mind a locked door. See to it.'

Seriously creepy.

[elah11]

he is definitely hiding something ! if it was just an issue of private space then that's one thing but keeping the key round his neck and having a security camera goes way beyond that. I would be a bit worried tbh as to what he doesn't want u to see?

[quoteunquote]

what sort of lock is on the door?

[somedayma]

oh this is giving me the creeps. If you demand a key he has time to move whatever he's hiding. I'd be tempted to get a locksmith to open the door when he's at work or whatever. But then I'd also be worried about how he'd react to that. shiver

[Actuallylookingok]

Ran this passed my DH and he said that is seriously sinister. Don't like it at all.

[ChippingInLovesAutumn]

If I were you, next time he's due to be out for a good few hours I'd 'break in' - take someone with you who knows their way around computers and have a really good look everywhere, under the carpets too, hidden spaces etc. It is NOT normal.

If you don't find anything, when he kicks off, tell him that it's your house too and you will not be locked out of parts of it & you will have a key when he gets the locks/door replaced.

If you do find something... well - depends what it is doesn't it :(

I think though, if you don't find something suspicious in there, it's because you haven't found it, not because it doesn't exist.

[MrsTerryPratchett]

It is weird. Could just be embarrassing porn rather than illegal or offensive? A friend of mine found his roommate's stash of porn once and it was porn with older women. Suffice to say, he never lived it down. These people were all idiots BTW.

If he can't come up with a decent reason, I would get a key off him immediately. I used to work for SS and my paperwork had to be inaccessible to anyone else as well, even when I was allowed to take it off the premises, which was incredibly rare. That would be a decent reason. Not I don't want to.

[Felicitywascold]

Are you going to do anything OP?

[somedayma]

OP do you think he could be growing weed or something and selling it? Are there cupboards big enough for plants and lights etc? otherwise I'd guess extreme/illegal porn.

OTOH maybe he's just a stubborn fucker and is enjoying winding you up

[waltermittymissus]

I think though, if you don't find something suspicious in there, it's because you haven't found it, not because it doesn't exist.

This.

[VolumeOfACone]

Weird and wrong.