to be stressed and shocked at being possibly pregnant?

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I feel like I might be pregnant. I have 8 DCs (yes, eight!!!) I do keep a positive attitude and cope very well but I am kind of thinking 'oh my god 9 kids!!?' I feel overwhelmed!!! Its not that I would hate to have another child but I feel so shocked and strange about having 9 kids! Its only 1 more but it is so close to 10...

This post doesn't really make much sense I am just overwhelmed

BlahdyCold and Rhonda: I don't know her children's names. Do you not mind some assumptions then. Like, you can assume all kinds of things about posters but other people can't?

Brycie there are more than you on this thread, not everything I say is about you.

Oooh beg pardon. But if you object to people making assumptions you shouldn't make them yourselves about anyone. Not just me.

Someone specifically mentioned the children's names last night actually.

However yes it is one of my hates about this site that people read between the lines all the time. I suppose part of it is just human nature but it's quite pathetic the way people do tend to cling to their preconceptions at times even after the op will have corrected the facts.

The good still usually outweighs the bad though, and I've seen people get a lot of help, and even occasionally been able to help a little myself, which is nice.

Yep I'm technically a traveller but over the past year I've been seperating myself from a lot of aspects that come with being a traveller
Well I live in a house so I don't actually travel but I am one by blood, the programmes on the tv do portray travellers in 1 way which is true for a lot of travellers but not all and yep, there are people that would call me a whore for kicking my husband out or using contraception. I put my children in school and they will stay there until they've finished unlike a lot of others

There is a great side which I like but a lot of negetives too.. but remember not everything you see on tv is real and they only show 1 group of travellers, when we first watched gypsy weddings we were all like 'WHAT!!???' Using 15 year old girls to speak for a huge group of people makes no sense and I personally don't agree with the way a lot of travellers raise their children, I'm trying to get away from the bad side and there are actually quite a lot of traveller women who leave their husbands, in some of the womens refuges there's a high number of traveller women and children

There's even one (maybe more) specifically for travellers so its quite a big problem I would say

One reason I ask is that I wanted to mention that there are specific supports available to traveller women that might be able to help you in your current situation. If you are near london look up solace womens aid, they are very good and can give some advice.
Don't mind the posters above who assume being a traveller is a bad thing.

rhonda - I agree mainly the good outweighs the bad, sometimes it just seems like a couple of posters can change the whole tone of a thread, a couple of people get arsey and lots more follow.

OP - the programmes clearly aren't typical if your spelling is anything to go by, based on your typing ability I'd guess you weren't pulled out of school at a young age!

Tv programmes tend to focus on the most extreme aspects of anything, bella.

Do you normally have easy pregnancies?

Thanks but not near london

Ermahgerd education is pretty low especially in the older travellers but things are changing and in my opinion, it really makes no sense to take kids out of school in this day and age but plenty do

Rhonda they're usually easy, I really am lucky in that way!

Oh that's good! Fingers crossed this one goes smoothly. When will the baby be due? (are you a teeny bit excited?)

Congratulations!

Congratulations, bella!

I'm sure everything will work out for you.

Of course people read between the lines, half the time that's how you can offer help. And you're reading between the lines yourself with your assumption of what posters would think of differently named children.

Don't mind the posters above who assume being a traveller is a bad thing.

Who said that? I certainly didnt! I said that some people do have negative beliefs about travellers and frankly I thought that you were one of them, especially the way that you asked so bluntly after a thread full of benefit bashing.

And you're reading between the lines yourself with your assumption of what posters would think of differently named children.

Err no, thats just knowing MN!

Well some people make assumptions on other kinds of experience which aren't necessarily wrong. That's just life.

Well then you were wrong in your assumptions, weren't you bogey?

Thanks for the congrats

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I could be as frugal with our income as I like but I still couldnt afford 9 dcs without a huge amount of help from the welfare state. Good luck with the pregnancy should you decide to continue with it op but perhaps have a look into how the new universal benefit will effect your household income because I am sure it will...

Now now. We'll all be helping Bella out in our own way.

Mrs devere please feel free to check my other posts on other threads-I often end with... I do it when letter writing too-no idea why just a thing of mine. In no way passive aggressive as I think I have made my own point of view clear about the op's situation. I dont care if she has 9 or 99 children as long as she and or her dh can afford them....

Definitely continuing with it pink, what's done is done (my choice) most importantly my DCs and I won't be starving, will have a roof over our heads and will be loved and cared for
Also you need to remember I've already got the items needed for a baby (and when the baby gets older)

Congratulations.

I grew up in a big family once there was 8 kids and my parents. My parents never relied on benefits but there wasn't much money.

I loved growing up with my siblings, there was always someone to play with and always such joy and laughter.

Wishing you all the best in your pregnacy